Depression Support Thread

EthelBloggs

geminilady wrote: »

Tiff your chronicles have put me through a rollercoaster of emotions.Thank you so much for sharing your life with us.I cannot wait for part three.You have been through so much in your life but the main thing that stands out is what a survivor you are.Some might say your hard life has made you strong but i think it must have been there all along or you would not have survived all you have been through and still come out fighting.Rocky has nothing on you.

That goes from me double Tiffster.. your strength is an inspiration and makes me realise that things can get better, no matter how hard they seem at the time. We always knew you were an amazing woman and you've just let us know how amazing you are!

Update from me is that my girlie has been out of hospital since July and is starting college next week :eek: We've got a meeting at school on Monday with the EWO to try and get the school to release the money they get for DS so that he can get his education elsewhere as he's adamant he won't go back there.

Hiya everyone, hope you're all fine.

How's you Gem?

EthelBloggs

Karrie wrote: »

Tiff - huge hugs - you're a great lady!

Well some of you will remember that my son was being bullied and he was allocated the school where the bullies were attending. I appealed and he was allowed to go to the school of his choice. Well, it's his first day at the new school and he was so so happy. And so am I! You guys got me through that awful time and I just wanted to say thank you for all your support. To see my son SO happy today brought me to tears.

That's great news Karrie!!!!
We lost our appeal so my boy is school-less atm, but hopefully that will be sorted out next week.

big hugs to you both xxxxxxxx

rose07

Hi Tiff hun

I just want to say I have been reading your chronicles and they strike a chord with me, i can relate to alot of the things your DS went through, tho i cant imagine what it must have been like for you hun, being seperated from him in the way you were.

I hope ya dont mind but i took two bits out hun, coz they prob the two thing that mean something to me....

(your bits are in purple hun)

I had involved social services because I didn't know how to help DS anymore & I didn't want him to kill himself.
DS was crying. My heart froze. I agreed, God help me. I know I had no choice, but I could feel the six pieces of silver in my heart.
The look of fear followed by hate, that my 13 year old DS gave me when I told him, will stay with me forever.

Firstly hun, i want you to know you only did this because you had no choice ok? it important to know that yaself You like many here were only doing the best for your son. He would say things to upset you and lash out at you, as you are the closest thing he has hun, and when we are upset we do lash out at the ones we love. I hope you know how much of an important role you played by being there for your son;), (i know when i was younger (same age as ya son really) and screaming out for help i was on my own, I was getting abuse at home and abuse at school, so had nothing but my friends at that time). Us kids do things we dont mean and say things we dont mean too, and im sure your DS didnt mean what he said hun, i have done the same myself.

He was really close to his tutor and to the school mentor & they really loved him. I'd just like to say at this point that, more than anything, I wish every school had a permanent counsellor or two on staff full-time, because it made all the difference with DS.

I totally agree with you there hun, would be great if every school/college had a tutor that could spend the time with students that they needed. (When i was at college i found a friend in my tutor, it may sound silly this, but he became a good friend, (I had just lost a friend at the time, and was going through it really bad, my depression got worse, my friends drifted away, and the only thing i had was my studies. He got me through each day, he spent the time to talk to me, to listen, which makes a hell of a difference. There are two days i will never forget from my college days..it was a friday, me and one of my friends were sitting in the hall way of the multimedia block, all of a sudden one of my mates came in through the door with blades in his hand, he was in a bad way and was really hurting, (i just wanted to take away his pain), he started shouting and all of a sudden came running towards me and my friend who was close by...he started to point the blades at her, and kept shouting, he was angry and in not a good way, i understood how he was feelin, ....all of a sudden i didnt know what hit me call it adrenalin, i got hold of my friend and pulle d her out the way so it was me infront of the blade not her, she ran to get help...then i found myself in danger ...all of a sudden he ran out the door of the media block, realising he still had the blades and was unstable i ran after him..he ran out of the collge and down the road, i ran as fast as i could, caught up with him, he burst into tears, and put the blade against his wrist and started pressing hard, i could see his veins and blood, i started to distract him i talked to him, and somehow managed to calm him down ..i convinced him to hand the blades over...he fell into my arms...we continued to talk and he told me what was wrong...i told him to go home and listen to some music and call me....i went back up the road, and into college, and up to the media department..then realising i had the blades in my hand, and that now i was in danger of myself.. i ran to find my tutor.. i found him and burst into tears telling him what had happened, i gave him the blades telling him i didnt trust myself with them, he took me to the studio and we sat and talked properly. I have to say it was soo good to have someone like him there, certainly got me through things.
The other time i will never forget what he did for me, it was coming up to the end of college, and i was staying late at college getting a project finished, my tutor had said he would be downstairs doing a first aid course...i dont even know quite how it happened i dont even remember doing it...I od..when i realised what i had done i texted him...he found me collapsed on the keyboard..he laid me on the floor and gave me mouth to mouth another tutor came in and put a cushion under my head and put me onto the recovery position...its quite simple i wouldnt be here if it wasnt for him, and thats something i will never forget....i have kept in contact with him , and each time i was home from uni would go and see him at college. I guess my tutor seen the potential in me, he got me through college, which got me onto the course i did at university. And he has been there for me since leaving college, we are now friends, and i still go back to college and check up on him, which he likes me to do, he is the photography tutor, and has given me permission to do my photography up there, which is great, i can keep doing what i love.
I will never forget the people that have been there for me, and he is one of those people, and im soo glad we kept in touch through all this time

