Depression Support Thread

feelinggood_2

Sending some postive vibes to Fantastico, thinking of you.

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
How are we all? Been thinking of you. Just wanted to share this with you guys...

WHOA THERE PEEPS - !!!

It seems that everyone else is bouncing around with holiday joy and perfect families, the TV is showing the funniest, most starry shows and shops bring all that 'buy-me-and-I'll-make-you-happy' feeling into 'in-your-face'3D reality.

But trust me here peeps, all is not as it seems.
People still have their problems behind those bedecked front doors, they're just hidden behind all the tinsel and glitter. So many people will feel even worse come January 3rd, when those early December paydays finally take their toll and we're left scratching around trying to make ends meet until the end of January. And then, of course, come all those credit card/loan demands to keep you warm throughout all of 2008...and 9...and 10!
If we would only remember just how much we've already got and how little it takes to make our Christmas a happy one. We don't have to rob the bank as it were. We're supplying our own demand - and then demanding our own supply. I've been as guilty of that as anyone - I always try to provide that perfect Christmas. And I wonder what our children learn - are they primed for debt? It's hardly surprising that prices and demands go up every year.

But this year is different. This year I've become really disabled and my health's declined. (No violins please! )
The money's just not there this year, (nor ever, in reality), for a lavish Christmas. I always fell for the appearance of doorstep loan companies and that one day, would cost me a whole year. And have any of you tried to borrow money as a disabled person?! I've been worrying and fretting about it all and it was making me ill.
Suddenly, I just gave up - even Tiff can't make something from nothing! I don't know why - maybe it was just a reality check. I decided that I had to be kind to myself too. I'll be giving gifts just to my DS and my mum and lots of love to everyone else. That's all I can manage and there's nothing wrong with that! No guilt trips or debts for me this year & maybe that's the best gift I could get - peace of mind! I'll have maybe saved some money to buy gifts in the sales, for Mum's 70th in January & DS's 18th in February. See guys, there's always more dates to buy for. Maybe it's time to tell ''Oliver'' that he's got enough and that there is no 'more'!
I guess I'm not the only one as I saw an advert for a show on Channel 4 on 10th December. I think it's 'Dispatches - The Christmas Credit Crisis'. - oops, really sorry - should I have mentioned that? Please delete it, if not.
I'm guaranteed a Happy New Year because I don't have to worry about answering the door or the phone. And you'd better believe that I'm going to have a good old-fashioned, game-playing, telly-watching and turkey-eating Christmas!
Sincere apologies for this lengthy post guys - I don't know where all this came from. I just wanted to say, I'm poor - but I'm proud!

Now the Tiffster is no grinch guys, but this year I'm trying to be as :money: as I can, as I've said.
So my Christmas gift to you all is posted below and sent with my sincere best wishes for a happy-ever-after Christmas and much love, good health and happiness for 2008.
Boy - did I just save some money on cards and stamps!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

'Tiff's MSE CHRISTMAS TALE.'

'Twas three weeks before Christmas and throughout all the sites,
People were maniacally shopping, buying with mad delight.

Gifts posed and beckoned to all, just pleading to be wrapped,
As all the sugar-filled children pointed at them and clapped.

Frantic shoppers raided stores, with much happy money to spend,
Buying gifts for their cats - (ahem!) - and, of course, for their friends.

How rich they felt because they had been paid, waaay ahead of time,
And surely spending your own money, wasn't yet a crime?

Children's lists were emptied as parents granted their dreams,
And they left laden down with bags, that were heaving at the seams.

Again and again, the greedy shoppers returned, to the shining stores,
Where the shelves were hastily refilled with brand new gifts galore!

Mothers bought for their offspring, who knew of all the pricey toys,
As confused husbands lurked among the lingerie, looking like guilty boys.

The college students descended then, into the manic shopping haze,
But they were no match for the OAPs , whose trolleys bumped and grazed.

Ladies' purses got lighter and men found their wallets were emptied,
And just because they all gave in, to everything that had tempted.

Yet still no-one was worried, because they had a special best friend,
Who was made out of flexible plastic and happily willing to lend.

Smiling callers, , stood at doors, offering 'easy' cash loans,
Repaid weekly at rates, that chewed income down to the bone.

Yet that simply didn't matter now - it was Christmas after all!:xmassmile
But the payback would be horrendous, and the benefits were small.

Shoppers followed each other like lemmings, , bent on financial destruction,
Completely unable to resist the lures, of this annual money seduction.

Feverishly, they imagined the joy, when all the gifts were unwrapped ~
They couldn't see that they'd fallen into the Yuletide Spending Trap!

'Bargains are bargains - you have to buy!', the sellers would insist,
But no, , they're only bargains if they are already on your list!

Just for a few days of excitement, they'd gone to forage and explore,
Intending to make this Christmas better than all the ones before.

All the shelves were emptied and their cupboards bursting with tastes,
Until the only spare pounds around, were the ones around their waists.

So the holiday season came and yet it seemed to disappear in a flash,
As did most of their good cheer - and all of their hard-earned cash!

The dark nights felt even darker and there was a definite chill,
As the postman brought them January gifts, of new bills after bills.

And suddenly they began to realise, the extent of their lack of caution,
When the now unsmiling callers returned, for repayments of extortion.

So just as Dickens warned through old Scrooge, please be clever about Christmas morning,
Celebrate well but wisely, my friends, in order to avoid all of those red letter warnings.

