Depression Support Thread

johnroberts07

Waiting for M.I.N.D to phone, they got in touch yesterday and i dont owe the money. he has called off the bailiffs for me.

hayley11

Miroslav wrote: »

I didn't bump into 'S' and it went alright - more to follow!

Nose bleed :eek: Stress or accidently punched yourself?

Glad everything went ok Miro :T

Don't know what caused it, never had one before, pretty gross though, don't like blood!

Well I hope everybody has a good day, I'll be back on later no doubt, i'm going to try and have a nap now, I can't even tell you how tired I am, it's making me feel ill.

Take care guys x

hayley11

johnroberts07 wrote: »

Waiting for M.I.N.D to phone, they got in touch yesterday and i dont owe the money. he has called off the bailiffs for me.

:T:T So pleased for you John. Are you feeling any better now you don't have that to worry about?

Take care x

ilovegreatdanes

hi all,
john.....hi, glad its sorted re the baliffs.:T
miro...i know what you mean about feet.have you seen the dfs ad on tv where the girl on the sofa is kicking her shoe off....and her second toe is bigger than her big toe:eek: :eek: i hate long toes!!!not too bad with ears....although i watched most haunted live over halloween and the man on there who does the emails and stuff has the most sticky out ears i have ever seen.:D
yes i do seem to watch loads of tv judging by my posts....not really:o
wish i could put a photo of my charlie dane on here for you but im so comp illiterate.....took me 3 years to get the dvd menu up on the tv so dont expect a pic anytime soon:rotfl:
charlie looks just like scheimcal off corrie...(there i go again with the telly refs:D )and scooby doo off the cartoons:D .....a gentle giant who sleeps alot, bless:rotfl:
and on the subject of tv.......:o ....jericho is on tonite and then drop dead gorgious straight after.. so thats me sorted.see, dont ask for much ,me and im no trouble really
take care all,
love ilgd xx

ilovegreatdanes

forgot to say....miro.....im glad it all went ok this morn and no S bumping.xx

johnroberts07

I feel a lot better, and Liverpool won 8-0:j

rose07

Hi guys

Hope your all ok

Miro, glad it went ok for you hun, your a strong thing at heart hun, keep up da good fight xxx

John, glad your team won, and 8-0 what a score

Hi to meyore, fantastico, and hayleigh welcome to yas, hope you settling in well.

Well im struggling atm, feel like im on me death bed writing this, got sent home from work yesterday, after nearly collapsing, im not well, got flu like symptoms, am hot and cold, sore stomach, drowsy, confused, sore al over but esp my neck as it very stiff, am sensitive to lights soo all lights in house are off, and i feel like death warmed up . Im sure i will be fine, just not feelin it.

just wanted to pop by while i have the energy as im quite weak atm
Feelin very alone too

GL check ya pms hun, wrote ya one back

To everyone Tiff, mumma (hope you both ok, check ya pms too), sf, rbk, sazzie, evry1, soz not got the energy to write everyones :ohope your all ok and keepin fighting

kl better go before yas catch anything :eek:

take care everyone

much love xxxxxxx

Tiff_2

Hi hayley! :hello:
Welcome to the clan hun - of course you can join in! I know from seeing your posts on the site that you've received some great support from the wonderful people here. But you know ol' Tiff has got to throw her 2 cents worth in! As I did with bltn, I've looked at your first few posts as a little group so I don't end up getting charged with littering the thread with Tiff replies - though I probably will anyway!