ok soz, i went on a bit of a tangent there ... lol


Tiff i hope wherever you are the angels are watching you hun, because you are one. I hope the things you ave been through have made you and your DS stronger, sometimes we have to get hit to fly...;). You are an inspiration, an angel, and are a role model that your DS can be proud off, well done you

Im soz i cant reply to the rest of ya post or to anyone elses here atm but i got alot going on atm, to the point im just about getting by. Might give you a rosie essay sometime ;), lol

I hope you and everyone are ok

much love and huggles

xxxxxxx

rose07

Just to say Tulip (katie)

hope you get the rest and care/support you need in hospital hun.

Just make sure you get better thats the main thing, and we will all be here for you when you get back

may each day make you stronger and you feel thr strength from others

take care hun

xxx

rose07

To everyone

hope you are all ok and that your angels are watching over you

Im off now, as have to cycle to work tomorrow, and im still not well and feelin welll eugh lol but what wont kill me will make me stronger eh?

take care everyone

and sweet dreams

xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I'm hoping everyone is hanging in there. Nearly the weekend peeps - shall we make sazzy do overtime?!:eek:


I wanted to say a huge thank you for your patience with The Tiff Chronicles. As I said, this is leading somewhere & it wouldn't make sense if the full story wasn't known.

I do feel guilty for taking up all your space.
I don't want anyone not to post, just because I'm rabbiting on!:o
Equally, I've been surprised - though I don't know why because you guys have always been amazing :T :A - by the support you're showing to me. (Tiffy tears - but don't tell anyone - just between you and me ok?:o )

Lots of things I know I couldn't help happening, but I felt ashamed anyway and worried that if I let them all out, the catflap would be locked & Tiffy would be left sitting in the middle of the M1!:eek:
I will reply to your remarks guys - my apologies for still not getting round to pms & thank you for your patience.
I'll post part 3 today.
Right, off to Part 3 guys...erm...just how long was ''War And Peace'' exactly?!!!:eek:

I hope you believe that what you've done for me with your support has been deeply appreciated and that I'm sending Tiffy love right back to you all to help you get through your tough times.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

dawnylou

Tiff - Have you ever thought about writing your own book and maybe having it published?
Obviously this depends on everyone involved too - but I just think that your story is so moving, and to have a book published would be a great achievement also!

A book could also help others out their to understand that they are not to blame for things that have happened in the past, and how no matter how terrible things get that things will get better sometime, somehow.

I think you are an incredible woman - and I wish I had known someone like you a looooong time ago

queensway_boy

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Tulip

Hello Everyone,

I have settled into the hospital ok and chatting to the nurses I am being well looked after,I am having a 2 week stay so that I can feel completely rested and refreshed and be the normal me again

Have a lovely day and I will chat to you all soon,thanks all for your kind Get Well wishes,it means alot to me and QWB You are on for that game of table tennis

love and light,

Katie xxx

juno

I'm not happy today :mad:

I had blood tests today. I hate them, and have really awkward veins, so I was supposed to be seeing my doctor for them. Except the receptionist who booked it lied to me, and said I was seeing my doctor when actually I was seeing a nurse! And I wasn't told it was supposed to be a fasting blood test either.