Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

poppyjay wrote: »

hi goodmorning everyone hope everyone well thank you for yesteerday just seem to swing from low to high has not been happening as much since starting the new tablets so its been throwing me a bit when it does.
Had some bad news last night a death in the family in not a nice way police involved has shaken me up a bit .found i coped better than i would have a few months ago but i think if husband was there when i was told (he was a work) i would have cry for england its funny how differant people can have effect on you .I dont mean it in a bad way he knows me too well.has really opened my eyes to how important the people are that i loved going to ring everyone today and tell them had long cuddle with husband and little girl last night did not want to let them go
have good day everyone and tell your loved one you love them today

Hi pj!:hello:
How are you hun? I'm glad you felt better yesterday angel. You seem to have a good insight into your illness and the meds and how you're feeling. Hopefully, the wobbly bits will even out hun, but don't be afraid to mention it to the dr, if you're worried.

I'm so sorry for your loss pj.
It must have been a terrible shock sweetheart. I'm glad that cuddles helped you hun - you know you've got a couple of hundred or more here whenever you need them.

I just want to say to be prepared to possibly run through a whole range of emotions over the next few days and weeks hun.
You're bound to catch some fallout from the shock you've had. You're likely to be up and down and all over the place. Don't put too much pressure on yourself hun - just take care of the basics, ok pj?
There's no right way or wrong way to grieve angel, so don't worry about how you're feeling. Don't avoid your emotions either hun - what you're feeling is completely natural and it's a necessary part of grieving. I think grief comes in waves, imho, so don't set yourself any expectations for now hun - just go a day at a time.

If you want to talk to someone, then CRUSE help people through grief, and can even do home visits. If you're really struggling angel, go visit your dr - they'll completely understand.

I think it's a lovely tribute to your relative to let everyone know how much they mean to you. We all need to do this I think & I believe a lot of us who have lost someone here will relate to that pj.

If there's anything I can do angel, just shout ok? I know that's probably as much use as a fox in a chicken shed, but the offer's genuine sweetheart. Post whenever you need to hun. Tiffy will be checking on you and you know that the rest of the family here, will be doing it properly!
Thinking of you angel, and remember you don't have to deal with this on your own.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

BigMummaF

I've been thinking about my earlier post, when I mentioned a couple of tv programmes. Again I fear it was a case of my brain knowing what I was trying to say, & my vocabulary badly letting me down.
In our house, it has often been said that if the events I face on a daily basis were to be written as a script for a soap, it would be rejected as fiction.
I was--at no time--comparing a fellow poster's life to the shallow portrayal of a tv series.

I am genuinely sorry if I have caused offence to Tiff, or others.

BMF.x

Tiff_2

Hi bmf!:hello:

How are you hunnie? Hoping that you and your knees are in fine fettle today.

quote=BigMummaF;:coffee: :staradmin Hey Tiff.....not meaning to be flippant, but this is way better than Ender Street or Corrie Farm:rotfl: :rotfl: I'm laughing because my ex could well be the same person as yours,& I've done almost the same as you, even to counselling the 'new' partner when he was cheating on them! Love is Blind my !!!!!......more like people who care need not apply!
Soap opera? You should try living it!!! :rotfl::rotfl:

I've always said that if I wrote it out as a script and sent it in to a TV company, that it would hit the reject bin immediately because it's too unbelieveable!:rotfl:
Well, The Tiff Chronicles ~ Part 4 is nearly ready but I've held off until now because I really don't want anyone to think I'm hogging the thread and you're probably all sick of it by now. As I said, if anyone wants me to stop, no offence will be taken if you say so.
What makes it even more ironic, is that I do write poetry, fiction and essays! However, sadly, every word is true.
And I know you weren't being flippant hun.

I think the classified ads sections need to add a new ad just for me -

''Man with labrador required. The labrador must have a good sense of humour!''

Hi to All....hope you've had a good one & have booked some "me" time for the weekend. I was hoping to take pup out tomorrow, for his first walk since Tuesday, but the little mite has started coughing again.:o
Ssh! Don't tell them about 'me-time' bmf - they'll all be at it!
How's pup doing now angel?

