Depression Support Thread

Horace

Shaz, sorry to hear that you feel that way. Grab a fleecy blanket, wrap it around yourself and sit in front of the computer with a large hot choc and chat to us. ((((((Hugs))))))).

I am wondering if there is a way of getting a free sim card from 02 - dunno if they would send one if you said that you were getting strange calls. I will have a look on the freebie forum to see if there are any free 02 offers.

Dont let the ratbag drive you down - he is the one with the problem not you. Show him what you are worth you are coping without him - it is obvious to me that he can't cope on his own which is why he is pestering. You could always report him to the police for harassment.

Do you have any old rugs? I know its a strange question but you will see what I am getting at in a minute. If you have an old rug, sling it over the washing line or even in the house (although that means more cleaning) and beat the hell out of it with a rolling pin or something similar - at every whack envisage the ex-s face there and soon you'll feel fine - the more you hit, the better you will feel and the cleaner your rugs will become. It works, I tried it when I was getting hassle from my boss - I just imagined his little weedy face staring out at me from my rug whilst I bashed at it with a multitude of things from rolling pins to frying pans - boy was it therapeutic.:rotfl:

Hope this helps.
Horace x

shazrobo

thanks guys. feel such a failure.
sat in dark with my phones turned off scared of them ringing, scared of him turning up. son that lives with me all time soo sonfused and upset to see his mummy so down again, other son at resedential school, hope he dont miss me tonight, cos if he tries ringing and cant get hold of me, he'll be worried and upset too.
my ex already back on a dating site, as he said he has done without s*x for over six weeks now, the longest he's ever gone in his adult live. feel so used, so unloved unwanted,

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Bunnie, I've sent you a pm.

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Shazorob.. you need to get yourself a new mobile number and only give it to trustworthy people. Don't cut yourself off by switching your phone off, it's your lifeline and you deserve to be able to contact people and they need to contact you too.

Don't be alone either. Get in touch with whom ever and either go to their house or get them to come to yours. Things are worse when your sat alone thinking to yourself, other people can be a good distraction (even in the short term), it does help get you over for a while. Try to think of now and not what's happening in a few hours.

please feel free to pm if you need to.

juno

Shaz, I have an O2 sim you can have. I have to go to work now, so I won't be back til later/tomorrow, but PM me if you want it:)

Horace

Shaz if the weasel comes aknocking ring the cops - report him for harassment anyway.

I know its hard just try and ignore him - as for going without sex that's an obvious lie because I am sure he has hands (sorry for being crude).

See if you can get someone to look after your son and go out with some girlie mates even if it is just down to bingo or somewhere like that but make sure that its a place where he isnt likely to be and try and have some fun.

((((((Hugs))))))

the_devil_made_me_do_it

I second that, I have loadsa O2 sims that your welcome to.

dawnylou

queensway_boy wrote: »

still got man flu,had the paramedics out


http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=rXLHWmjA5IE


:rotfl:

I liked that QWB - I even managed a little giggle!!!

shazrobo wrote: »

bmf, just read your post and you said it was gonna rain, and i looked out of window and its just started raining, you can do a better job than them weather people on tv.
qwb hope your flu gets better soon, liked the youtube link
get well soon tiff, miss you
dawnylou how are you today hun?
rbk, enjoyed my guitar lesson yesterday, was good fun, bought a book on guitar chords today, to help me practise at home, not that i feel like it at mo.

my ex has been back in touch i changed my numbers, but not sons mobile, and as i've run out of credit decided to get sons out of cupboard, he hardly uses it, and when i turned it on there were loads messages from my ex. deleted them, but then he rang me on sons number coincidence, as the phone has been turned off for few days.
anyway he managed to make me feel like sh*t again, putting me down making things up about me, so hurt emotionally, that while i was listening to him on phone i cut my arm with kitchen knife. sounds daft but it didnt seem real like i was dreaming it til i finally managed to hang up on him. why didnt i hang up sooner, why cause myself more hurt. god i feel so bl**dy stupid and ashamed of myself.
sorry but i had to write it down, helps to get it out of me iyswim
big hugs to everyone
shaz x

Wish I had seen that post before...I got wet!
Was feeling very tired and so I decided to go up his mams with dogs.
But feeling worse now. Tired and weepy. Both dogs weed on the carpet while we were there!! And I couldn't control myself I was trying so hard not to cry I couldn't even talk. How pathetic is that please?

I hope your arm is ok Shaz?? Your ex must had had reports set up on his phone so it lets him know when the messages are delivered.

