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  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Its not important. I had a good friend here before I had to take my long break, and I don't think they understand why I haven't been in contact for so long. Its a shame, but probably for the best.

    I think people can get hurt easily, so need coaxing and to rebuild the trust.

    I know I get upset if people don't reply when I say hello or go moody on me.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Horasio
    Horasio Posts: 6,676 Forumite
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    Miroslav wrote: »
    Saz :wave:

    They said she looked fat :o She looked just how I like her, curvy :D :T

    I'm okay, I got really bad this time last year, and it seems to be happenning again :confused:

    How are you and your tube? :o:D

    I think it is the shortening days. I felt rather blue a couple of weeks ago.

    Britney does seem to be having some kind of burn out. She needs to take time out and recoup.
    An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :o :rotfl: :rotfl: :p :eek::mad: :beer:
    I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
  • Tiff_2
    Tiff_2 Posts: 3,046 Forumite
    Hi guys!:hello:
    How's everyone doing this morning?
    I must confess that I was all Tiffed out last night. Still, I got up at 4.30a.m. - no particular reason. :eek:

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    The Tiff Chronicles ~ Part 5 will arrive today I hope thanks to the above.:D
    I may even try and post some replies though I'm all the way back on page 67 generally speaking!faint.gif

    I've got the CPN coming today bless him - he might take me out for a walk he says.:eek: I've got news for him!:p

    Wishing you all a smooth kind of day - look after yourselves guys. Thinking of you all. hug.gif
    Much Love,
    Tiff xxx
    "If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.
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    'You just got Tiffed!' ;)
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  • Tiff_2
    Tiff_2 Posts: 3,046 Forumite
    Hi jackie!welcome.gif
    I'm sorry I'm about 20 pages behind hun - I'm sure all the great peeps here gave you some wonderful advice. Please post any time angel.
    I read through yout post jckie nd there seems to be few things that are feeding into each other. If we separate them into smaller pieces, it makes it easier to understand and plan for.;)
    It seems as though the issues are:
    - your dad's passing and your grief
    - your dr and your medication
    - changing your circumstances - i.e. - moving
    - fear and anxiety


    quote=themadbird;6094192Hi all
    I haven't posted on this depression thread before but feel so terrible at the mo, I'm in need of some help.
    Long and short of it is, I've had depression on and off for the last 10 years since my dad died and have coped pretty well on either Prozac or Seroxat, but at the mo we're (my hubby, mum and me) are in the stages of waiting to move from London to Essex (mainly for financial reasons - clearing the £40K mortgage for one). Thing is, I'm scared.
    I'm sorry for the loss of your dad jackie. I know how much it impacts on your life hun.hug.gif
    Obviously, your dad's passing had a profound effect on you angel and even though it's 10 years later, it's not too late to contact CRUSE who counsel bereaved people.;) Don't worry about the length of time it's been angel ok?

    It may help to have some counselling again if you already had it nearer the time. Our gremlins change & evolve in my humble opinion and they are quite persistent, so they need to be in their place. Your dad wouldn't want to see you suffer like this sweetie - he'd want you to build a good life for yourself. He'd want you to live & enjoy the life he helped to create for you.;) There is help for you hun so don't give up.

    The good thing is that you've recognized that you've managed pretty well over the last 10 years - it shows you have some insight angel & know that sometimes you can cope with or without the help medication.:T
    If you're unhappy with your meds hun and you think you need it re-assessing, never be afraid to go back to the dr & saying something along the lines of, ''I know you said the last time I saw you that the medication I'm on now should be enough. but actuallly, I'm finding that it's not making any difference to how I'm feeling and feel I need more help.'' Tell them that you're still having issues over your dad & grief.
    It may help to boost your confidence if you take someone in with you. And if you don't want to see this dr again, you can always see another one at the practice, if there is one. Never be afraid to go back if something isn't working for you hun. They're the pofessionals and that's what they're there for.;)

