Depression Support Thread

Miroslav

Did someone say £250 for a bag :eek: At £250 it would have to need to know how to use the TV remote, remember all my online passwords, scrub my back in the bath AND peel the potatoes.

But then I am someone who doesn't like people spending money on me, as I prefer people to spend their time with me rather than spend money as it's meaningless. My flatmate spends about £50 on me at Christmas and I don't like that.........I do however like spending money on other people. However it's usually women who extract the urine and don't last long :rotfl:

I need Britney, it's as simple as that - she's got her own money, she doesn't need my pennies :rotfl: although if she spent too much on me, i'd tell her off too :rotfl:

Seriously though, if anyone spends anything on me, I don't like it......even a coffee. I have to pay or I feel wrong. No idea why, but it could be that i've been given very little in life, so have learnt to rely on myself and no-one else.

I've got all my presents now (at least paid for, as ordered some online) and bought all the food today.

I hope all of you are getting quite far........like ilovegreatdanes, I dislike the commercial side of Christmas - nothing better than being someone you care about rather than getting presents off people. My standards are very high and it's just me and my flatmate this year. In many ways it's not so good I have high standards, but ultimately, I hope it will be a good thing if I meet someone who agrees with my morals, for I don't believe you should sell those for anyone (except Britney)

Anyway, no idea what i've just typed or if it was going anywhere, other than to say, no matter how much or little you get, it's the thought and if you give more than you get, not just at Christmas, you'll never be poor (apart from financially :rotfl: )

Tiff_2

Hi sf!:hello:

HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY SF!

I hope today will be as wonderful as you deserve and all that you want it to be, angel!

Enjoy your cake hunnie... watch out sf ~ here comes miro!!!

Cherish the day sweetheart.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi juliav!
Thanks for your post hun.

The reason I ask, is my sister is prone to depression. One day she can be upbeat and positive and life is going well, and the next I can receive a call and she is down on life and everything seems awful. I don't feel her emotional state is stable and for all the love and support I can offer her, at times it is difficult to know the right words to say.
Firstly, may I ask whether your sister has actually been diagnosed with depression and is she receiving any treatment?
Full credit to you for trying to help her out hun. Finding the right words can be really hard hun and different words are needed for different people.

I was wondering if anyone had come about a book that is like a journal where those with depression can write their thoughts and channel their negative thoughts into positives?
As I'm sure you're aware, there's a million and one self-help books on the market. There are even more factsheets and booklets available on and offline. There's a reason for this hunnie: mental ill health is a highly personal issue. That's why there are so many books available.

I understand what you're after and I'd suggest that you take your sister to the bookshops and browse with her, as self-help is very much tailored to individual tastes; what might appeal to one person may seem totally irrelevant to another. You could supplement this by creating a special journal for her. I'm sure she'll appreciate your thoughtfulness, hun.
Keeping a journal/diary is the best option imho angel and is widely encouraged by mental health professionals - that way, the person can see how their moods change and it can be so reassuring to look back when you're feeling really low, and see that there were good days and that their mood will lift again.
Also, maybe you could look into a new hobbie for her - learning to draw/paint/sew - something that will occupy her mind, making her concentrate and distract her from her low mood.
I hope your sister feels better julia and just keep doing what you're doing by supporting her - depression is a lonely illness.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

queensway_boy

Happy 21st sf




You were born on a Saturday
under the astrological sign Sagittarius.
Your Life path number is 6



Your fortune cookie reads:
Look for new outlets for your own creative abilities.



Your birthday falls into the Chinese year beginning 2/9/1986 and ending 1/28/1987.
You were born in the Chinese year of the Tiger



Your Native American Zodiac sign is Owl; your plant is Mistletoe



You were born in the Egyptian month of Menchir, the second month of the season of Poret (Emergence - Fertile soil).



As of 12/6/2007 2:36:39 AM EST
You are 21 years old.
You are 252 months old.
You are 1,096 weeks old.
You are 7,670 days old.
You are 184,082 hours old.
You are 11,044,956 minutes old.
You are 662,697,399 seconds old.


Your age is the equivalent of a dog that is 3.00195694716243 years old. (Life's just a big chewy bone for you!)



Your lucky day is Thursday.
Your lucky number is 3.
Your ruling planet(s) is Jupiter & Neptune.
Your lucky dates are 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th.
Your opposition sign is Gemini.
Your opposition number(s) is 5.
Today is not one of your lucky days!



Your birthstone is Blue Zircon


The Mystical properties of Blue Zircon

Zircon helps one be more at peace with oneself.

