Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,
Well I rang Play.com this morning to find I had only ordered the figarine at £10.00 and that the dvd wasnt coming,I was so upset I really was that I cried and cried in my bedroom,Dad was talking to them for me on the phone .I was confused as to what happened with the order as my account said one thing and my e-mail said another.I have reordered the dvd now and getting a refund when its shipped out so that it ties in with what I should have done when the promotion was on,the man was very nice and I went back on the phone after Dad to say thank you.I get really confused you see but I am just so glad and relived that its all sorted the e-mail address for them is [EMAIL="info@play.com"]info@play.com[/EMAIL] as usual this is the first time I have had major problems with an order like this Today I am off doing a food shop at Asda

Hope you are all ok Have a lovely day

*hugs* to those that need it

love and light,


Katie

feelinggood_2

Dawnylou - if you were given medication for high blood pressure or something else, you wouldn't be beating yourself up about it. You have a very real and very valid medical condition, and its thought that a combination of medication and therapy is the best treatment, so please do not feel bad about being on medication. Try not to judge yourself so harshly - after all, most of us have been on medication in the past or are currently on it, and we aren't weak are we?

ilovegreatdanes

hi all,
katie....glad you got the dvd sorted.i love harry potter.really good excapism, probably just a big kid at heart, i am.
dawnly......i agree with feelingg,but i know what you are saying about relying on the meds.if they are doing you good then keep on, your doc will always review if needed or you can ask when you see her.
have taken charlie out for his walk and washed 3 floors ...and wiped my windows and doors down today, so have earned my comp time today.cant seem to come off once i start so am trying to get throu the jobs first.
take care all.
love ilgd xx

Tiff_2

Hi guys! :hello:
Well done - we made to Friday guys! Don't know how,, but we made it!
Advance warning to cb2 and jennyw of long overdue pms.
I've got a few more posts here that I've replied to, so here we go...

quote=feelinggood Morning all
I've been feeling a little low the past couple of days. Know that I've started having a few good days, the bad days seem a bit worse. Hopefully the stressful period will end soon. I'm awaiting delivery of a printer today, and thats the last of the buisness start up expenses. Just got to wait for some money to be made now! I'm not actually involved with the buisness, I'd loose my benefit if I did, and I'd quite like to keep it in the hope that they might offer me some help somewhere along the line. I'm looking forward to when things start to feel a bit more normal. Still no call from the CMHT, she said she'd phone me in a week to let me know what they've decided, but its been 10 days. The lettings agent was suppose to inspect the house 2 weeks ago. He didn't turn up, and I've recieved no email, letter, phone call or apology. I'd be very annoyed had I had to take the day off. I've actually phoned them twice about a different matter, and they've not mentioned it. I'm not going to mention it either, if I can get out of it I will!
Hope everyone is okay...quote
Hi fg!:hello:
Hoping today's a good day for you. What sort of business is it fg? Just be careful feelie, as there are very strict rules by councils etc, as to the sort of businesses you can run from home, even IT work. There should be a local chamber of commerce listing in the phone book so why not give them just a general, ''I'm thinking about starting a ...'' call, and see if they advise anything. You don't have to give your details - make it fairly general.
Of course there have been postal strikes, but if you haven't heard from CMHT, you should give them a call fg. It's frustrating but sometimes you have to chase them. It's good that you have recognized that you are having good as well as bad days feelie.


maisy-mai

morning all,
shattered this morning finally dropped off to sleep at 5am up again at 7 to get dd ready for school.
no naps for me today got to get more happy pills as run out and drive mother in law 20 miles for hospital appointment !!!
sorry to say just cant be bothered and not strong enough to say no can you ask somone els

Hi maisie! :hello:
I hope you're well maisie.
Just a thought hun, but won't your chemist deliver to your home? It sounds as if you're having demands made of you that you can't physically or mentally cope with right now. There should be a charity called Medi-Car in most areas, that will take people (elderly/disabled/poorly) to medical/hospital/drs appointments. They wait with you and are all vetted too, so mil would be fine. You only pay for the mileage so it's much cheaper than taxis, plus you have the benefit of having someone (a volunteer) wait with you. They don't charge anything for waiting with you. They also do one way journeys too. Very :money:!
And i guess maisie, we all need to learn that mysterious art of being able to say ''I'm sorry but no, I can't''! Don't overdo it ok maisie?
If you're feeling really rundown, or flat, you might want to check in with your dr hun about your depression.
Take care maisie.



quote=Pills44
Hi Everyone,
I wanted to say a big thankyou to you all for your support and advice and for making me feel so welcome on here.
And to tell you all..........my friend phoned me this morning. I was so relieved, so happy, I cried, she cried, so overwhelmed.
She has had family problems, and had not told me. I wish she had because that's what friends are for, even if she just wanted to be alone I would have understood.