Hi
I hope you don't mind me posting, it's a lot scarier, posting this than I thought it would be. I'm just feeling very fed up and I don't really have anybody to talk to about it. I've been feeling very low for a couple of months now and i've been off work since the end of August. It started where I just felt sad and was crying for no reason and it's slowly just gotten worse, I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness and I can't do anything to make it go away, I can't leave the house on my own, i'm scared all the time, I cry a lot for no reason, I have awful panic attacks and I scratch at my arms so they just look awful and then that upsets me even more.
I'm sorry things are so up in the air for you right now, hayley. You know hun, that first post is always the scariest. You'll find that it can be good to share the load as it were, and I hope that's helping.
I've tried to break down the main areas you're worried about hun and what I came up with was...
- mental health issues
- work
- mum
- finances
- OH

I'm not a professional hun, but imho, it seems mum moving was possibly a trigger for you. That doesn't mean that it's the whole reason for your mental ill health. And even if it was mainly because of that, it wouldn't be unreasonable for that to be the only reason. You've just lost a big part of your everyday life with mum moving and with that can have an impact on your security and comfort zones. It's amazing what our minds can come up with hunnie, especially sub-consciously.
Sometimes there's no really obvious reason why mental ill health hits us, and it's common for it to be a combination of things, both large and small. I have spent many hours trying to figure out what and why etc., when maybe the best thing I could have done is concentrated on learning how to manage my health problems. Understanding the cause does not necessarily mean that you've found that elusive ''cure''. I know it's scarey when you experience mental ill health but you have to treat it the same as physical ill health angel.


I've been to see my doctor loads recently but he just puts it down to the fact that my mum moved in June (I'm in Manchester and she's moved to Gloucester) and i'm just missing her. I know that's part of it because I do miss her but that can't be whats causing me to be like this. I've been to see a counsellor but it was just for an assessment and i'm not having a proper counselling session for a few weeks.
Ok hun, so you've done the smart thing and seen your gp. The longer we leave these things, the more we fret about it and that just makes things even worse. I'm glad you're going to receive some counselling hun - it's hard work but it can make a difference to a lot of people. And if the counselling at the surgery doesn't work for you as you wanted it to, then there's always another option of seeing a counsellor or psychologist from the Community Mental Health Team. So if it's any comfort hun, there are always options to try.


I'm due to go back to work part time next Monday and i'm dreading it.
Give it time angel. See how you go on the day itself. Naturally, you're already worrying about it which can only make it a more stressful situation. It's a vicious circle, I know.

I don't understand why I feel like this, I should be happy, I've got the best boyfriend ever, he's been so great and he really looks after me and I have a good job and work have been very supprtive. I feel very lonely sometimes though, we live about an hour away from all our friends and family and I just don't see anybody much anymore. I used to go up and see people at the weekend but I just feel so fed up I can't even make myself go to the shop let alone sit on a bus for an hour.
One of the best things you can do for yourself sweetie, is to remove the words 'should', 'must', 'have to', 'ought to', 'need to' and 'got to' from your vocabulary. We really torment ourselves with all the things we feel we must do! You speak of loneliness hayley. Hopefully, once you're feeling a bit better, you might want to look for new things to fill your life, as well as your family and friends - eg. how good are you at salsa?! Passionate music, sexy partner, fun and good exercise - what are you waiting for girl?!

I feel like everybody's getting sick of me now, my mums been quite harsh to me, saying i'm just being selfish and i should stop thinking about myself. I don't know if she's going for the tough love approach but it just makes me feel ten times worse. She used to work at MIND, you think she would understand that I can't help it. The only person I feel like I can talk to and rely is my OH and I hate putting that much pressure on him, he's only 21, he shouldn't have to put up with all this.
Anyway sorry for going on.
H x
You're not 'going on' hun.I'm the one that goes on!
I'm not quite sure why you got this response from your mum, hayley. Even though she worked for MIND, it can be a different kettle of fish when it's within your own family. Maybe she's feeling frustrated because she can't do anything more to help than she already has? Do you say you want her to come back, or that you want to move where she is hun? Were you very close?
Maybe the trick to help here is for you both to start to plan holiday or weekend visits? That would give you something positive to look forward to. And although we all live via the phone and the computer these days, it can be much better imho, to have a letter written from the heart, to hold in your hand. You'd be able to hold these letters and read them whenever you're feeling low.