    I think everyone is scared when they have to face moving hun. It's natural but some people find it extremely hard to move and face changes because it makes them feel insecure & because they feel strong ties to where they are. Would I be wrong if i hazarded a guess and say that maybe part of you doesn't want to move because it has connections of you and your dad hun?
    If I were you, I'd try and recapture the excitement of the house move angel. Pen & paper out, & write a list of all the positives things you were looking forward to about the moving & keep re-reading it. ;)

    Usually when I've looked at moving before, I've got jittery at looking at houses, backed down and forgotten about it, but I felt so good a month ago I thought it was about time to do it as I really felt great about things for once and really confident. Only thing was, I didn't know I'd get sick 2 weeks ago (tummy bug) and it literally threw my confidence and I ended up having a mental crash again (I have a phobia of illnesses since dad died).
    It seems as though your heart was telling you it was ready for the change & you were excited. Sometimes too much excitement can provoke anxiety - they're quite similar emotions. And if you've been down for a long time, a change in mood can be a bit of a shock in itself and you can soar up - but we don't always come back down gently. One tip I'd suggest is grabbing a pen and paper

    I'm sorry you were so poorly with the stomach bug hun and your phobia of being ill. May I ask if you've got a CPN or psychiatrist or had any counselling hun?

    At this time, we'd already put in an offer on a house and I was infact getting quite excited about it, although the nerves were jangling a little. Anyway, I was on my lowest ebb - spending all the day crying and in bed - then the woman decided to pull out as her daughter had come back to live. Well although I was nervous, I had my heart set on moving there and it just made me worse. I had to go to the docs on Friday but he wouldn't give me any more meds as he said 40mg Seroxat I'm on should be ok and would work if I calmed down.

    Saturday I just had to get out the house and decided to go house hunting again and found a beautiful house, which we put an offer in for and got accepted, but again the nerves and fright have kicked in again about moving to Essex. Although I know the place well, I'm scared of moving there (does that sound daft). And I'm not 100% keen on where I live now (never have been really), but I know it like the back of my hand literally more than this place in Essex.

    I want to move, yet I'm scared silly........ any ideas??
    Jackie xxxx[/quote]
    By making these plans hun, you're in control & that will fight the feelings of anxiety. Fear is what hurts us & we have to be able to conrtol it. I hope this helped a little jackie. Keep us posted hunnie. Take care.hug.gif
    Much Love,
    Tiff.
    "If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.
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    'You just got Tiffed!' ;)
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  • *zippy*
    *zippy* Posts: 2,979 Forumite
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    Morning :hello:

    Hope its a good day for everyone

    Love and :grouphug:

    zippy x
  • morning everyone hope everyone well
    had a bad night spent most of it crying.my uncle die on sat of a heart attack they took my dad into hostipal as it is a herdity condition only foundout because of postmortam on monday .
    the thinng isno one rang to tell me only found out last night from speck to my sister.
    going to sleep and cry today i do feel ok if that make sence
  • *zippy*
    *zippy* Posts: 2,979 Forumite
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    Poppyjay :grouphug: take care huni.
  • CarolnMalky
    CarolnMalky Posts: 14,254 Forumite
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    Hiya sazzy :hello:, things are ok...still attending the Gyn at the hospital, and my mental health has been quite good, just learning to deal with things a wee bit better hun.

