Depression Support Thread

antronella

shazrobo wrote: »

glad xmas and boxing day is finally over. apart from watching my two sons faces light up yesterday when they realised santa had been and watching them rip open their presents, i've been totally bored and alone, even rang samaritans yesterday cos i felt so bad. just putting on a brave face for sake of the kids. my ex rang me today to see how i am, says he missing me and still loves me. how do you know if someone truly loves you? how do u know if you truly love them, or are missing them cos your lonely?

Shaz, this is a quote from a book I've been reading "true lovers are so committed to each other that they will rise to any challenge and overcome any obstacle to make sure each other is safe and happy and that they can be together". This can not be done by one person.. a relationship takes 2. If it is one sided, the relationship can't work. I found this out myself in my own marriage.

I think true love is more about actions than a feeling. You are bound to miss him, you are grieving for the good parts of the relationship..and you have to go through the grief to come out the other side. Because you feel like this, it doesn't mean the relationship shouldn't have ended. Try to accept what you're feeling as normal...it will get better x

antronella

:eek: ...just realised the time:eek: ...nite nite! x

Tiff_2

reehsetin!
Come on in - you're most welcome hun. Lots of friendly people with great experience and suggestions await you.

In answer to your question, there can be many different symptoms of depression and even different kinds of depression, so what one person experiences, someone else may not. That's another reason why we can't discuss medications, because each of us is different and can be affected in a differeny way to someone else. Mental ill health is a very individual thing and I'd hate to guide you wrongly.

I don't know if this is about you or someone else angel, but have you spoken to your dr? That's always the best route to follow. Paranoia may be a symptom of a number of things and your dr knows you the best. Always ask a professional for their diagnosis of what's going on, hunnie. A word of caution here sweetie, don't be tempted by the promise of immediate online diagnoses - there are so many different versions and it's always best for you to go by the professional standard tests that your gp uses.
I hope this was of some help, ree. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

jen.eng wrote: »

Hi everyone

I've not posted in this part of the forum before, hadn't realised it was here but was seaching for 'depression support' on google and arrived back at good ole MSE. When will I learn to look here first?:o (Searched for advice on cooking lamb yesterday and ended up on MSE:p )

Anyway, I thought I'd post. I'm usually found lurking in the comps forum but occasionally venture to other parts of MSE.

Life's really hard right now. Depression's haunted me for the past 4 years (and more when I look back over my life). I emailed Samaritans earlier today, I'm trying to keep safe.
So, I don't want to bore you all with a long post so I won't go on. Hope you are all ok.
Luv Jen x

jen.eng!
Come on in hun - the water's lovely! You're most welcome jen - there are so many guardian angels here with kind hearts and varied experiences.
And then there's me. Sorry hun - you got the short straw.

Most people find our little corner of the forums by accident, angel. We're the best kept secret here. Yet you'd be amazed at how many lurkers/readers we have who don't post. Yep hun, MSE seems to cover so many - if not all - parts of our lives. Well done on all those comp wins jen.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time with your depression, hunnie. It's very common to think that there was just one thing that 'caused' our depression but then when we look back, we can see a whole host of warning signs.
I don't know your situation jen, but do you get any kind of support for your depression? Do you see a dr regularly? If not and things are so hard for you right now, don't be afraid to book in with your dr for an updat.
If you want to talk about things that are hard for you right now, feel free to share what you feel comfortable sharing, hunnie. Your post was not long and boring sweetie - you should see some of the sagas I've posted here! You can post as little or as much about yourself as you want to - we don't judge people here, jen.

If it's of any help, I'd like to say that you've got the right attitude about keeping yourself safe before anything else. That's the most important thing you can do. It's hard for a lot of people atm with drs and cpns etc. on holiday breaks. But as I said in another post, we're always open here.
And well done you for getting in touch with the Samaritans! That was a brave and smart thing to do and it shows you're a real survivor.
I hope things are better for you today hun. Be kind to yourself and try and take things slowly, ok? Take care.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

EverDecreasingCircles

Many thanks for your welcoming replies, it's much appreciated.

I have support by way of psych, but don't see him again until 9th Jan. Also have a counsellor atm but don't see her again until 10th. But the thought of seeing in another new year is just too much.

I have 2 sons. The eldest has mh probs in that he's either totally hyper, driving us all crazy, can't sit still, pulls us around and wrestles his dad, throws his gf around like a doll... or he's snappy and angry.
My other son was diagnosed with depression 3 months ago and is seeing someone at CAMHS. He's only 15. It's so hard seeing him go through this and knowing what it feels like. It's all so suffocating too.

I enter thousands of comps every month and spend hours doing them. If I didn't though, I'd have time to 'think' and that's not good. When I get time to think it all overwhelms me and I end up doing things to myself that I really shouldn't.

I should say, I have a wonderful Hubby who I love very much. But he can't take all this away.

Stephb1986, sorry you're feeling so yukky. Hope you feel tons better soon, look after yourself.

Take care everyone.