Sweetheart, no-one should have to endure mental ill health and its accompanying problems. I don't know how old you are hayley, but it sounds like he's a mature 21 year old. Now don't take this the wrong way (because that's how it usually comes out with me!), but hun, it's not up to you to decide what OH can or can't deal with. If he couldn't cope, he'd have gone already. Don't send yourself on such harsh guilt trips hayley. There's good and bad times in relationships and the worst thing you could do now is push him away or underestimate how much you care for each other. Take all the support he's lovingly offering hunnie. If the worst comes to the worst (heaven forbid!), then at least you know that you were open and honest with him. Don't worry too much about whether he's going to go either angel - let him decide what's best for him and enjoy what you have together as it comes.

I'm glad you're still trying to get out hun. Even if it's for 10 minutes, try and spend time outside every day, even if it's in the garden. Nature has this way of calming us. Some days will be easier than others hun, but don't stop trying.


I think that learning to relax deeply - and no, sitting on the couch staring at the TV is not relaxing because your mind is still spinning - could be a great resource for you to have angel. I know it's hard to believe but it can work really well for many people who are anxious and stressed. You have to practice it regularly for it to work though hun. I posted this technique a few times before, so here's the link if you want to try it - I don't want to be accused by the other family members of having repetitive strain injury of the mouth, by posting it all again!

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=491054&page=71


As far as work goes hayley, yes hun, they can let you go. I know it'd be a lousy thing to happen, but your health comes first hunnie.
After you've been ill for so many weeks, - can't think off-hand how many - you might want to look at the possibility of claiming DLA. If your mental health affects your every day life, you might be entitled to claim disability. If you do this hayley, please, please, please take it to CAB for them to help you fill it out. The wording is very tricky and important and they have huge experience in this. Remember also, if you and OH are struggling with finances due to losing your jobs, then CAB is a good port of call angel. There will be help for you. CAB should even tell you if you're entitled to any benefits, such as Incapacity Benefit.


With regards to the ad, you're on a very low dose hun, which helps to prevent any adverse reaction usually. The gp will monitor you too hayley. I know meds can be scarey angel, but they could make all the difference to you. You can either stay as you are, or you can give the meds a try. I know the instruction leaflets are terrifying to read sometimes, but reactions rarely happen hun. Talk to your gp if you're really worried. If it's any kind of reassurance sweetie, medical help is only 999 away. And if you're feeling jittery at first about taking them, call your family and friends for some reassureance hun. Most of us have felt like this about meds hayley.

I read on and noticed that you are still having some good days! I know it's all up and down and confusing but hang in there sweetie.
It'll all settle down angel and at least your dr is listening and your counselling has started. Never be afraid to book an appt, or a phone appt, with your gp hun if things get tough. The dr needs to know how you're doing hayley. Don't worry about seeing the dr too much - if it helps, you go see him hun. That's what he's there for. And you know there's a whole thread full of support here whenever you need it. You're not alone, even if you feel you are. I hope this has been of some help angel. Keeping my fingers crossed for you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi john!
Really pleased for you hun! Hopefully the next stage might be a nice refund for you just in time for Christmas. I'm sure you must feel like the world's been lifted off your shoulders john.
If there's anything you need help with, just shout out angel. The guys here are really great! I hope I was of some help hun and I'm glad you've been give some peace of mind - that's priceless! Congratulations hun!

Just think guys, there might have been a really terrible tragedy here all because someone who was vulnerable was being let down by officials and bullied - and all for nothing! No matter how desperate you are over a problem, please keep trying for help. Nothing is impossible - there's always help of some kind. People do care - the guardian angels on here show it every day!
(((TIFFY HUGS!)))
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Firstly John thats great news,so pleased for you,bet thats now a weight off your shoulders

I had a good day today,went to craft,then went into town to get some calenders for christmas presents so happy because when I got home I got my £50 Faith shoes voucher and that was waiting for me in my postbox I had just got my tea on route home so checked the box afterwards as I felt so hungry,now I am content for the night Mum and I will go shopping for some shoes and use the voucher so I am well pleased as punch


love and light,

Katie xxx