Depression Support Thread

meyore

slowlyfading wrote: »

I'm having a great day thanks! My bad is lovely Radley bags have the little dogs on - I'm not sure about the Kipling ones! x

They have monkeys on-I'll find some pics

meyore

Not the best pic, but I'm rubbish at that kind of thing. They are the same company, this is a radley kippling bag according to the website
Xx

Stephb1986_2

i have radley and kipling bags lol im addicted to bags told my fella to get me anything with radley on for christmas

Stephb xx

Tiff_2

Hi steph!:hello:
I hope you're feeling better angel.
How did the talk go last night hun?

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Hi to be honest when i was younger i was a bully i didnt know any better as my dad used to beat us when i was a kid so i thought it was right. I was that bad i went to 2 junior schools i moved to my second one before they kicked me out. And i went to 3 high schools i got kicked out of my first one because of hitting a lad over the head with a ruler the second one was a "special school" and after a year i was reformed and went back into a mainstream school since then ive behaved. Now when i read the reports on what the teachers thought i feel ashamed of what i did. The kids did provoke me until i reacted but im not using that as a excuse, It wasnt my mums fault she had enough of her own problems she was at the end of her teather with me.

I was put in isolation for 2 weeks before they decided to kick me out of that school so really schools dont protect the bullies i know from my own experience.
I dont know what schools do now since ive left but they should get the same treatment as i did.
Sorry for the long post
Stephb xx
P.S Happy Birthday SF :beer:

You should feel really proud of yourself steph for having the pure courage that it must have taken to openly admit to having once been a bully. That's an awful lot of honesty!
I guess like everything else, there are levels of bullying and you were obviously in a difficult place yourself hun.:o

So, on behalf of people who have been victims of bullying, may I say thank you steph, for having the courage to post your story and for your honesty!:T

Now days, it seems that the police are more willing to get involved because as I said, it is assault. Sadly, I guess it's because bullying is so widespread and much more vicious now.
I'm 42 hun (:eek: ) and I remember at junior school that the bad kids were summoned to the Headmaster's office, where he was waiting with the cane. Everybody else's head would go down to their work if the secretary came in and asked for a boy to go with her to see the Headmaster. It was a big shame in those days if you got sent out.

I'm not advocating corporal punishment at all - and I'm sure there are experiences at either end of the spectrum where that's concerned - but I just seem to remember that when they banned the cane, the 'bad' kids had nothing to fear eventually and bullying seemed to increase.

Anyway hun, I just wanted to thank you for your honesty and I hope you now hold your head up. All that is ancient history and you paid your dues as it were.;) You're not that way now.
Take care angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

fantastico_2

meyore wrote: »

Today I am so tired, I'm just not sleeping right recently and its beginning to catch up with me. Been talking to my mum about it and she said it might possibly be down to my thyroid. I've also put on a lot of weight and I'm having trouble shifting it. She had the same problems at my age and it was her thyroid, so I might see the doctor. I just hate the doctors though-they always say "you're just depressed" and they can't be bothered. Something to think about though.

Off to my tae bo class now, hope everyone is ok
Xx

I get my test results back tomorrow afternoon to see if i have a thyroid problem. I have to ring them between 2-4pm, i will be ringing them at 2pm on the dot. I dont want to wait any longer than i have to. Suprisingly i have been very calm and i havent had to take any propranolol either so thats helped my self-esteem. I hope you get to see a doctor that takes notice of your problems. Will let you know when i get my results tomorrow.

Take care to all, lots of love.

H xx

Stephb1986_2

Hi Tiff the talk went really well last night and we're ok for now lol!

I think now that the teachers are more scared of the kids and they can only do so much without having parents on their cases, my mum was a cleaner at a school and one lad nicked her keys the teachers wasn't allowed to search him as its against human rights or something.

