Depression Support Thread

shazrobo

antronella wrote: »

Horace, Thank you. Hope you enjoy this evening! ..and good luck with the job on monday . I'm still in shock about the pressies!

Shaz, hope you find the book helpful..I borrowed it from a friend..and she's now going through another breakup and has been round to get it back!

sorry to hear bout your friend. it is an incredibly helpful book, for ages i thought i was going mad, and was so suicidal and put that down to how he treated me, in the book it almost says word for word what the abusive partner says and its so true, cant wait to read the rest, thankyou so much for recommending it to me, and for all your helpful advice and support, i'm well shut of him
hugs
shaz x

dawnylou

Sorry to just burst in - but can I ask does anyone really feel that counselling helps them?
Does anyone find it ridiclous playing all of those silly games?
Does anyone feel as if they are just trying to pinpoint the blame for turning out like this upon someone?
Does anyone ever feel their mind wandering so much when asked questions tha they don't know what they were asked to begin with??
Does anyone ever feel they could kill their counsellor?
I am getting very irritated.
But surely it's a good thing to be thinking of killing someone other than myself?
Hmm reading that probably not.

Oh what a mess!

shazrobo

dawnylou wrote: »

Sorry to just burst in - but can I ask does anyone really feel that counselling helps them?
Does anyone find it ridiclous playing all of those silly games?
Does anyone feel as if they are just trying to pinpoint the blame for turning out like this upon someone?
Does anyone ever feel their mind wandering so much when asked questions tha they don't know what they were asked to begin with??
Does anyone ever feel they could kill their counsellor?
I am getting very irritated.
But surely it's a good thing to be thinking of killing someone other than myself?
Hmm reading that probably not.

Oh what a mess!

dawnylou,(((((big hugs)))))
sorry that your feeling so frustrated with your counsillor, could you maybe ask to see somebody different, i heard that different ones have different ways of working. i get a lot out of seeing mine, i do find it hard sometimes, but she is very helpful and supportive of me.
shaz x

antronella

shazrobo wrote: »

sorry to hear bout your friend. it is an incredibly helpful book, for ages i thought i was going mad, and was so suicidal and put that down to how he treated me, in the book it almost says word for word what the abusive partner says and its so true, cant wait to read the rest, thankyou so much for recommending it to me, and for all your helpful advice and support, i'm well shut of him
hugs
shaz x

You are very welcome! If that book had been mine, i would have used a highlighter pen to make bits that hit home really stand out, so you can find them again when you need them in a hurry.

I am just so glad you realise you're worth more than the way you were treated and the way he made you feel..so well done :T

DawnyLou, think Shaz is right, not every counsellor will be right for everybody..sounds like you haven't really connected..and if you've given it a bit of time and that still hasn't happened then i think you should ask about seeing someone else x

Sazbo

dawnylou wrote: »

Sorry to just burst in - but can I ask does anyone really feel that counselling helps them?
Does anyone find it ridiclous playing all of those silly games?
Does anyone feel as if they are just trying to pinpoint the blame for turning out like this upon someone?
Does anyone ever feel their mind wandering so much when asked questions tha they don't know what they were asked to begin with??
Does anyone ever feel they could kill their counsellor?
I am getting very irritated.
But surely it's a good thing to be thinking of killing someone other than myself?
Hmm reading that probably not.

Oh what a mess!

