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JUst noticed FG.....It's nice to see FG back logging onto MSE.... hope your ok FG.Use your judgement, and above all, be honest with yourself.I walk with the world & the world walks with me!I don't make bad choices!!! Other people just fail to see my GENIUS !!!!0
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Hi guys!
You weren't wrong about a bad day dawny!:D
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
Hi impy! :hello:
How are you hun? Apologies for taking so long to get to you impy. I hope you've had the usual warm welcome home from the amazing peeps here. As I did with someone else, I've taken your first 3 posts together to reply to.
*** The words in black are from the post I am replying to.***
I'm not depressed any more, I don't think. But I feel nothing. Like I'm on auto pilot. I feel totally detached from my emotions, not happy or sad.
I'd love to feel sad, but I'm just existing right now. I don't even cut any more, at least that made me feel something.
I am cutting people out of my life again, I can feel it happening, but feel powerless to do anything about it.
Are you on any meds impy? Do you have any input from the mental health team hun? Just trying to get an idea of the overall situation, so sorry if you think I'm prying.
In my humble opinion angel, the detached feeling you describe is possibly a symptom of depression. There's no set list of symptoms impy but what you describe can be possible signs of depression. At least you're not self-harming right now hun - that's good. You don't want to add any more scars to remind you of your pain.
Turning people away is also common with depression angel. It can get to the point where you don't want to answer the door or the phone impy, so it's better to get some professional help now. Print off these posts and go and see your dr, angel. Show them to your dr and let them tell you whether you are depressed or not. Either way hun, you sound like you're struggling and your dr is the best source of any professional help you might need.
And I thought that I had sorted out my eating, I really did. I was on 300 calories a day and 20g of fat or less, but I keep eating things like cheese and drinking milk and alchohol. I am trying to replace chocolate with hot water, but I am failing so badly. I guess I just keep losing sight of the goal, I suppose.
I don't know your background with these issues sweetheart, but what you're doing is very dangerous.
Please show this to your dr, hunnie. Apart from the alocohol (which you shouldn't have if you're taking meds), your body needs things like cheese and milk and certainly a whole lot more than just 300 calories a day! Your body will think it's starving, (which it is), and will store whatever you take in, to keep itself going. If you don't eat * drink properly hun, your body will just be full of air and you'll be feeling bloated.
What is the goal hun? Whatever it is angel, you're going the wrong way about it. No wonder you've got no energy or drive! If you don't eat and drink enough impy, it will also affect your mental health adversely.
I'm just disappointed with my apparent lack of focus, drive and self control. If I want to succeed, I need to just keep on pushing and pushing.
Why?
Imho impy, you are being far too focussed and you're pushing and pushing yourself way too much. You won't be well enough to succeed at very much hunnie if you carry on this way. What are you angry about angel? What's scaring you? What are you fighting against? These are just things I'm picking up, so I'm sorry if I've got it wrong.
Oh who gives a !!!!
Erm...how many of us are there guys?
That's why we're here impy and that's why you posted. You need support and reassurance angel.
There are people who care and will be more than willing to help hun. None of us know just how many lives we have touched and just how many would miss us. There's professional help available that can change things for you sweetie. You need to be kind to yourself hun and stop being so hard on yourself.
Oh !!!!.
I just read Miro's post. I'm so sorry, My post is trivial and petty and I feel ashamed and self absorbed for posting it.
I give you all my love.
You have nothing to be ashamed or sorry for angel. Miro would be the first to agree I know. Your pain is just as important, real and valid as anyone else's. Whatever pain we have, it hurts. There's a compassionate soul inside you hun, just crying to get out, bless you.
Thank you to all you lovely people who replied to me.
Ah, didn't know about that body storing fat thingy...crap.
I was really happy and a bit triumphant because I held on today, I only had 185 calories and I did a 3 mile walk.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh angel, but this is nothing to be proud of. I'm sure that you probably don't see this eating regime as being harmful hun, but please listen to us when we tell you it is. We tell you this because we don't want anything to happen to you. Please angel, see your dr about this. They can help you slowly start to build up your food intake.