I hope you'll heed this Tiffy tale so your Christmas won't lead to a debtor's tears,
And I wish you all a Merry MSE :money:Christmas, so that you won't get an Awful New Year!

Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hey guys!:hello:
Just wanted to send huge Tiffy hugs to bmf - I'm so sorry to hear your news hunnie - and I'll be thinking of you and your extended family.

Right - I'm off! Serious case of embarrassment at what I've posted here and in The Arms!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is welll,I have had a good day today,so tired,got my brothers christmas present at long last this afternoon so thats done came home to a bit of mail so popped that in shopping bag to carry upstairs to save me going down again,then I put my food shop away and then went to open my post nothing of interest,then I wrote a christmas card to the Chipshop owner and his helper then I went off to the chip shop to get my tea of sausage and chips It was lovely I gave them their cards and they were pleased with them

Had tea,caught up with Home and Away my favourite programme then now I am here and now I have put washing in washing machine to do my washing

A Womans work is never done :rotfl:

*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

fantastico_2

Thanks for the sending of hugs and good vibes. I rang the surgery and the lady said to me that the test came back clear except that there is a slight infection. She was unable to say what it was, said thanks and hung up. I got myself wound up and i rang the doctors a few hours later and asked again about the results. this time i spoke to the receptionist and she was really nice. she said to me that the test were all fine and that my Dr had looked at the results and that he didn't leave any notes for me to take antibiotics. I am going to the doctors on Monday so i will ask for meds i think. My mind has been going into overdrive at what could be wrong with me. I'm thinking of loads of diseases and wondering if that's what wrong with me, i keep telling myself that its only a slight infection so its probably something like chest or water infection. I took doggy out but could go very far as i was panik. I came home and took my pills ad made a cup of herbal tea. Im calmer now than what i was. I hate troubling family with my problems as i know they have their own, that's why i tend to bottle things up. I have been good as i have been talking to family and Dr lately and that has helped. Writing on here has helped tremendously, i dont feel as though i am burdening anyone with all the emotions in my muddled head. I really do appreciate you all and i cant imagine what id be like if i could come here and express my feelings like this. I have began to open up a bit more each day that i come here as i felt like i was intruding, i know i want but when you talk to other people they look the other way or change the subject making you feel, i don't know how to put that into words.

Love to you all

H xx

ElegantlyWasted

Hi all

Sorry I've not been around recently, I've had computer problems (lappy didn't want to even turn on for 3 days!), which developed into MSE problems - site wouldn't let me log in!

I've tried to read through the posts, but my eyes are complaining; I've managed to break my glasses. Luckily I only really need them to be on the computer, but it means that I can't be on here much as I get horrid headaches. I'll try to reply to you all tomorrow.

Things aren't too bad at the minute. I'm very on edge - as proved today, tried to go into town to get a couple of bits, nothing scary, just buying nice things. I live about a 15 minute walk away from town, managed to do 10 minutes of it then had to turn around and come home as I was so panicky. I'm going to try again tomorrow though. I need to as I have to see the doctor next week for my prescription, and I need to be able to make it into town (I *hate* the doctors with a passion!).

Big hugs to everyone that needs one, hope everyone is doing ok and looking after themselves.

Lisa x

fantastico_2

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is welll,I have had a good day today,so tired,got my brothers christmas present at long last this afternoon so thats done came home to a bit of mail so popped that in shopping bag to carry upstairs to save me going down again,then I put my food shop away and then went to open my post nothing of interest,then I wrote a christmas card to the Chipshop owner and his helper then I went off to the chip shop to get my tea of sausage and chips It was lovely I gave them their cards and they were pleased with them

Had tea,caught up with Home and Away my favourite programme then now I am here and now I have put washing in washing machine to do my washing

A Womans work is never done :rotfl:

*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

How thoughtful of you to write cards out to chippy man & helper. Bet they really felt apprecaited when you done that. Well done for doing helping to brighten someone else day, a very commendable selfless act. Give yourself a big pat on the back you deserve it. :A

I have got to write out my cards yet, i hope to be able to do it tomorrow as i have few to post. I must also remember to a buy some stamps as i dont think i have enough.

I have just remembered that i havent called in my work hours today so had better get on and do that otherwise i wont be getting paid for todays work.

Take care to all, love H xx

Miroslav

Evening all :wave:

I shall take a look at recent posts shortly, but just a short paragraph about something that happened today, which touched me, but will probably seem silly to everyone else

I'd been out for the day and was walking home, when a young lady was walking on the same path in the opposite direction, so I moved to one side to make sure she had some room, as you should only most don't only she headed towards me and said "Excuse me, would it be okay for you to please lift my bag up and put it on my shoulder as it keeps falling off and I haven't got a hand free to do it myself" She had a soft drink in one hand and was carrying bags in the other.

Only when I lifted the bag onto her shoulder, did I realise she didn't have a hand free, literally, as her arm with her bag to put on her shoulder ended just past her elbow and she was carrying bags in the gap between upper arm and forearm, or what she had of a forearm (I didn't react as such to it or mention it)

That may sound silly, but seeing someone so happy after doing something so simple, made my day.

Oh and she was kinda cute :rotfl: But that aside, seeing someone so happy for what for most of us is not even an issue made the day worthwhile.

Tulip

Hi Everyone,

I am off now

chat tomorrow

Night! Night!

love and light,

Katie xxx