Hi Dawny, counselling has helped me a great deal. But for what it's worth I think it is tough and rewarding in equal measure... and maybe it needs to be that way? I don't know... Whatever difficulties lead us to counselling, they didn't appear overnight and won't disappear overnight either. It is a long, hard road, and I for one can vouch for that hun. It requires openess and honesty... painful honesty at times - and trust between you and counsellor. That's just my opinion hun. But as Shaz and Antronella have said, this will only work if you feel you can connect, and trust, your counsellor. Counsellors vary just as much as ordinary people - know what i mean? Some you connect with, some you don't... if they aren't right for you hun, see someone else x

Much love,
Sazzy xxxx

antronella

BMF..glad you're having good days! not sure about the veggies, but there may be something in it cos I know if I have a day eating rubbish..I feel pretty sluggish and generally low. We should all get on a healthy eating kick. I will try, just as soon as I work my way through all these xmas boxes of chocs x

antronella

...just remembered, about 5 months ago I paid to see a counsellor..specialising in relationship counselling. It was an awful experience..she said nothing..just sat there and waited for me to speak. She didn't direct me in any way and I couldn't speak..needed direction and it just didn't happen.(she apparently was a trainee counsellor) I couldn't wait to get out of there...feel certain that if it had been someone different, the experience could have been beneficial to me. Needless to say, I didn't go back, but I wouldn't rule out counselling in the future.

Sazbo

antronella wrote: »

...just remembered, about 5 months ago I paid to see a counsellor..specialising in relationship counselling. It was an awful experience..she said nothing..just sat there and waited for me to speak. She didn't direct me in any way and I couldn't speak..needed direction and it just didn't happen.(she apparently was a trainee counsellor) I couldn't wait to get out of there...feel certain that if it had been someone different, the experience could have been beneficial to me. Needless to say, I didn't go back, but I wouldn't rule out counselling in the future.

Hi Antronella, it sounds like she was maybe trained in the 'classical' way - where they don't interject, don't direct you in anyway. I had my counselling assessment with someone like that, and i found it very difficult, especially given that it was my very first experience of counselling, and i was in a bad way. Thankfully, the person assigned to me as my regular counsellor is not like that. He is great... I call him the most patient person on the planet!:o A lot does depend on whether you 'gel' with each other...

Sazzy xxx

feelinggood_2

Sazbo wrote: »

Hi Antronella, it sounds like she was maybe trained in the 'classical' way - where they don't interject, don't direct you in anyway. I had my counselling assessment with someone like that, and i found it very difficult, especially given that it was my very first experience of counselling. Thankfully, the person assigned to me as my regular counsellor is not like that. He is great... I call him the most patient person on the planet!:o A lot does depend on whether you 'gel' with each other...

Sazzy xxx

The first counsellor I saw gave no guidance and asked no questions. She asked me to just talk, so I sat there for the whole hour in silence. I had absolutely no idea what to say, so just said nothing. It was really uncomfortable, and put me off seeking help for a long time. I can understand give people 'time' to say what they need to, but I'd have thought she'd have sensed something was wrong after that length of silence!

dawnylou

Shawz wrote: »

Happy New Year all, hope 2008 is better than 2007!

Me too Shawz! I don't feel it will be for me, but I most certainly hope it will be for you!

tomstickland wrote: »

Cheer up you miserable !!!!!!s!*

*deeply ironic joke.

gillette147 wrote: »

Just got in.
Had a reasonable nite. The "disco" was some sort of sad weddig reception affair. I was a youngster LOL.
I did a bit of salsa on the dance floor and got two comments from wimmin of how wonderfully I dance.
Gave me a bit of an ego boost. It's nice to start the night thought of as a fat lump and end up the lord of the dance.

Love to you all.
It's a newborn year, let's look after this one.
xxx

Glad you had a good time I did salsa classes for a while. I felt a bit like an elephant trampling around while all of these people moved so beautifully around me!!! Hope your ego boost lasts and gives you a confident start to 2008 - and that you start the way you mean to go on!! x

poppycracker wrote: »

Happy 2008 all!

And the same to you too!

antronella wrote: »

Happy New Year everyone, hope this is a better year for us all xx

Thank you - I hope you have a good year too! Sorry to hear you didn't have such a good New Years Eve but hopefully things will be looking up for you soon!