I guess I need to take a recount. My boyfriend now knows something is up, because he found a pregnancy test ( I haven't had a period since July), and I don't know what to say to him. (We haven't, well, ahem, since May).
Was the test positive or negative impy? With the kind of punishing regime your body is taking sweetie, it may cause your periods to stop. Again impy, this is something that you need to see your gp about. You really need a thorough check up hun to make sure everything's ok and to find out whether you are or aren't pregnant.
What does your partner think of this hun, did he say? Does he know what you put yourself through?
I also feel crap because whenever I get like this, I can just hear my mum's voice saying:
"No-one cares about your problems, people your age don't have them"
OR
"I don't want a child telling me they've had a nervous breakdown, that's just blackmail" (I was 23 at the time and had just come out of hospital for that very thing).
Is mum around you a lot angel? This is obviously very hurtful, especially when it's from the one person you'd want support from. Whatever her reasons hun, you can still get compassion and support from others if you're brave enough to ask for help.
Sadly, we have to accept that some people can't understand what's going on and they just can't deal with it. She may also be feeling guilty - no mum wants to hear their child has mental ill health and the first thing we do as mothers, is to blame ourselves. I don't know angel - these are just Tiffy thoughts.
And actually hun, please forgive me, but what your mum said was emotional blackmail, not the other way round.
I don't like going to the doctors about this sort of thing. They just look at you like you shot their mother in front of them and then put you on drugs.
None of us want to go to the drs with these issues impy, but it can make all the difference.
You may expect that this will be their reaction to you hun, but drs don't behave like that - and if they do, then they need to have a formal complaint lodged against them. There are some really great drs out there.
And they certainly won't put you on any meds just for the sake of it.
Even if you are prescibed drugs, surely the whole point is to be as well as you can be, impy? I, for one, am grateful that my meds are giving me the help I need to keep on going as best as I can.
At just about every turn here sweetheart, I've suggested that you should see your dr. You have nothing to lose hunnie. Don't be afraid of taking this step. You deserve to be happy impy and it is possible hun, if you ask for help. Sorry if I've repeated everything that your other replies said.
From all this, I see that you have incredible willpower hun - try and turn it round to use it in helping yourself get better instead. Keep us posted as to how you are, impy. Thinking of you angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
Hi cnmm!:hello:
How are you hun? I hope the holiday was a good one!
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I have also had my counselling appt come through which is really fast but I cant make it next week as we are on hol. I feel quite guilty though as some people that need it more than me are having to wait a long time and mine has only taken about 8 weeks (they said would be around 14). They have sent a form for me to complete about my feeling and thoughts etc to take to my first lesson. I feel a bit of a fraud as since my meds I feel almost back to my usual self but prior to starting the meds I would have agreed with most of the things on the form.=quote cnmm
Your post raised two points for me angel, regarding your counselling and meds.
Please don't feel guilty about the counselling coming so quickly hun. Every client is placed on the list according to how great their need is. Sometimes vacancies come up unexpectedly. It could be for a hundred reasons hun and believe me, if you didn't need it, you wouldn't be getting it. I'm really pleased for you.
One thing just occurred to me here sweetie. Have they said you'll actually be starting your counselling then, or is it an appointment for an evaluation? Sometimes you get an evaluation with the counsellors before being placed on the list.
Fill the form in honestly hun. I think the form says to answer it according to how you've felt within the last week or the last month.
I'm also pleased that your meds are working for you hun! You're not a fraud - if you stopped taking them, you'd probably be right back where you were, heaven forbid! It's nice to see an example of someone's positive experience with meds. You should feel really proud of yourself hun and I bet you're pleased you took that first, sometimes scarey, step of seeing your dr. I hope it carries on like this for you angel and wish you good luck -
(something miro's going to need lots of, when I cat-ch up with him!)-
with your counselling. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
Hi spikey!:hello:
How are you angel? Apologies for the delay spikey - I wasn't ignoring you hun.
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HI all,I hope you can help.Anybody heard of medication called CITALOPRAM 10mg Tablet?I am trying to find out the effectiveness, side effects etc etc .Any and all help appreciated.TIASpikey =quote spikey
Ok spikey, I know you've had your answers to this hun. It really does vary from person to person. It's like asking everyone whether the colour blue suits them.