Some lists consider these stones to be your birthstone. (Birthstone lists come from Jewelers, Tibet, Ayurvedic Indian medicine, and other sources)
Blue Topaz, Ruby, Lapis Lazuli


Click here to learn what your name says about you.

Tiff_2

Hi fantastico!
How's you angel? I'm sorry it's taken so long for me to get to you h!
You're very welcome here hun and I can see you've settled in nicely already.


quote=h
Ive lost a few friends recently and i blame myself for being so paranoid about things. Really my so-called friends knew about it but i got a bit much for my friend Rosie. My mum had died and i turned to her for support, id send texts but not get replies. Anyway she said that my behaviour was unacceptable and that going through bereavement was no excuse to lose control of your mind.
I didn't have anyone of my own to turn to, i have brothers and sisters but they have their own wives/husbands to comfort them. I just needed a friend and i couldn't find anyone who would listen to me.quote=h
It sounds as though you've been going through a really difficult time angel. I'm sorry you had that response from your friend hun. Maybe it brought back sad memories for her? We put people up on a pedestal and expect them to reach our expectations sometimes. Then we feel let down when they can't, for whatever reason, live up to them.
CRUSE are a charity that help bereaved people hunnie and can be a great source of comfort - they'll visit you at home usually, if you want them to. Here's their UK link, just in case, h:
http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/


quote=h
Hey, ive been feeling much better since taking meds. I havent felt a panic attack coming on for a couple of days and it has made a big difference already. The only thing is that it makes me feel tired, but i can deal with that.
Big hugs to all quote=h
That's one good thing about seeing someone's posts spread over time - you can see the good days and the bad ones.
I'm really pleased for you angel. There may be some ups and downs but there'll always be more ups, h. If this is a new med, then it may take a while to find the right level for you hunnie and balance out - so don't worry, just keep in touch with the dr.



quote=h
Ive found a poem that i always loved:
Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn!...quote=h
I really liked that poem h - thank you for sharing it! The words are really beautiful.

quote=h
I went the doctors earlier as i pulled a muscle in my chest last week and it really aches, almost convinced myself i was having a heart attack whilst i was having a panic attack. I drive myself up the wall sometimes, okay i do it most of the time lol. quote=h
Oh bless you - I hope your muscle has healed hun. It must have been very painful.
Panic attacks can often be mistaken for heart attacks. It's an awful thing to go through.
I'd say that you should always check with your dr or phone the hospital if you're unsure - it's always better to be safe than sorry! If you suffer like this a lot guys, then don't fret because the feeling will become familiar to your memory and you can say to yourself, ''Okay. I know this feeling - I've had this before. This is a panic attack and if I sit down and try to relax, the feeling will go away like it did all the other times.'' Your mind is a very powerful tool. But again, if this doesn't pass, it's best to seek professional help.
At least you've kept your good sense of humour angel.

quote=h
Seems everyone is having a tough time if it at the moment. Ive been doing alright the last few days, but my nerves are beginning to unsettle. I have to ring my boss tomorrow and give her my notice. I'm hoping she will accept 1 week as my new boss would like me to start work asap. I don't want to leave on bad terms as i might want/need to ask for employment from her again. I'm hoping and thinking seriously about leaving my area next spring time, then because i hope to have my nerves under control by then cause i got meds now. I want to go to Scotland and it will be about 500miles away from family. Ive been wanting to go for some time now but things crop up. I'm a great believer in fate, and when i had a phone call in march asking me to be a career for a relative i said yes. At the time i was thinking about going, but i stayed. I feel that the change of lifestyle will help me.
Luv H quote=h
Tiff is going to play devil's advocate as usual, hun. I really hope this works out for you h, but try not to give yourself deadlines to be better by. Will you have support for yourself up there? Are you well enough to look after your relative? Talk it through with your dr angel and they will try and set up a care package for you so that it'll be in place when you get there.
Explain to your boss that you regret you have to leave because you're moving to look after a disabled relative. This isn't unreasonable and should leave the door open, especially if you stress how much you're going to miss your job.

There's nothing wrong with making such plans sweetie - they can be really uplifting and a good incentive to look after your health so you can achieve your goal. I sincerely hope it works out for you h! By seeing your dr regularly, you'll be giving yourself the best chance of being well enough to realise your dream.
It's good to hear you're feeling better sweetie - we like good news like that here. Take care angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

slowlyfading

meyore wrote: »

Have a great birthday slowly fading, hope its a good day for you

:bdaycake:

Xx

Thanks! How are you today? Hope you're feeling okay. xx

slowlyfading

Tiff wrote: »

Hi sf!:hello:

HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY SF!

