Depression Support Thread

queensway_boy

Hope your all well


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poppyjay

good morning everyone
hope everyone well and have had a good night .good luck with the day ahead .see you all when everyone woken up
xxxxxxx

BigMummaF

Morning.....feels quite like Autumn just now, but me knees are not moaning, so liiks like a crisp, fresh day ahead.

Couldn't help thinking about the way we all get along on here, & I know I am guilty of sometimes forgetting why people have origionally posted. The very nature of the way Big D takes us is huge & complex, & we need to allow for fellow posters to express themselves as they feel is necessary to their mood at the time. I seriously doubt that anyone on here would deliberately cause offence.......pondering over for now.

:T Whoop Whoop!_party_ Congrats on the job Gil! Don't forget to take a clean hankie & a pen that works.....we'll all chip in to get one of those little plastic thingies so you don't get ink on your shirt......have you got clean undies? you never know.....change for the coffee machine; packed lunch in a box with you name on it....ooooohhooooohhoooh Have you put your name in your jumper, in case you lose it at play time:whistle: :shhh: :silenced: :wall: A-D-U-L-T BMF....Gil is an ADULT!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

BigMummaF

Hi QWB....are you up v early, or just about to go to bed lol
I get times when I just don't sleep--smetimes it's nice to take in the sounds of the night & watch the world wake up to a morning of new hope. Other times the darkness surrounds[sp?] me like an isolation chamber......
Love the huggies btw..still too scared to push buttons on the pooter...I'm the one in films who cuts the safety switch & sends the bomb into super speed hehehe.
Hope you have a good one, be it daylight or dark. BMFx

queensway_boy

BigMummaF wrote: »

Hi QWB....are you up v early, or just about to go to bed lol
I get times when I just don't sleep--smetimes it's nice to take in the sounds of the night & watch the world wake up to a morning of new hope. Other times the darkness surrounds[sp?] me like an isolation chamber......
Love the huggies btw..still too scared to push buttons on the pooter...I'm the one in films who cuts the safety switch & sends the bomb into super speed hehehe.
Hope you have a good one, be it daylight or dark. BMFx

Hi and morning BMF,i rarely sleep through all night so sometimes i come on comp for a while then go back to bed later:o

poppyjay

morning all
just wondering i got myself a horror film out to watch later is anyone free tonight to check under my bed!!!!

dawnylou

BigMummaF wrote: »

Just a quickie for now....maybe the time is right for exploring new jobs, with all the xmas vacancies appearing, & you don't have to worry about not staying too long if you don't like it!
Catchas L8r. BMFx

I'm not so sure as most of those vacancies will be temporary positions and so after Christmas then I could be in a position whereby I will not have a job at all.

starlette44 wrote: »

Sorry to hear this dawnylou. To be honest the only reason I could leave this job is because my boyfriend ears ok money and I don't have a mortgage to worry about, just rent which we can cover for 2 months. I'm sure you have lots of skills which you aren't using in your job that you could use somewhere else. I felt like I was crap at everything as I cocked up simple things like remembering to prepare for meetings, but now I have realised that I was just being held back and under utilised.

It is scary I admit, but having support from family and friends, plus you guys on here with your inspiring stories, have made me realise that everyone is different and you just have to try and do something that makes you happy as life is too short.

If I am out of work then it will be a huge struggle as Fiances wage alone will not cover all of our bills. Our mortgage alone is over £600 per month!
I honestly don't think I have any skills. I have my standard GCSEs but my maths is quite poor now after all of these years of not really using my brain at all! I have no qualifications that would be of any use to anyone.

I was a Team Leader and I ended up stepping down as I couldn't take it (so I don't want to do anything that would put any similar pressures on me) since I stepped down in January everything had been so much better, until the last month or so.