I think now that ive grown up ive probably scarred alot of kids with what i did to them, I remember going out on new years eve 2 years ago and 2 girls that i went to school with (the one i got kicked out of) was in the pub and they both decided to come and talk to me they soon jogged on when my cousin told them who's family i come from lol, but they was trying to make out like they'd managed to bully me in some way which wasnt possible back then i was out of control. My mum always tells me about a woman who spoke to her at the school gates and said one day i'd meet my match to be honest and i know its not clever i never have, im too old to be fighting in pubs and stuff i like my hot chocolate and dvds now! i think ive gone soft in my old age.

But to any kid that is being bullied dont stand for it I know i might get told off by some of you guys for saying this but if they hit you give them a good old one back it makes them think twice trust me, i know its wrong to hit and all that but it only takes 1 go and they will leave you alone.

Some of the kids i laid into ive seen since ive left school and they cross the street to get away from me!!!!! Im 21 !!!!!! not 11-12 like i was back then im not exactly going to assault them in the street now! It sort of annoys me that they do that and i know they are probably scared but now im "normal"

Thanks for your kindness Tiff take care

Stephb xxx

fantastico_2

I could do with taking up a hobby, any ideas what i could do.

hayley11

Hi Tiff

Thanks for the message. I've been to see my counsellor today and spoke to her about hurting myself so much lately and how hard i'm finding going out, eating, sleeping, just everything really. It was all a bit random this week so don't feel like we got anywhere but probably my fault for waffling on about anything and everything. I'm going to go to the womens support group next week, they do arts and crafts and go out to the cinema and stuff so hopefully that will get me out and making new friends. And they said if I find I don't like it I don't have to go again but i'll go a few of times before I make my mind up.

I've been depressed for about 4 months now, off work for about 3, I had sick notes and had been in for meetings but because I'd only been there since the end of April this year I think they'd had enough. They wanted me to push myself so hard, like setting myself tasks everyday and giving me deadlines to meet and I just couldn't cope with it all. I've applied for incapacity benefit so hopefully i'll get that sorted in a few weeks.

I know what you mean about not having any encouragement to do things, such as eat etc. When my OH is here, i'm so much better but when he's at work I hardly eat at all. I've lost about 9 lb's in the last couple of months which i'm quite happy about my OH said i'm too skinny and he wants me to put it back on.

Anyway thanks again for your nice message, I hope you're doing okay yourself, take care hun xx

hayley11

fantastico wrote: »

I could do with taking up a hobby, any ideas what i could do.

Hiya H

I've been thinking the same thing, I am getting so bored being at home all day with nothing to do but i'm not very good at anything tbh. What type of things do you like to do? Painting, writing, gardening (although prob not the weather :eek:) fitness, computer stuff?

I've just bought a paint by numbers watercolour thing off ebay, I don't think it's for kids because the paintings quite complicated but it looks easy enough. I'm going to see how I like doing that, i'll be naff no doubt, I haven't a creative bone in my body :rotfl:

Hayley x

cat_saving_expert

Tiff wrote: »

cat!
Somehow, I know we're going to get along.:D Come on hun - thanks for sharing with us. You'll find amazing people here - and yes, I do meant that sincerely.:T

I'm sorry to hear about your depression angel.
Sadly, depending upon where you live, it can take a long time to move up the waiting list. However hun, I think you should have had some feedback by now and it's probably a good idea to see your gp and have a chat about it.;)
The waiting list operates by people being seen in order of need, so if you're struggling more or feeling worse then seeing your gp can help them to reassess your situation and get you the help you need sooner angel.

Of course it's your decision as to whether to take ads but if you have any questions/worries about them, your gp will be pleased to answer any questions you have honestly. They're not the scarey beasts of yesteryear.;)
I'd just suggest keeping an open mind about all your options and not rule anything out just yet hunnie. Hope this helps, cat. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Thank you for the reply & warm welcome!
I guess I could go back to the drs but even getting an appointment is hard enough! I'll be OK waiting for a while longer, just getting real fed up with the ups and downs of depression and I have had a bad few days.
I'm sure ads help lots of people, they are not for me (long story) -plus I'm sure my problems are all stemmed from a difficult upbringing, I thought I had gotten over it but perhaps not, I just want to put it all behind me and get on with life.