I hope today will be as wonderful as you deserve and all that you want it to be, angel!

Enjoy your cake hunnie... watch out sf ~ here comes miro!!!

Cherish the day sweetheart.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Thanks!! And that picture is too cute. I hope you're okay today. take care of yourself xx

slowlyfading

queensway_boy wrote: »

Happy 21st sf




You were born on a Saturday
under the astrological sign Sagittarius.
Your Life path number is 6



Your fortune cookie reads:
Look for new outlets for your own creative abilities.



Your birthday falls into the Chinese year beginning 2/9/1986 and ending 1/28/1987.
You were born in the Chinese year of the Tiger



Your Native American Zodiac sign is Owl; your plant is Mistletoe



You were born in the Egyptian month of Menchir, the second month of the season of Poret (Emergence - Fertile soil).



As of 12/6/2007 2:36:39 AM EST
You are 21 years old.
You are 252 months old.
You are 1,096 weeks old.
You are 7,670 days old.
You are 184,082 hours old.
You are 11,044,956 minutes old.
You are 662,697,399 seconds old.


Your age is the equivalent of a dog that is 3.00195694716243 years old. (Life's just a big chewy bone for you!)



Your lucky day is Thursday.
Your lucky number is 3.
Your ruling planet(s) is Jupiter & Neptune.
Your lucky dates are 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th.
Your opposition sign is Gemini.
Your opposition number(s) is 5.
Today is not one of your lucky days!



Your birthstone is Blue Zircon


The Mystical properties of Blue Zircon

Zircon helps one be more at peace with oneself.

Some lists consider these stones to be your birthstone. (Birthstone lists come from Jewelers, Tibet, Ayurvedic Indian medicine, and other sources)
Blue Topaz, Ruby, Lapis Lazuli


Click here to learn what your name says about you.

Ohh wow, thanks QB! Loads of information there lol hope you're having a good day. x

shazrobo

happy 21st birthday slowlyfading, hope you have a wonderful day.:bdaycake:
shaz x

Tiff_2

shazrobo wrote: »

just a quick hello, as i'm getting the boys ready for school.
feeling bit better this morn, probably because school is the only break i get from both sons, yes they are twins. their diagnosis is severe attention defecit disorder, conduct disorder, oppositional defiant disorder, and learning disabilities. we have a social worker, but they are not much use, last time i told her i wasnt coping they wanted to take them into care, which is not what is not what i wanted at all, so i struggle alone, have no family or friends to help, am pretty much isolated apart from boyfriend.
the boys get dla at highest rate for care and low rate mobility, which helps a lot, and i get carer's for them, and just recently after my own mental health got worse, and i had two failed suicide attempts, i get dla too, so at least no money worries at the moment.
see my gp regularly, and am taking citalopram, again, been on and off meds 12 years, and i also go to a day centre once a week, where i do woodwork a couple of hours and also counselling.
i'll have a look at all those links later tiff, thankyou very much for taking the trouble to find them, i read your post last night, and i see you have a lot to cope with too, and then helping others on here, when i feel well enough i shall do the same. we all need all the help we can get to get well again.
hope everyone has a good day, and i'll check back later to see how everyone is getting along.
big hugs to all
shaz x

Hi shaz!:hello:
Sorry I'm late replying to this one hun. Thanks for the info.
Obviously, your boys have an awful lot to deal with, as do you shaz. You're a real survivor and a wonderful mum from the sound of things sweetheart! I'm relieved to hear that you're financially ok and that you're getting dla for yourself hun, as well as other support.
You deserve all the help you can get shaz.


Did someone say social worker?




No, they're not all bad and they are bound by red-tape & rules, but some of them need to retrain, imho.
Social work is meant to keep families together wherever possible and sadly, sometimes it seems the easier option to move children into temporary foster care.
If you're in touch with them again hun, say that you need more support and that you want to keep the boys living at home.
Of course, we don't know what the future holds angel or what decisions we might have to make, but if you need more help from them, please ask for it. Your dr and psychiatrist can support your position hun.

You're already helping others shaz. There are so many 'lurkers' who are nervous about sharing their problems and they read our posts and can find something that can help them too. Every person that joins here is reassuring to someone else that they're not the only ones with that problem. And that's a lovely gift to give to someone.
Take care hunnie - good luck with the school.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx