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Hi SF,
Hows things? Hope you are okglad you seem to have another friend who you can chat with
thats great
hope you have a nice evening
love and light,
Katie xxx0 -
I've had the best day ever, and since you obviously want to know all the details I'll tell you
I woke up this morning, after staying up til 4am trying to install an operating system on my laptop. And then I turned my phone on, and my friend Daveh phoned me! He said he was in my town, and did I want to go and meet him. And I did, obviously. So then I quickly got dressed, and poked Muffin and stuff, and then my daddy annoyed me and I just missed the bus I was aiming for. So I was later than I wanted to beAnd I didn't get to see him for anywhere near long enough, because he had to go home. But it was really really great and now I'm happy.
Murphy's No More Pies Club #209
Total debt [STRIKE]£4578.27[/STRIKE] £0.00 :j
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Thanks Katie, i just feel sick with worry and i feel like crying because of it
ive been through break ups before but this one seems so much worse than any of my others, its the longest relationship ive been in for a while (7 months today) it just feels like there is no love there anymore even though i love him so much
i cant even eat my tea i feel that sick
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Hi SF,
Hows things? Hope you are okglad you seem to have another friend who you can chat with
thats great
hope you have a nice evening
love and light,
Katie xxx
Hey Katie, I'm alright thanks. ITS MY 21ST BIRTHDAY TOMORROW! (I'm slightly excited:rolleyes:) I hope you have a good evening too. x
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
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slowlyfading wrote: »Hey Katie, I'm alright thanks. ITS MY 21ST BIRTHDAY TOMORROW! (I'm slightly excited
:rolleyes:) I hope you have a good evening too. x
WOOO happy birthday for tomorrow i was 21 in augustyou getting anything nice???? I hope you have a fantastic day :beer: :bdaycake: :bdaycake:
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steph!
Come on in and make yourself at home hun. There's a goldmine of support and suggestions on here from the kindest souls.
I'm really sorry that you're hurting so much right now hunnie.
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Im feeling really low today its my first post in here last night my fella told me i could do with losing some weight im only a size 16 and im 5'7 so i dont look too fat im so hurt that he's said this i really dont know what to do i thought he loved me for who i am not what i look like i wish i could just hide away and never come out
Stephb xx quote=steph
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He's turned round and said he didnt mean to hurt me to be honest it feels like he's trying to push me away all the time after the weekend we've had im wondering weather its worth all this heartache all the time. He's working nights for the next 3 weeks and part of me is like dont bother going seeing him on wednesday with his tea he can starve but part of me wants to sort it out. last night i cried myself to sleep wondering why he is with me if im so fat my day isnt getting any better i want to get back in bed hoping that i never have to get out of it again
Stephb xx quote=steph
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Hi all im feeling really really down today me and my fella are on the verge of breaking up apart from him saying i need to lose a few pounds we've not been right for a few weeks now. I can honestly say i love him so much i would do anything. We're having a chat tonight to see if we should carry on this relationship. I wanted this christmas to be special and now it looks like its going down the pan. ive not stopped crying for about 3 days now
Stephb xx quote=steph
And there went most of your confidence and self-esteem!
I'm an honest Tiffster angel and I won't tell you something just to make you feel better, so please forgive me hun if I say anything that upsets you - that's not my intention.
I could be wrong here sweetie, but it sounds to me as though the weight issue could be a mask for other issues. You most certainly are not fat. Bless your heart, I don't care what you look like - and neither should he! It's hard enough when a friend or stranger makes a comment about our weight,but for it to come from the man you love makes it hurt the worst. It should be the size of your heart that matters, steph hun!
It sounds as if your woman's intuition knows something isn't right in this relationship - and the hardest part is taking charge of that feeling, examining it and deciding on a course of action. I'm really glad that you're going to have this conversation tonight angel and I know it'll be hard for you. Don't be ready to take on all the responsibility for this relationship - it sounds as though you really care for him and look after him. But he has the responsibility to do the same. And sadly, of course, some things are just not meant to be.