Bunnie1982 wrote: »

I wish I could bring my doctors appointment forward but they are really busy, I'm not coping well at the moment and don't know how I am going to make it through to Friday.

I have been crying all day, feeling really low, cut again and have now found husbands secret stash of lager that I am slowly drinking.

Aw bunnie, I hope you are feeling a bt better now.
I know how you feel - crying all the time and feeling really down. It's not nice at all and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.
Sometimes though I wish I had some sort of outlet. I understand why some people sh, but I don't do it. But I guess some sort of relief is needed at timeslike this.

Our alcohol is not at all hidden away! It is just there...right there....and it is oh so easy to just have one in the evening to try and unwind but it's never just one!
I started new medication today which advises to avoid alcohol.... so now I really have no way of winding down at all really.

learning_to_drive wrote: »

Hi all, hope you are well, how is everyone these days?

How long do you have? And how patient are you?? lol

I hope you are well though x

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are ok,:hello: Bunnie,sorry I didnt welcome to the thread

Welcome everyone is so friendly on here and I have been here quite a long time now I had to use the Samaritans once and I found them to be helpful but I know if I have any crisis again then I know to phone them up and have a chat I even e-mailed to thank them and they were grateful that their advice helped me at the time

I had a good day,appointment with the Physcologist went well,then I went on a bus ride to another town and treated myself to yet two more nintendo games on a buy 1 get one free so brought Cooking Mama and Pippa Funnell Farm Adventure so I am very delighted,I had to phone home to check I had enough money and I had so I was well happy and the Bourne Dvd boxset I won back last September came today too after I complained to the Asa who contacted volkswagen on my behalf to send it to me and volkswagen sent me a covering letter with it apologising that I didnt have the first copy and that the first copy might have got lost when we had that bad postal strike last year

love and light,

Katie xxx

I am so jealous!! I don't think i will ever see the day I could possibly utter those words!
I have my appointment at 7pm - I have done nothing but dread it all day. I already feel like crap and I know within seconds he will have me crying, my head will be stotting and I will feel drained.

Cooking Mama is really quite addictive isn't it?

Glad you got your DVD. Have you seen it yet?? It's good.

feelinggood_2

Just wanted to offer you a hug Dawnylou. I find it really hard to hear you being down, you are such a lovely person and I wish I could find some peice of advice that I could offer you that would give you a little bit of hope. I remember how hopeless I felt not so long ago - I was convinced that everyone else was going to get better and I was just going to keep spiralling down and down and down. I wish there was a way that I could explain that although things feel so awful right now, it will get better. Sadly we have to go through a lot of pain to get better. I'm not seeing any professionals now, but I do see my sponsor regularly. We have to work through a lot of the rubbish in my head. I also have to look at myself as I am, and a lot of the time its really, really upsetting. Got to be done though, and it will make me better. When I was in your situation, I just kept plodding along. I did my best to get out of bed, wash, dress and get outside every day. I also made a big effort to control my eating and drinking. I also set small goals - vacuum, wash up, go the dentist etc. By focusing on these small things every day, it helped the time to pass.

Another thing that helps is this reading we have in AA called 'Just for today'

• Just for Today I will try to live through this day only and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that appals me for I do not have to keep it up for a lifetime.
• Just for Today I will be happy. Most folks are as happy as they make up their mind to be.
• Just for Today I will adjust myself to what is and not adjust everything to my own ideas. I will take my ‘luck’ as it comes and fit myself to it.
• Just for Today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something which requires effort, thought and concentration.
• Just for Today I will exercise my soul in three ways. I will do somebody a good turn without letting them know of it. If they find out it will not count. I will do at least two things I do not want to do just for exercise. I will not show my feelings are hurt. They may be hurt but I will not show it.
• Just for Today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act courteously, criticise not one bit, not find fault with anyone and not try to regulate or improve anyone except myself.
• Just for Today I will have a programme. I may not keep to it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from those two pests - hurry and indecision.
• Just for Today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. During this time, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
• Just for Today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

shazrobo

ended up phoning my dad, who came and sat with me for an hour til i calmed down a bit. hate upsetting my parents and putting them to any trouble.
just do not understand how somebody can say they love me, then treat me that way, guess i'll never know.
my arms are ok dawnylou, just scratches really i dont cut too deep. sorry your feeling down today, hope the new meds work soon.
thanks for offers of sim cards guys i would love one please. mine had an offer on it whereby every month i top up, i got 300 free texts, dont know if they still do them? i would gladly send a cheque to cover costs
thanks
big hugs
shaz x