She took her frustration out on me. She was so apologetic, so upset.
But I completely understand how she feels, and I have told her I am here for her also.

So we are back talking, laughing, gossiping, what we do best.;)
Thankyou everyone.
Hi pills!
How are you hun?
Firstly it really doesn't matter that you used a different name hun - all that matters is that you posted.
I'm sorry for the delay, but the d-o-g ate my homework! A g-r-e-a-t d-a-n-e, I think it was.
I'm so glad you had such a positive amount of feedback from the kind souls here.
We all have times, especially where mental ill health is concerned, where we're not our usual selves. I think that we have to bear that in mind sometimes, if something happens that's a bit out of character.
I know you were truly worried and upset and I'm glad there was a happy-ever-after result for you. I'm sure your friend is very grateful to have a friend so concerned about her and who values her friendship.
Enjoy your gossiping!

Thinking of you all guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

quote=karrie
Hi all
Not been around for a while due to redundancy and finding a job. Started job two weeks ago and it was awful. Minimal training, mind numbingly boring and a boss who was rude to me............... not anymore though :mad: So now I am unemployed again!!!
Depression is setting in and my ds has noticed. Just want to sleep all day. I feel I have let him down by not sticking with the job but I am the kind of person who will not put up with being treated like poo. I take things too personally.
So? What do I do now? Am registered with several agencies. Don't know what I am entitled to re benefit. Never claimed before.
Karrie

Hi karrie!:hello:
Sorry things are so rough right now karrie. So many of us are stuck in jobs just to pay the bills and wish we were challenged more. But thank God for the people who do them! I hate ignorant people - no need for it. Strange that :think: - they only tend to try that sort of approach with me once!
Ok hun, practical stuff...
- If you contact CAB, you should be able to get all the rules for claiming constructive dismissal. This is where 'they' make it intolerable to stay in a job and make your life awful until you quit.

- While you're there take in all your debt paperwork and ask them to help you work it all out.

- CAB will also be able to tell you what benefits you may qualify for.
- You're in the right place already, because MSE :money: and crew have a benefits checker on the site, as well as a board for benefits.

May be worth checking this out angel! It's MSE so you know you won't be judged.

Here's the link hun...
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1215

- It sounds like you've done all the right things re temp agencies etc. Keep an eye out for those pot of gold seasonal jobs that are around right now. They're not around long though angel, so get scanning those shop windows. Poundland are recruiting in this general area for example and yes I know it's not M&S, , but they pay by the week! When you're hurting for cash, especially near Christmas, this could be a Godsend for anyone with a branch near them.

- Are there any close friends or family that you could ask for help karrie? Depression and debt are a common duet. If you can help the depression, you'll be in a stronger position to sort the finances.

- See your gp about your depression hun. Leaving their job is enough for anyone to feel low, but when you have depression, it's harder.

As for ds, you're doing all you can, so try and hang onto that thought. He'll be proud of you for tackling this problem head-on hun and it'll be yet another good example for him, of not giving up and that there are answers.
Don't over-protect ds too much re your health hun. You don't have to make it sound scary but he might be thinking all kinds of things - as children do! A ds-directed version of what's going on might reasure him. You've done well by getting him into that school karrie and I'm sure he's much happier for it. He's seen you fight battles & that's a good example for him to learn from. Hope this helped a little.
Good luck karrie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

quote=Han
I was on anti-depressants for about 6 months back in 2002. I was bloody a mess as the pills made me act like i was 3yrs old. I had to make Rather a lot of apologies to a lot of people many didn't accept my explanations and i thought they were my friends. Any how i have managed to stay off the pills for ages now. I really get depressed more in the winter but since my Mum died 2 Years ago i just have coped at all and i haven't even began to deal with her death.

What i want to say to you is that i have managed to get through by taking St Johns wort and eating Bananas every morning as they help and walking at least 30 Min's a day can help too. I have left some site links for you to look at
and i really hope that you might find something that will help you.

I also sit and do crosswords as they are a good distraction from they real world.
I'm going to watch Ugly Betty on E4 in a minute. Take care and I'm thinking of you all. Good night and Sweet dreams.xx xx=quote.
Hi han! :hello:
Thanks for sharing your experiences han.
A couple of things niggled at me here hun and I broke them down - accurately I hope - into:
-your previous experience with ads in 2002,
-your mum's passing,
-your coping techniques.