My friend said I shouldn't leave and that she feels I work hard and am capable (even though I never hit my targets!) she also said 'if you leave how can you be sure you will feel any different anywhere else?' whereas my Fiance says my happiness is more important and how will I know if I just stay put and don't try something else.
But I guess I'm also a bit scared of starting somewhere new where I don't know anyone at all - and what if I prove to be a failure there too?? Or what if my friends right?
I just don't know what to do.

I just wish I could be a bit more decisive and also have a little bit confidence

poppyjay wrote: »

morning all
just wondering i got myself a horror film out to watch later is anyone free tonight to check under my bed!!!!

I would love to help you out but I am the biggest scaredy cat Sowwy


Hope everyone else is doing well. Looks set to be a nice day so me and Fiance are going to do the garden today
Everyone make the most of the sunshine!

Sazbo

Kwiky Sazzy hi to everyone :wave: Gotta dash, but just wanted to send big hugs to everyone, especially our Gilly Badger for his first day in the new job. The badger gets respectable....... who'da thunk it?!;):D

Much love,
Sazzarooxxxxxxxxxx

newlywed

dawnylou wrote: »

I honestly don't think I have any skills. I have my standard GCSEs but my maths is quite poor now after all of these years of not really using my brain at all! I have no qualifications that would be of any use to anyone.

I was a Team Leader and I ended up stepping down as I couldn't take it (so I don't want to do anything that would put any similar pressures on me) since I stepped down in January everything had been so much better, until the last month or so.

My friend said I shouldn't leave and that she feels I work hard and am capable (even though I never hit my targets!) she also said 'if you leave how can you be sure you will feel any different anywhere else?' whereas my Fiance says my happiness is more important and how will I know if I just stay put and don't try something else.
But I guess I'm also a bit scared of starting somewhere new where I don't know anyone at all - and what if I prove to be a failure there too?? Or what if my friends right?
I just don't know what to do.

I just wish I could be a bit more decisive and also have a little bit confidence

Hi, I pop in and just read here from time to time. Just reading the amount of support on here is amazing and helps.

I popped by to read the Tiff chronicles - can't believe how much you and DS have gone through in your lives. The advice and support you give here just shows how outstanding a person you are

Dawnylou - your post caught my eye (sorry didn't read your previous ones). I thought I may have something small to add. I got an office job as soon as I left school and worked there for 11 years. They went on the principle of tread you down and you'll never look anywhere else. Phrases like "no-where else will be like this, no-where else will let you do that etc etc" to make everyone think they were a wonderful firm.

Eventually I was bored stiff in my work, stressed with my boss and dreaded monday mornings when I would have to walk through that door and start the week over again. Used to think if I at least broke my leg I'd get some weeks off!

One day it dawned on me that maybe, just maybe every person who had left and said it was the best thing they'd done was right. So I started looking in the job papers for a job I thought I could do and that I thought I would want to do. After about 2 years of looking and contemplating, it dawned on me.

I found a junior IT role (probably the oldest junior they'd had there :rotlf: ). I went for it, got the 2nd junior job I went for (only 1k less than I was earning so not too much of a drop).

And though I was scared about changing my type of job I knew that I could always go back to the old office job just somewhere else. I wasn't sure I could do it, wasn't sure I'd have enough skills for it. I had no real experience in that area and no qualifications other than GCSE's.

But I did and I loved it and was made team leader within 9 months. The firm appreciated me, supported my suggestions and gave me more confidence than I ever thought I would have. I couldn't believe that I didn't hate mondays anymore!!!

Then a few years later I moved to a smaller firm with lots less stress and more money.

You will never ever know what you are capable of if you don't at least try it! That's my motto now (and includes trying new foods regularly too)

newlywed

Oh and another reason I wanted to post was that last time I was really in a black place, I read this thread and people mentioned CBT. I found an online CBT session which really helped me, as I know my black moods are all from my head taking over and twisting things round.

So in case it helps anyone here at all (as many posts here have helped me without you even knowing it) here is the link:-

MoodGYM Training Program(http://moodgym.anu.edu.au)