    Hope everyone has an ok day, fairy dust and hugs to all!!!
    C x
    If you obey all the rules...you miss all the fun!! Katherine Hepburn
  • hi,
    poppyjay....so sorry about your uncle,im thinking of you.xx
    miro.....as for them saying britneys fat....wish i was that fat!!!has a really good figure.ther was a prog on living tv other nitr bout celebs who yo-yo diet.britney was on, as well as opray,geri halliwell and kirsty alley.was showing how they gain weight and lose it really quik, and told you the really ages their bodies are.oprays 54 but her body age was 89:eek: seems to stem from all the stuff shes had throu her life, being abused and working 18 days, eating on the run and the dramtic weight swings.i know these celebs have loads of money but the tradeoff is not being able to have a private life.they cant go out when they have a bad day, like the rest of us and just blend into the background, cos the papparatsi are always after them for every scrap.the way they hound them, theres no wonder the celebs get mad.being right in their faces, shouting at them, pushin in front.i feel for britney,cos its true what you said, miro, they loved to build her up....and now they are takin great delight in showing her up.they should concentrate on the work not the person.
    same for the mcganns(she says ,changing tack:D )i dont know what to believe anymore.im going to leave my op till it all comes out, cos it always does.i do hope they havent done anything awful.i wouldnt have left mine in the first place, in a strange country, in the apartment, alone, but thats history now:rolleyes:
    hark at me, trying to out do tiff:D (only joking she says , as she ducks behind the wall:rotfl: )thats no smarties for me then:D
    joking aside,god bless you tiff.keep thinking there cant be much more they can throw at you,how you cope with it, i dont know:eek: :A
    anyway, ive waffled enough.....
    take care all.
    love ilgd xx
    People bring great joy into our lives..some by arriving, others by leaving.im trying to be one of the former, so please bear with :)

    LOVE ME, LOVE MY NEWFOUNDLAND.:A
  • Tiff_2
    Tiff_2 Posts: 3,046 Forumite
    poppyjay wrote: »
    morning everyone hope everyone well
    had a bad night spent most of it crying.my uncle die on sat of a heart attack they took my dad into hostipal as it is a herdity condition only foundout because of postmortam on monday .
    the thinng isno one rang to tell me only found out last night from speck to my sister.
    going to sleep and cry today i do feel ok if that make sence

    Hi pj sweetheart!:hello:
    I am so sorry to hear about your uncle hunnie.hug.gif
    My thoughts are with you and your family.

    The first thing I'm going to say to you angel, is that you have had a huge shock. It's unfortunate you had to hear the sad news over the phone hun, because I guess you must have felt helpless.
    There's no right way or wrong way of grieving as everyone knows. It will roll over you in waves and it will recede from you. So hun, you cry as much, or as little, as you want to. You do whatever you feel like hun and don't worry or be anxious - it's Nature's way of helping us through these times.

    You're bound to be reeling from the shock sweetie, so my advice would be to just take care of the basics pj - don't worry about anything else because you don't need the pressure right now.hug.gif

    How's your dad doing hun? Is he having any treatment? It must have been so hard for all of you. Thankfully, due to your uncle's post-mortem, they've found a hereditary problem and they're helping your dad because of it. I know there's no comfort in that now sweetheart, but at least your dad is being looked after now.hug.gif

    Hereditary illnesses aren't as cut and dried as we might think angel. It seems, as with everything else, that it's got its own set of rules. Some things are just passed down only through the male descendants, some only through female descendants and just to complicate things, sometimes they just skip a generation or two.
    There'll be time for the drs to explain it all later hun. Right now, just concentrate on dad.

    Do you live near the family angel? Are you able to get there?
    If it's a problem, whether you're working or not, there is the possibility of getting an emergency grant from the DWP to help get you home to the family, if pennies are short.
    Also hun, don't forget that CRUSE have trained and experienced counsellors that can visit you at home for free if you feel that would help.
    Your gp can also help you.
    Just a couple of thoughts angel.:o

    Sadly, I can't take away any of what you're going through hun. When someone passes, it's never the right time.
    You know, I hope, that the wonderful people on here will listen and care and help any way they can, so don't worry pj, because you're not alone. We're here whenever you need us angel.;)
    I'm thinking of you hun and keeping you close.hug.gif
    Much Love,
    Tiff xxx
    "If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought." ~ by Peace Pilgrim.
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    'You just got Tiffed!' ;)
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