Depression Support Thread

Sugar_Coated_Owl

queensway_boy, What a sad yet inspiring poem. Thank you for posting it.

Tiff, :eek: OMG more men!!! :rotfl: I can't wait to hear all about it. I hope you behaved lol

Tulip, How is your ankle today? Does it feel better?

I watched Katie and Peter: The baby diaries the other day. Wasn't it lovely. I am looking forward to the next episode.

Do you know what she called her baby?

Have you been watching Live Earth today?

Tulip

Tulip, How is your ankle today? Does it feel better?

My ankle feels slightly better thanks RBK,Still in a bit of pain with it,managed to go out for a short walk today along the seafront as I can manage to put my weight on the ankle ok.

I watched Katie and Peter: The baby diaries the other day. Wasn't it lovely. I am looking forward to the next episode.

Oh the programme was so lovely too I too cant wait for the next episode

Do you know what she called her baby?


The Baby isnt named yet

Have you been watching Live Earth today?

I havent seen Live Earth today at all

Love and light,

Katie

Tulip

tulip - hope your ankle gets better soon hun.


thanks Tiffy


Katie

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

well I am off now,

I will chat tomorrow

love and light,

Katie xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Sleep well Katie xxx

juno

Did anyone miss me?! I went to Portsmouth. And um I have a girlfriend now

Sugar_Coated_Owl

:hello: juno, Of course we missed you! Did you have a good time? Awww it's lovely to hear that you have a gf

juno

We did have a wonderful time! Last night, we went up the Spinnaker tower and watched the sun set.

But I did miss you all lots.

Tiff_2

Hi goldie!:hello:
I'm sorry you're so low hun but you did the right thing posting how you feel.:T This way hun, you know you are not alone sweetheart, that people do care.

quote=imported_goldie;
Well for the second day running i cant seem to stop crying.Got so many different probs dont know where to turn,just want to crawl into bed and stay there forever.
That's really common hun. Crying is actually good for you as it gets rid of the chemicals in us caused by stress. Don't worry about it hun - it is good to let the pain out like this. We can't see any hope or answers when we're at our lowest and bed seems like a great idea - you feel safer there.
That's ok for a couple of days angel, but the problems will still be there when you get up. Part of the reason you feel as you do is because you feel helpless - you have no plan of action. To be able to make things get better goldie, you have to look after yourself.

Start with the basics. Write down a list if you have to and cross them off - eg. get up, shower, breakfast, read,etc. You need to look after yourself physically hun to get you well enough to deal with the other stuff.;)

Secondly hun, try and make your mind stop worrying about all the things, all the time. You have to take one day at a time. There's nothing you can do about many things on a Sunday angel so it's pointless fretting about it. Tell yourself that today is going to be your day, a day for looking after yourself, to start to feel more in control.:A

Found out today my son hasnt got through his first year at uni and may have to do whole year again and he owes thousands from his first year!
That must be really worrying hun.:o It sounds glib I know angel, but this is a practical problem and there's nearly always some kind of answer for those. He won't be the first or the last to be in this tough situation sweetheart, though that's no consolation I know.
You're still in shock from this news and naturally worried for your son. If you were skipping around hun, then I'd be worried about you. Give yourself time for it to sink in. You don't have to solve everything all at once angel.;)

Going to start taking my anti=deps tomoro - decided whatever the side effects are i cant feel any worse than i already do. Just have to get through the next few weeks until they start working./quote
And we'll be here to support you hun.;) If you have any side effects that don't go away or that worry you goldie, please see your dr - they can sometimes give something to help ease the side effects. If you're at all worried about your meds hun, please call your dr so they can advise you. Not everyone has side effects and I hope this is the case with you.;)

You've had a lot coming at you when you're not well to start with hun.:o Please don't be hard on yourself - you are actually doing very well; it's natural for you to feel this way right now hun. Like a lot of us, you are very hard on yourself.
Sometimes we have to choose our battles wisely, the ones which we can actually act upon. You can't save the world goldie, no-one can - sometimes other people have to step up and play their parts and we have to let them.

If you can list your problems, we'll address each one with ideas with you. Please don't feel you're alone goldie - you're not. Post whenever you want to hun - it'll help break the hamster wheel cycle you must feel you're on.

Most important thing right now angel, is to take care of the basics as I said. It's more important than anything else to get you on your feet first, ok? You've got the support of everyone here angel. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi michaela!:hello:
How are you? You've probably had a lot of help already :T , so sorry if this is too late hun.

quote=Michaela;
ok, heres my problem!
Say for example I thought I maybe depressed, and decided to visit the doctors, it would be on my record what was discussed??
Yes, it would. It would be very important to have an accurate record of your symptoms and treatments hun.
Your visits are confidential though. You can also try and apply to the surgery if you wanted to see what was in your records. There's usually a fee for this.

Say I was to split up with OH and he wanted custody, and he knew about my visits to the doctors, would it be bought up about what I discussed with the doctor maybe about me being a bit unstable and doing things that are not the norm?
Unless you are a serious risk to yourself or your child/ren, this might not affect the situation. No-one can access your records without your permission unless it's to protect you or others. The Data Protection Act is very strict on this. They would have to ask your permission if they wanted to access your records hun.
I can't really say because I don't know which sort of things 'out of the norm' that you are talking about angel.


So it would go against me, possibly not having full custody of my kids?
Every case is individual hun. It also depends on why you're separating and the situation of the parents involved. Unless the father was a threat to the children's well-being, and depending on how old they are, he might get equal parental responsibilty and visitation. No-one but a professional can evaluate this accurately hun.

Sorry to be so vague. Was going to put a false name but thought you might think I am a troll.
That's ok hun. It is highly personal and you may feel awkward posting - although here there's no need to be hun.;)


Right - medical records. Even though it may have mental health entries on there hun, the point could be turned around that you realised you were ill and that you were responsible enough to go and get help from your gp.
Having mental ill health is not necessarily grounds for you not to have custody. What the children want is also taken into account. Having mental ill health issues is not a crime hun. No-one can predict what's going to happen hun.

If I were you, I'd go to my local CAB in person for legal and financial advice angel.:T


I'd also contact my dr/mental health clinic and ask for the details of your Mental Health Advocate. They are very knowledgable about all things related to mental health and they know the laws and can make sure you are getting all you should and also advise you.:T Please be aware that they cannot represent you in a court of law, but they can go with you and advise and support you.


I would also go and see your dr hun and get a formal diagnosis/assessment if you haven't already. If your dr knows everything, they can support you too.
They may be asked for a medical report and if you agree, the dr might say that you are not a threat to the welfare of the children, or that with support, you are capable of raising children or that they feel otherwise.



What I think is despicable, is that people still try and use mental ill health as a weapon!

Don't be ashamed of having mental health issues hun. The main thing is to ensure that the child/ren are in the best possible place for them and that you get the help you need too.

Of course, any kind of health issue is relevant, especially in custody issues, but it doesn't necessarily mean that things will go against you. Remember too, that agreements reached can be reviewed if there are changes.

I'm not a professional hun and I don't know your situation, but these three contacts will be familiar with all help available so please go and see them. Their help and advice is free.
The most important point to remember is that the child/ren should get the best result for their welfare hun. I hope this helped a little angel.
Good luck.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx