Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I hope everyone's safe and sounds this morning - I hate to see any of my Tifflings having such a hard time.

Well peeps, the wind and rain have been howling and pouring here too, all weekend. I am a tiny bit hissed off with our bmf though for not giving me any advanced warning from her knees about the rain! But what I really want to know is...

WHO LOCKED THE CAT FLAP?!



It'll take days to lick all this fur back into place - and I don't even want to think about the hairballs I'll get!
I know all this nasty weather makes us all feel even more down, but look at it like this - mental ill health can be very :money:! If we hadn't been feeling so low and the weather hadn't been so bad, we'd have probably spent a fortune this weekend. Which brings me to another Tiffy thought...

Things always hit us harder at this time of year. Sadly, life events don't stop for the holidays. I lost my Dad two years ago yesterday and inspite of my determination to remember him with love and have a normal day, I was still in pieces. I was determined to stay as busy and as bright and cheerful as I could, but all it took was one silly Christmas film yesterday afternoon to tug at my heart strings and that was it. Soggy Tiffster.

But - I do know where I went wrong. I didn't give my grief the respect it deserves.

Sometimes, it's appropriate to feel all over the place and low and just because you've made the decision not to feel that way because it hurts so much, it doesn't mean that your emotions won't turn round and kick you in the a$$ets because you tried to ignore them. I guess what I mean is that we shouldn't try and quash every 'negative' emotion, because it can be a release of pain and a part of the healing. When things go wrong, or it's a sad time, that's nothing to do with depression - that's a natural reaction and anyone would feel that way.
It may be harder to deal with because of mental ill health, and it can put a strain on our mental health, but our mental health is not always the cause of us feeling so low and we should try and consider that how we're feeling may be a natural reaction.
So next year, I'm going to allow myself to grieve and cry and think of my darling Dad and not put any pressure on myself with high expectations of coping wonderfully. I'll take little steps to get through the day the best that I can. I love him and miss him so very much and in reality, it's a tribute to him that it hurts me so much. Yes, yesterday was the day that he passed on - but I love and miss him every other day of the year too. I'll try and remember that it's not the day I hate, it's the fact that Dad's no longer here with me.
Sorry - just wanted to share. Thanks for listening to me chuntering on.

Huge and very wet Tiffy hugs and best wishes to all those who are poorly, with loved ones who are ill, who are struggling, and have work, appointments, tests, meetings, counselling and treatment. Thinking of you all.
Me? Time for a catnap methinks!
Safe journeys guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all well,I am fine today,up early to try for Kylie Tickets for the O2 Arena this morning playing a kylie cd to get me into the mood :rotfl:

I am then off to the pub for lunch and then Karioke


Have a lovely day


*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Stephb1986_2

Im feeling really low today its my first post in here last night my fella told me i could do with losing some weight im only a size 16 and im 5'7 so i dont look too fat im so hurt that he's said this i really dont know what to do i thought he loved me for who i am not what i look like i wish i could just hide away and never come out

Stephb xx

shazrobo

morning everyone, hope everybody is feeling better this mowning,
qwb, glad your mil is improving,
meyore, congrats for the wedding,
tulip, i hope you manage to get the kylie tickets,
tiff, big hugs, i know how hard it is to lose a loved one, at any time of year, but near xmas, seems to make it somehow harder, my grandad passed away on the 19th dec, and i know i cant look forward to christmas til that date has passed, because its such a sad time.
right, gotta go into town, and see if they can fix my glasses, ds, stood on them last night.
big hugs to all those that need one, or would just like one
shaz x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

woohoo I have just got my Kylie tickets for her x tour so excited


Kylie
The O2, London,
Wed 30 Jul 2008, 18:30

Seat location: section BK 101, row R, seat 44


cant wait


a very happy Katie xxx

Horasio

Not a bad weekend

I have been feeling more Christmassy which has cheered me up.