I believe that is the minimum doseage but you're better off asking your dr or your chemist angel - they're a good resource for drug information and may be able to help put your mind at rest if you can't get through to your gp.
I hope all is well with you hun. Take care spikey.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
Hi lisa-m!
It sounds like you're having a really tough time hun. Thanks for posting and sharing again lisa.
=quote lisam
I dont know how I feelI don't think I even know who I am. I feel embarressed because of me. My husband says I dont do anything embarressing. But I always feel embarressed. I dont know why. Like today I just want to go away because I asked a neighbour who was awake at 1.45am for a ciggerette
Thank you for talking to me, life is just soooooooooo hard at the moment, yes i am being treated for depression, I dont take anto-d's because after 12 years of being the same I have decided I can't mask the issuses with pills. I have my first CPN visit next friday, she is comimg to my house because like you, I cannot leave the house most days. I can't answer fone or door.
Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Well I dont know where to start really
Today I am feeling really LOW Last night I had a drink (i'm not an alcoholic) But everytime I have a drink the next day I feel so low. Today I just want to cut my legs open (I never have self harmed) sometimes I think that it would help me with the embarressment I feel everyday. I want to run away go somewhere were nobody knows me. =quote
From reading these 3 posts angel, it's obvious that your self-esteem is low and you're probably feeling quite lost. It doesn't matter how long we're ill for angel, it's still hard going sometimes. I'm sure you're really a very nice person hun and have nothing at all to feel embarrassed about.
It sounds like you've got a supportive husband lisa - try and find some strength from him. He wouldn't let you embarrass yourself hun.
It's brave of you to want to deal with your issues with no meds hun - good for you! I must say though, that if I wasn't feeling any better after all that time on meds, I'd be asking my dr why. Sometimes it takes a combination of both meds and therapy.
I'm really pleased that you've got a CPN now hunnie.They do a really great job overall. I hope all went well angel. Just be complely up front with them or it won't work. And don't worry - they've heard it all before hun.
At least you haven't given up, which shows just how good a survivor you are!;) I hope theat you'll be able to crack this bad habit of isolating yourself lisa - I've got agoraphobia so I know how it feels.
Alcohol is a depressant angel and that may explain your low mood the next day.
Please angel, don't ever hurt yourself. Please call your dr or your mental health professionals and tell them about these feelings. If you did it hun, you'd only feel even worse later.
Try and keep occuppied to distract you from negative thoughts and it may be a good idea to try deep relaxation too. I hope it all goes well hunnie - keep us posted ok? Thinking of you angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.***'You just got Tiffed!'***0 -
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HI all,I hope you can help.Anybody heard of medication called CITALOPRAM 10mg Tablet?I am trying to find out the effectiveness, side effects etc etc .Any and all help appreciated.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx
citalopram 10mg is the lowest dose of these tablets.
This is the meds I'm suffering the withdrawls from today was on 30 mg dose daily .
When I first went on them not good but after a couple of weeks side effects get better .
I was told to start with half a tablet for a few days and wean your self on them over a week as less side effect .
any way found this info for you from my label .
uses to treat major depression effects will not be felt for at least 2 weeks
when tablets are stopped side effects can include _ dizziness,tingling, headache,nausia and anxiety these are ment to disappear after a few days there at moment I hope so !!
as with all medicines unwanted side effects in some people. these are usually mild and do not last long .Most effect occur during the first few weeks of starting this medication and improves at time goes on .
common side effects
drowsiness,insomia, aggitation nervousnesss,headache,tremor, dizziness,palputations nausea,drymouth,constipation,or diarrhoea,increased sweating blurred vision weakness and tiredness.
there is a lot more less comon sideeffects I can try and copy leaflet to send to you if you want .
although not sure if I can get my head round how to do it today !!
take care
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How do you know that your depressed and when your not depressed any more? sorry if this seems a numpty question.Use your judgement, and above all, be honest with yourself.I walk with the world & the world walks with me!I don't make bad choices!!! Other people just fail to see my GENIUS !!!!0
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I have just been taken off 40 mg citalopram and now i am on 20mg fluoxetine. The side effects you described are just what i have been having0
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