Depression Support Thread

starlette44

Thanks feelinggood.

I'm thinking of having some counselling but NHS wait is long and can't afford private. I think that things are going to improve now that I've removed my main prob ie work. Just don't know what to do with myself now...my boyfriend works long hours and don't really have any one else to chat to...

xxx

feelinggood_2

starlette44 wrote: »

Thanks feelinggood.

I'm thinking of having some counselling but NHS wait is long and can't afford private. I think that things are going to improve now that I've removed my main prob ie work. Just don't know what to do with myself now...my boyfriend works long hours and don't really have any one else to chat to...

xxx

Well, you've got us to talk to now! It can be pretty lonely during the day when everyone is work. There is usually someone around on here though, which helps. My husband works long hours too, especially at the moment as he is changing jobs. I often phone my Mum for a chat, or I write an email to my Grandparents. Its easy to cut yourself off when you are feeling down, so I hope you can stay in contact with people.

Have you asked to be put on the waiting list? Its worth getting on it as soon as possible. I'm hoping the Community Mental Health Team will allow me to have some counselling.

It might be an idea to try and keep some structure while you aren't working. Getting up at a set time, washing, dressing and doing organised things like housework helps.

Would it be possible to get a low stress job that will cover the bills until you are feeling a little better?

starlette44

I really want to be with Mum and Dad right now, but Mum's away doing a training course this week. I'm feeling a bit weepy and panicky again now. My neighbour has been so great - she has been to the local doctor (I'm signed on with one quite far away) and has got me an appt to see her doctor on Wed. I'm going to ask for counselling then.

I just keep thinking why can't I be normal. I've lost all my friends. There is a lady from work who lives quite close and has been really nice to me and were meeting up tomorrow so I can tell her I've resigned, but I'm worried about becoming too dependant on people as all I do is cry.

If I can afford to, I'm going to go down to London one day this week to see my sister. She's been so great over the last couple of days and as she works from home I can go and see her.

Sorry for going on like this, and thanks so much for talking to me!

*zippy*

Afternoon :hello:

Hi feelgood noticed your little green light is on

starlette lovely to have you join us :grouphug: sounds like you have done the right thing hun if it was making you ill. I have at stuck jobs in the past that made me miserable and look back now and wonder why. Make sure you claim any benefits you are entitled to, as that will ease some of the financial pressure. I'm sure you will find something in retail no problem until you decide what you want to de next. As feelgood said there is usually someone here if you fancy a chat.

feelinggood_2

starlette44 wrote: »

I really want to be with Mum and Dad right now, but Mum's away doing a training course this week. I'm feeling a bit weepy and panicky again now. My neighbour has been so great - she has been to the local doctor (I'm signed on with one quite far away) and has got me an appt to see her doctor on Wed. I'm going to ask for counselling then.

I just keep thinking why can't I be normal. I've lost all my friends. There is a lady from work who lives quite close and has been really nice to me and were meeting up tomorrow so I can tell her I've resigned, but I'm worried about becoming too dependant on people as all I do is cry.

If I can afford to, I'm going to go down to London one day this week to see my sister. She's been so great over the last couple of days and as she works from home I can go and see her.

Sorry for going on like this, and thanks so much for talking to me!

My parents are away on holiday at the moment, and I'm missing my chats with my Mum. Me and husband are going to a funeral on wednesday, and I'll be sleeping at my parents house but they aren't there. Hope you can see your parents soon.

You are normal, you are just going through a hard time at the moment, but things will get easier. If you have lost a few friends, you can get to know new people, or maybe have a go at rebuilding friendships? I often isolate myself and push people away, but friends have always been understanding when I explain to them.

A trip to see your sister sounds like a great idea! Whereabouts in London is she? I went to stay with my brother in london for a weekend back in May and had a great time. I get on much better with him now we have both moved out, we used to squabble like anything.

I wouldn't worry about crying - it can be good to let things out and clear your head. Hopefully you'll be able to enjoy seeing the lady from work. Arranging meetings like that is a great idea, its lovely that you met a nice person at work.

If you are feeling a bit panicky, it might help to distract yourself. I find that if I sit down and force myself to watch a film, it isn't too long before I forget about feeling anxious and start to relax. A hot bath and a magazine helps too sometimes.

Its very nice to talk to you Don't worry about going on - thats the great thing about this thread, if you need to talk you can!

feelinggood_2

*zippy* wrote: »

Afternoon :hello:

Hi feelgood noticed your little green light is on

Hi Zippy, nice to meet you

How are you this afternoon? Have you got the sunshine there?

*zippy*

Yes its lovely now thankfully as i've put a load of washing out.

Its funny how you are never too old for your mum isn't it, my parents were away last week and I was lost without them. I feel so much better now I know I can pick up the phone to then if I need too.

Starlette that is great you are meeting a friend and you have a good neighbour.

starlette44

My sister lives in South London, Brixton I think. I have 2 half sisters and one half brother all older than me. They are fantastic. If I ever need any advice they are always there to help. I left university a couple of years ago 2 months into my course as it was awful and they were there for me then. I sound like such a quitter don't I?! I've just done something stupid and gone through my memory box I keep with all letters, cards etc in it and it made me cry. I'm going to take your advice and watch a film and hopefully that will help.

feelinggood_2

Hope you enjoy the film. I'm about to do some ironing for the first time in about 2 years. Husband is likely to be going to lots of interviews now, so I'll have to iron shirts regularly Usually he just goes to work crumpled hehe. I'm a terrible wife!

You don't sound like a quitter at all. Sometimes its better to walk away from things than stay when it makes you unhappy or unwell.

You mentioned you were thinking of going back to Uni, what would you like to do?

starlette44

I'd like to do an English degree as I was quite good at it at school and really want to get into studying. The way I see it, when I was at college, studying was great because the tutors helped and praised for good work and you were working for yourself and not for some company. I've looked into going to the local uni as a mature student and they offer help with finance so I'm going to book an appt to see them once I've sorted a job out. I've just been looking at jobs working with animals esp dogs as I think I'd enjoy that.
Haven't started film yet. I think I should sort the house out for when bf comes home...!