Jen x

shazrobo

antronella wrote: »

Shaz, this is a quote from a book I've been reading "true lovers are so committed to each other that they will rise to any challenge and overcome any obstacle to make sure each other is safe and happy and that they can be together". This can not be done by one person.. a relationship takes 2. If it is one sided, the relationship can't work. I found this out myself in my own marriage.

I think true love is more about actions than a feeling. You are bound to miss him, you are grieving for the good parts of the relationship..and you have to go through the grief to come out the other side. Because you feel like this, it doesn't mean the relationship shouldn't have ended. Try to accept what you're feeling as normal...it will get better x

thanks antronella, feeling so emotional right now, i'm crying again, it really does help that i'm not alone and others have been through the same situation.
it was a pretty one sided relationship i was the one trying so hard to make it work, i used actions to show my love gave him my time, my everything, he gave me words.
now to get on with the grieving i gues
big hugs shaz x

Tulip

:hello: everyone,

Hope all is well,I am fine I am off to my parents today for lunch again then tomorrow I am in my own flat,my brother is going back to London today so want to see him before he goes off

Shaz *hugs* I know you so want to change your ex but I am sorry to say this you cant,they have to want to change for the better themselves also life isnt a bed of roses,dont let him rule your life,Shaz I dont want to upset you ok and if I have,I am sorry .I wanted to change someone I had met over the internet who I met in real life but I couldnt and I had to let them go for good in the end and since then I have never been happier.Anyway I must go and do some ironing or it will never get done

Also Shaz just think of the happy times you had with him,they are the most precious,also I believe that time is a great healer and in time you will get over him I promise


Have a lovely day


love and light,

Katie xxx

dawnylou

Glad everyone survived Crimbo.

Fiance said he would take me shopping today and I was so excited but don't feel well.
I still feel drained from yesterdays counselling appointment, I find it such hard work.
I am also starting to get irritated because in some ways I feel he blames my parents.
Also he keeps going on about not having as much attention as I needed when I was younger, that's not the case at all. My parents gave me the attention I needed - but outside of the family home attention tended to be a bad thing so I now withdraw from attention.
He came to this conclusion because of me not telling my parents things I maybe should have when growing up - but as I pointed out to him they were ill with stress from my older brother and so the reason behind this was to protect them.
I feel he must think I am just a brat having a tantrum because I wasn't hugged as a child. Honestly. If only it were really that simple.

I had a nice Christmas. I am surprised as I didn't even think I would make it to Christmas not that long ago and even seeing peoples decorations made me feel sad.

Was in bed by half ten though - guess it was a long day considering I don't usually leave the house or anything. lol

Got some lovely prezzies - thankfully some books as I needed some reading material! And am pleased that almost every present was something useful - clothes, toiletries etc. No gadgets or gimmicks to gather dust.

Everyone seemed to love their prezzies too which was good!! And I made a box of chocolates which went down a treat!!
So chuffed with that. Have been up and made a big heart shaped bar of choccie for SIL (to be) and her BF who will be celebrating their birthdays tomorrow!
Have added cherry liquer and coconut to the chocolate and decorated the top with cherries. Will try to ice their names on it too. Sooooooooo hope it works!

Went out yesterday to coffee morning and everyone kept commenting on how well I looked and how much better I seemed. I felt good too.
Until I went to my appointment!
I went in all smiles and I was all 'Oh I think I can talk today, I'm good, I don't feel like crying blah, blah, blah'
5 minutes later I'm blubbing like a baby, dripping snot everywhere and my head hurts.
Is this really going to help?

Also not sure if I mentioned earlier - my meds were halved as I am being weaned off them - for the last week I seem to be having sleeping problems again....so although the ADs were not helping me with my real problem could it be that they were helping me to sleep??

Anyway the New Year will be here soon - hopefully I can just make a fresh start.
Hopefully.

Tiff

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!

BigMummaF

Hello Peeps & Welcome to the Newbies....draw up a chair & settle yourselves in, & pitch in when you're ready OK?

So it seems that Santa brought most of us the dreaded lurgy among other things:o Spose it's to be expected that when we don't feel at our best, the little bug gers will find an open window to slither thru:eek:

I've been a bit wibbly :undecidedeven tho I've been taking my meds....but I've been a bit frugal with the liquids so perhaps I'm a little dehydrated. Have noticed lately too, that I get wibbly if I bend down to get something from a shelf etc...bit scary when I have to drive home :shocked: Other than that I'm fine for the shape I'm in:p

The offspring are fighting over their new 'toy' so the telly is off limits til they get fed up with it:rolleyes: I might go upstairs & do some of my puzzle book or read for a little...

Hope you are keeping safe & warm, & as always I wish you Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

EverDecreasingCircles

Hi Dawnylou *waves*

Counselling sucks sometimes. It takes you to the places that hurt the most, but it does help in the long run. You have to work through the bad stuff to get to the good places. Stick at it honey, it'll be worth all the tears and tissues.

Jen x