With your experience in 2002 angel, you were obviously on a medication that wasn't right for you. Did your gp suggest any alternatives hun? I would imagine that there should have been some kind of support offered? I hope that you came off the meds while being monitored by your gp han. It's risky doing it on your own.
I guess there'll always be people who can't understand how people can be affected by mental ill health or by meds han. That must have been hard to have these friends turn away from you. It's 2007 now and you seem to be in a much better place. If your life is complete & you don't miss them, I'm pleased for you. If you want to, you could always write an explanation and tuck it inside a Christmas card and post them. Sometimes though, it's better to let sleeping dogs (lazy thing!!!) lie.

I'm truly sorry to hear about your mum han.
It's been nearly 2 years since my Dad passed away and I couldn't understand why the world kept turning. Still don't.:o I'm sure she'd be proud of the way you're managing things han. Please remember that your gp can refer you for grief counselling, when you're ready, and that the charity CRUSE also do bereavement counselling. Their number will be in your local phone book. I believe they do home visits angel if required. More than anything, there's no right or wrong way to grieve - it's an individual thing h.

You're in a good position by having armed yourself with various coping techniques sweetie. So many of us don't realise that we have to try and head depression and anxiety etc. off at the pass, before it reaches us. It's harder to deal with it after it hits us, than before. You've done positive things to help yourself angel - well done you! Might I just suggest a Tiffy thought hun? Don't firmly close the door on getting medical help, if you need some extra support. This is 5 years on & although your previous experience was bad with meds, there are so many to try with professional support and some good drs too. If you weren't happy with the one that was treating you at the time, see a different one angel. There is also the option of counselling. You should feel proud for mastering these distraction and relaxation tools and I wish you good luck h.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

feelinggood_2

Hi fg!:hello:

Hoping today's a good day for you. What sort of business is it fg? Just be careful feelie, as there are very strict rules by councils etc, as to the sort of businesses you can run from home, even IT work. There should be a local chamber of commerce listing in the phone book so why not give them just a general, ''I'm thinking about starting a ...'' call, and see if they advise anything. You don't have to give your details - make it fairly general.
Of course there have been postal strikes, but if you haven't heard from CMHT, you should give them a call fg. It's frustrating but sometimes you
have to chase them. It's good that you have recognized that you are having good as well as bad days feelie.

I can't be doing with phoning people and stuff. Its not my buisness, its his buiness and he is supposed to be dealing with that.

I got my pychiartist appointment date today - in 4 weeks. They had to give me a 9am appointment, means I've got to get up 5 hours early, which won't be fun.

What to do till then though :-/ I sort of resigned to the fact that at this present time, I've got to self-harm. Can't manage without it, and whilst I don't want to, there isn't an alternative.

ilovegreatdanes

tiff....re the homework.....wasnt my great dane, he was too busy eating loads of smarties hed found earlier.dont know who left them lying about unattended.......had to take him out earlier to walk the calories off.

lisa_martin_2

Well I dont know where to start really

Today I am feeling really LOW Last night I had a drink (i'm not an alcoholic) But everytime I have a drink the next day I feel so low. Today I just want to cut my legs open (I never have self harmed) sometimes I think that it would help me with the embarressment I feel everyday. I want to run away go somewhere were nobody knows me.

feelinggood_2

lisa_martin wrote: »

Well I dont know where to start really

Today I am feeling really LOW Last night I had a drink (i'm not an alcoholic) But everytime I have a drink the next day I feel so low. Today I just want to cut my legs open (I never have self harmed) sometimes I think that it would help me with the embarressment I feel everyday. I want to run away go somewhere were nobody knows me.

Hi Lisa, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling low. I apologise, but my memory is a little cloudy at the moment. Have we spoken before? If so, I'm sorry

Have you been feeling down for a while? Have you seen your Doctor?

I know from experience how strong the urge to drink can be, and how miserable it can make you the next day. Alcohol and depression don't mix very well, and a lot of people find that it is best if they avoid alcohol when they are feeling down. I also think that you should try very hard to resist the urge to self-harm. Its a slippery slope, and much easier to avoid doing in the first place - stopping can be very hard.

I've often felt like I want to run away. Is there something you want to run away from? You mention that you feel embarrased a lot, is something happening or do you think you suffer from low self-esteem?

If you have a serious urge to harm yourself, you can go to Accident and Emergency.

Keep talking