Felt closer to my OH as well. Also able to combine the holiday feeling I had earlier this year with being here. I hated it here when I came back from the States.

My OH has problems with his female boss. She is petty beyond belief but he loves his job. Her husband, the boss is away a lot and she leaves people alone when he's there. We will be leaving this house anyway as the annoying neighbour wants to do long term building work next year (why do all my neighbours do building work?)

Next year is going to be one of change. Trouble is I can't work out where I want to go and where there is work. My OH is 56 in January and he is so overweight and has skin problems. He goes to the quacks but they don't do much for him. Ever since he broke his leg in 1998, the skin problem started when he had the pin put in his leg and the weight piled on, he did give up smoking at the same time. I am piling the weight on too, due to comfort eating and feeling in limbo.

Horasio

shazrobo wrote: »

managed to smile this afternoon, i took my sons to the cinema to see fred claus, and it was a funny film, the only thing that spoiled the afternoon, was teenage girls chatting and giggling behind us, how rude :mad:
my boys both have severe ADHD and if they can manage to sit quietly through the film then i dont see why these girls couldnt
big hugs to those that are poorly, tired, under the weather, or just need one
shaz x

That is why I don't goto the flicks or concerts. I always get the people behind me being badly behaved. Even aeroplanes annoy me. I swear people are getting ruder. Even neighbours don't leave me alone - I used to live on an estate and got peace. Now a place in the country is what we have to look for.

geminilady

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Im feeling really low today its my first post in here last night my fella told me i could do with losing some weight im only a size 16 and im 5'7 so i dont look too fat im so hurt that he's said this i really dont know what to do i thought he loved me for who i am not what i look like i wish i could just hide away and never come out

Stephb xx

Hi Steph ,welcome :hello: Sorry you are feeling low,blumming men they can be so insensative but try not to let it bother you it is comments like these that set people on the road to anorexia if only people thought before they spoke.As you say size 16 at 5'7 is not very big and you are the best judge of how you look and feel.I hope you told your bf what you said on here"i thought he loved me for who i am not what i look like".I think a lot of problems can stem from people not actualy saying how they feel.If i was you when next i saw him i would say what i quoted above and tell him that you feel like hiding away and never coming out.Unless he is a complete !!!!!! he proberly has no idea how much his comment hurt.

geminilady

CCStar wrote: »

Not a bad weekend

I have been feeling more Christmassy which has cheered me up.

Felt closer to my OH as well. Also able to combine the holiday feeling I had earlier this year with being here. I hated it here when I came back from the States.

My OH has problems with his female boss. She is petty beyond belief but he loves his job. Her husband, the boss is away a lot and she leaves people alone when he's there. We will be leaving this house anyway as the annoying neighbour wants to do long term building work next year (why do all my neighbours do building work?)

Next year is going to be one of change. Trouble is I can't work out where I want to go and where there is work. My OH is 56 in January and he is so overweight and has skin problems. He goes to the quacks but they don't do much for him. Ever since he broke his leg in 1998, the skin problem started when he had the pin put in his leg and the weight piled on, he did give up smoking at the same time. I am piling the weight on too, due to comfort eating and feeling in limbo.

Glad to see you are feeling more cheerful, christmas does the same for me but then there tends to be a low when it is over which is natural i suppose.It is good that you feel closer to your OH also hope you manage to hold on to that feeling through christmas and beyond.Have you thought of doing something together with your OH to help get the weight off? maybe joining a gym or getting a dog and going for long walks a shared hobby might be good for you.

geminilady

queensway_boy wrote: »

Hi all, M.I.L. has picked up a bit now but docs were very worried about her condition,thankyou all for your thoughts.She's not out of the woods yet though as she keeps having setbacks.Hope your all well as can be,i see a few are having a rough time at the mo so special hugs and thoughts to those and as usual big hugs to everyone.



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Hi qb:hello: Glad your M.I.L. has picked up a little and fingers crossed she does not have any more set backs.