AND the birthday boy from last week & I have had another run-in...he's down the pub again tonight, like he was last night & the night before that!:mad: But he cannot afford to drink like that, even soft drinks cost don't they--but more than that he is supposed to be signed off work with a bad back! We [the other offspring &I] tried to explain that if his boss wanted to, a private investigator could be checking on him to see just how bad his back is. And then he really would be up the Brown River without a paddle!
Parenthood should come with a Health Warning!
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFxquote
Oh hun, maybe he thinks you're the 'Bank of Mother's Finance'!
He probably thinks that you'll be the paddle too hun. I remember back when I wasn't tagged,, that soft drinks could sometimes be more expensive than the spirits. Probably because I'd go in and ask for a coke and say ''Make it a double.''!
I wouldn't dare try to outwit the government depts bmf - I'd always be the one who got caught!
He probably doesn't think things like that happen any more. I hope his back gets better once you remove your foot form his ...Ahem!
As Bill Cosby says, all children have brain damage - everything they do or say is the complete opposite of what the parent says. I think that having my first child was the ultimate form of birth control - I'm not going through that pain and surgery again! Still, I wouldn't be without him - he's a good kid. Though that kinda makes me nervous sometimes...:think:
Maybe it's just a stage your 25 year old is going through angel?

Anyway bmf, I hope all is well with you and yours angel. I imagine you and your knees are reclining while offspring feed you grapes and goblets of dizzy water.
Look after yourself sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

BigMummaF wrote: »

I've been thinking about my earlier post, when I mentioned a couple of tv programmes. Again I fear it was a case of my brain knowing what I was trying to say, & my vocabulary badly letting me down.
In our house, it has often been said that if the events I face on a daily basis were to be written as a script for a soap, it would be rejected as fiction.
I was--at no time--comparing a fellow poster's life to the shallow portrayal of a tv series.

I am genuinely sorry if I have caused offence to Tiff, or others.

BMF.x

Hi bmf!
OMG - I just saw your post! In no way did I ever think that was the case sweetheart!:A (((HUGE TIFFY HUGS!!!)))
Ironically, I was just posting a reply to that post, when I saw this post from you. Our posts must have crossed paths.
Indeed, I echoed the same thing about if my life were a script, it would get thrown out!:rotfl:
Don't you dare apologise sweetheart - you've done nothing wrong at all.
Here angel, have a blue smartie on me.....
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

BigMummaF

Yeah-I wish! Just fancy meself as Cleopatra, but would prefer to drink the bathful of milk than bathe in it:rotfl: :rotfl:

Pup seems to be fine, & is out for his first proper walk since Tuesday. He didn't cough yesterday so I presume he is the right side of recovery.

I'm sure that No2 offspring is a typical Kevin in an adult's body:eek: I just want him to grow the freak up:mad: And I dare not put me foot up his jaxie or I'll lose it for ever, cuz he's so far up there already:rotfl:

Don't worry about your post Tiff----like you say to others, when you're ready & in your own time. I've plumped the cushions to make a soft landing.;) ....
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Tiff_2

BigMummaF wrote:

Hi bmf hun!
Did you get my pm angel?
Much love,
Tiff xxx

BigMummaF

Yes thanks Tiff...just sort of realised--as has been said before--how one person can write something meaning it to be one way, & another can read a totally different meaning into it!
Anyhoo, where' the rest of the gang?

poppyjay

hi thank you for your kind words everyone im doing ok at min but tiff is right it does come in waves my little girl was crying about our dog(bob) who pass over at christmas today it bring all sorts of feelings back.
On a postive note for some odd reason im compleetly changing my lifestyle weather it works is another thing but im going to change ive started writing my diary on dfw (diary of the mad chicken keeper)i think i need to take hold of mydepression stop letting it control me if i can go to a girls aloud show when a few months ago i could not leave the house its now time for change there will be plenty on downs im sure but i really need to do this hope everyone will help me and if i canhelp you in any way please let me no i put my computor on about 5.30 to 6.00 in morning so im always about at that time if you cant sleep
big hugs to yoou guy and i really feel like you are all true friends something i cant say i have many of and would not say ifi didnot mean itxxxx

ilovegreatdanes

quik hi,
bmf....think we understand your soh by now.diff ppl cope with stuff in diff ways.you are a valued member of the gang, as is everyone.so keep on posting. xx
tulip....glad you are on the mend.....so get well soon!!! xx
tiff....just wanted to tell you again what a fan i am.keep up the posting,no matter how long. xx
hugs to everyone else.take care.
love ilgd(julie) xx

BigMummaF

I know what I was going to say earlier......
When the offspring were younger, they & their mates did the garden for me:j ! I supplied burgers, pizzas, fizzy & those little stumpy bottles of lager that are about 2% proof, & they cleared the back garden in the day! Gave them something to do, & they felt soooo important having a BBQ of their own....
We did something similar when we had to strip the wallpaper in the lounge & kitchen after an incident with a burst pipe, just whacked a load of CDs on real loud & warned the neighbours:rotfl: :rotfl: ....HTH. BMFx