If you should both decide to end this relationship, then you are fully entitled to lick your wounds sweetheart. Breaking up is not a fun activity. Of course you'll feel heartbroken and replay everything in your mind - that's part of the healing process. Why should anyone have to suffer a fake relationship hun? If he has a problem, it's he who has the problem - it just means that he wasn't right for you.
And if something that wasn't right for you felt that good, then just imagine how amazing the real thing will feel when the right one comes along!
You could be giving youself the best Christmas gift ever angel - you'll have immediately lost many pounds of dead weight (what a diet!) and given yourself some peace of mind and a fresh start for the new year, once you've worked through your emotions.
And if it does work out for you both, then it will show that you can be completly honest with each other about your feelings. So whether it's in the short or long term hunnie, you'll be a winner - although I know it won't feel like that now.
The best thing you can do now imho steph, is to be kind and gentle to yourself. There's nothing wrong with how you're feeling - it's completely natural - but it's important to look after yourself. Please feel free to post whenever you need to hun - the guys here are great!
I hope this helps a little angel and I'll be thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx
"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
Sorry I've not been on for a couple of days:o .....who said "who said that!...but I've been out of sorts for no particular reason
I've had very early nights---before 7:30 Mon nite---& been getting up later in the mornings, so it's been a bit difficult to fit everything in.
I'll try to read back to see what I've missed, but I hope all are safe & reasonably well.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFxFull time Carer for Mum; harassed mother of three;loving & loved by two 4-legged babies.
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cat_saving_expert wrote: »Hi, this is my first post in here, I was wondering how long it can take to see a counselor for depression.
I went to the doctors in July after spending 3-4 months with constant depression that I couldn't shake, Dr referred me after I refused antidepressants and I saw the 'in house' counselor at the end of August. She was very nice and we talked about various things, I filled in a questionnaire and she diagnosed me with depression & anxiety, she felt I should be referred to a more specialist counselor. I got sent a form a week later which I filled in and posted straight away and I have waited and waited for my appointment, 3 months later I have heard nothing, is this normal?cat!
Somehow, I know we're going to get along.:DCome on hun - thanks for sharing with us. You'll find amazing people here - and yes, I do meant that sincerely.:T
I'm sorry to hear about your depression angel.
Sadly, depending upon where you live, it can take a long time to move up the waiting list. However hun, I think you should have had some feedback by now and it's probably a good idea to see your gp and have a chat about it.;)
The waiting list operates by people being seen in order of need, so if you're struggling more or feeling worse then seeing your gp can help them to reassess your situation and get you the help you need sooner angel.
Of course it's your decision as to whether to take ads but if you have any questions/worries about them, your gp will be pleased to answer any questions you have honestly. They're not the scarey beasts of yesteryear.;)
I'd just suggest keeping an open mind about all your options and not rule anything out just yet hunnie. Hope this helps, cat. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
Stephb1986 wrote: »WOOO happy birthday for tomorrow i was 21 in august
you getting anything nice???? I hope you have a fantastic day :beer: :bdaycake: :bdaycake:
Stephb xx
Thanks! My mum has got me a Radley bag for my birthdayso that's something VERY nice!! x x
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
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Sorry I've not been on for a couple of days:o .....who said "who said that!...but I've been out of sorts for no particular reason
I've had very early nights---before 7:30 Mon nite---& been getting up later in the mornings, so it's been a bit difficult to fit everything in.
I'll try to read back to see what I've missed, but I hope all are safe & reasonably well.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx
Hi bmf!:hello:
I swear on my stash of catnip, that my very next post was putting a shout out for you! You must be psychic angel.;)
I've missed you hunnie - are you okay?
You know when to start worrying if certain peeps suddenly go unusually quiet - as you'll remember just before you were going to kindly put out some sardines for me, when I was too quiet.
If you need to talk angel, just shout out, ok? You're part of the family here.;)
I really hope all is well with you sweetheart. Keep us posted. Be kind to yourself sweetie.
Thinking of you - and your knees!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0
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