BigMummaF wrote: »

I wish you and yours a Healthy, Happier & Peaceful 2008. BMFx

Hope this year brings you everything you could posibly want and more BMF!

fallen_angel_shelley wrote: »

Happy new year, everyone. :beer:

I hope everyone had a good time list night? xxx

Happy new year to you too! I actally quite enjoyed myself!!! Wonders will never cease! lol

HORACE - THIS ONE'S FOR YOU......

And I hope now that NYE is out of the way for you, you can start to enjoy your life a little more x

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Hello all. Happy new year! I'd like to thank everyone on this thread who has supported me over the past year. It really means so much to know that people I've never met before actually care.

THANK YOU

Aw what a lovely pic! I hope that this year is the beginning of the rest of your life! Wish I could have offered you more support when it was needed too.

Sazbo wrote: »

Hello my lovlies :hello:

Kinda need to keep this short, but wishing you all a 2008 filled with everything your hearts desire.

This is the year I need to pick up the fragments of my self-esteem and start trying to put them back together. Don't ask me how, right now I've no idea.

Much love to all of you,

Sazzy xxxxxxxxxx

Hi - same to you! I won't ask any qestions so soon - however once you have worked it out send me instructions so I can sort myself out too! Even better I'll send you my addy - you can come and stay with me and fix me too!!

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,


Happy New Year to you all


I went to my parents last night to let the New Year in,I will see my friends some other time BMF but they were thinking of me which was nice of them I got too overtired to go there in the evening so just decided to go to my parents instead

We watched the tv for a bit,then played give us a clue until I got bored :rotfl: then I was on my Nintendo dslite up until midnight then let in the New Year,had some nibbles and went to bed.

Today I was so tired I woke at 9am because the phone rang and I had some breakfast and a coffee then went back to bed and didnt wake up until half an hour before lunch,I had lunch then had a coffee and two shortbreads which were nice and then went back home to my flat I was going to go for a walk but I didnt feel like going as I was still feeling overtired again so went to sleep for a couple of hours and that did me the world of good,My brother rang but I didnt speak to him because I had only just woke up again and now I am up for the rest of the day,I am watching Holby City tonight so that will be good

Have a lovely evening everyone Horace I am so glad that you rang the Samaritans they are brillient as they helped me once when I needed them

glad those of you that went out last night had a great time


love and light,

Katie xxx

Happy New Year to you too! (Sorry it's so late!)
I love playing games too! We all played Millionaire and then Scrabble!

shazrobo wrote: »

first day of new year, and i'm already sat here crying. hope rest of year not going to be like this :mad:

Aw huni - I know how you feel. I was so hoping that come the new year would be the new me and everything could be fixed. Unfortunately there is no such thing as magic... I REALLY, REALLY hope that things get better for you very soon!

EthelBloggs wrote: »

I dunno why? am just sat here feeling miserable and sorry for myself. I don't think watching eastenders helped my mood really tho. Both kids have gone back to hospital today and the house is awful quiet, OH is having an early night cos it's his first day back to work tomorrow and they've put him on a 12 hour shift because they're so short staffed (10 person dept with 4 staff members!)

Hope you are feeling a bit better now, and that your children are well.
That is one perfectly good reason to never watch soaps. They are always filled with so much doom and gloom! I barely even put on my TV these days and refuse point blank to watch or read news.

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Hi all first of all HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I hope all of you are fine and dandy and enjoying the new year already. I was in a bit of a pickle of where to spend last night (with my family who hate my bf) or with my bf at his with a take away and a bottle of wine, in the end i told my mum and step dad that i wasnt chosing between them and they've had me for the last few years and i want a change of plan that i was going to my bf's for the night, they wasnt happy but went along with it. I had a dead good night with him and went shopping today too i came home did my work he picked me up and took me to his aunts because she was having a party and i've just got back in now

Hi to everyone who's new here im not ignoring you or anything i hope we can all help you feel better this year, chin up

Stephb xxx

Happy new year to you too! Well done for standing up for yourself and making a decision as to what you would prefer! Glad you had a good one too!!