Depression Support Thread

poppyjay

Tiff i dont no how you have managed to cope with whats happened to you.(sorry if thats the wronge thing to put)
BUT YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF
none of this was your doing .the way you have fought for your child is amazing you sound like a great mum and you should be very proud of youself.
BMF injoy your walk is it nice and sunny with you ?

BigMummaF

Morning Fledglings! Glad your up..........
Weather is sunny but quite cool at the mo, & pup is still snoozing so will go out later....& fingers crossed for the post office. Are they not busy ALL the time?:rotfl: :rotfl:

FeelingDown......ooh babe, could I just say one thing? My advice would be to sit back & try to look at your situation through a stranger's eyes. If your mate was going through it, what would you say to them? I can sort of speak from experience here, cos I did the dressing up for when he came home, & smiling sweetly as he went out again after work.
I used to tell myself that as long as he came home again, we would be OK.
After he finally walked out, I began to realise just how tense I had been all of the time, waiting for the next reason for my annoying him. He left two days before bubs sixth birthday, but within six months I knew that I was more than capable of bringing up three children without his help & especially without his hindrance! I will admit that it took a lot longer to recover from the feeling of being an inadequate wife & lover, but hey who needs it! That's only one male's opinion;) :rotfl:

Tulip..hope you're feeling better today....plenty of water & squash type drinks for you my girl! Apparently milky type drinks like tea & hot choc can bung up your nose even more, & that's why the doc always says to have clear fluids.

Have as good a day as is poss folks.....

dawnylou

Tiff - you are so brave huni!

You have also been through so much, but rather than dwelling on it you take all of your time to listen to others and try to help them to deal with their own problems.

I don't want to say too much as I am terrible with my way of words and I don't want to upset or offend anyone in any way.



However I would lso like to thank everyone for their support and for crossing their fingers as we went for Fiances ultrasound yesterday and we were told nothing to worry about. Cancer free!!!!!!

Just awaiting results of one sample - STILL!!!


At last it feels like life is getting back on track and we can finally start relaxing and enjoying our time together.

Of course there will always be lapses as far as I am concerned (what with the feelings I sometimes get - hard to describe - worthlessness, horrible inside, don't deserve to be happy, damaged goods?) This is always going to junp up and bite me on the backside every now and then, probably because I have never had closure. Always left to wonder why me? But on the other hand maybe none of it was real? But either way I have to learn to deal with it. Once I can move on with my life completely I am sure life will be brill

EthelBloggs

Tiff wrote: »

Hi guys!:hello:
Where do I start?

*snip*

THE TIFF CHRONICLES - PART 1

Wishing everyone a great day. Would much rather be replying to issues than making a fuss!
Part 2 later today and then maybe it'll all make sense - and then maybe you can explain it all to me!!!
Take care guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiffster... all I can say to you is wow..... you should be called wonderwoman!! You're an amazing woman and much loved and respected by so many.. and deservedly so. I know how much it took for you to write all that.. I hope it was cathartic in some way to get it all out at last.

Lots of love,

R xxxxxxxxxxx

juno

Tiff, I started crying when I read all that. I can't imagine what it was like to go through, but you have and you've survived. You should be proud of yourself.

Feelingdown, well done for going to the doctors

Dawnylou, that's great news :j I hope the other sample comes back ok. I've got my toes crossed for you

juno

Tiff wrote: »

Hi juno!:hello:
Bless you hun, let's have a look here...

juno wrote:

Every other time I've seen the psychiatrist, my CPN has been there. It even says that in my care plan. But my CPN is off sick, and so she won't be there. So I've got to go and see this new person whom I've never met before and tell them all about me.

Unfortunately, everyone, even CPNs, get sick and the effect on us can feel really negative, as we use them as our safety rope.:o So what you're feeling angel is completely natural.;)
This new person hun, will be a mental health professional and will do all they can to make you feel comfortable.;) I know you're nervous hun, but this could be someone you really get to like and trust. Do you remember when you first met your CPN hun? I bet you felt the same about her then, yet you've built up a relationship with her. It could be the same with this new person angel.

And I've been really bad recently. I know I'm not going to make the best of impressions, and if they say anything I don't agree with I know I'll just agree rather than try and state my objections. I'm sure they're going to put me on some medication, and I wrote about why I don't want that in an earlier post.
And I'm really scared that they're gonna want to admit me, and I won't have my CPN there to fight for me.
I can hear the panic and fear that you're feeling hun, but none of those things might happen. These people only want to help us hun. You don't have to make any impression hun - in fact, it's important that you're just yourself. Don't be afraid to ask questions hunnie, they'll be happy to answer them.

It's not about having your CPN there to fight for you sweetheart. I think that what your CPN does is explain things for you to the dr. That's quite different angel.;)

I know how we generally all feel about meds, appointments and possibly being admitted juno, but what we never remember is that this can be a good thing. If you are admtted, it will be for the shortest time possible and wouldn't it be worth it, if it got you the help you need to feel better?;)

Fear of the unknown is what makes us scared angel. If you find it hard to tell the dr, type up how you feel like you were doing a post here and print it off. That can really help. Take someone with you that you trust. The dr won't force you to do anything angel - they want to work with you, not against you.;)
After the appt., think back to how you felt when you posted this angel and I'm hoping you'll find it was different to what you expected it would be. Hope it went well hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

I'm seeing my psychiatrist again this week, and I'm not as scared this time! I know she'll be reviewing my medication, but my friend says it's probably what I need right now and they'll try their hardest to get one that suits me. I've already decided that I don't want any "SSRIs" since they sent me loopy all the times I've been on them, so I'm hoping that it'll be in my notes somewhere and if I tell them then they'll give me something different.

And I'm having blood tests on Thursday. They want to check for physical causes. Do anyone know what they might be? I'm being awkward and insisting to see my nice doctor, so I have to wait weeks for the results.

*zippy*

Gosh tiff thats is an awful lot for one person to have to go through :grouphug: You are an one amazzing lady. As others have said, I hope writing it down helps lighten the load.

Dawnylou so pleased for you hun that the tests were clear :T

andipandi_2

Hi tiff, thanks for sharing your stuff,must have been quite gruelling getting it on the thread,all the memories and having to type that lot in,and theres more to come as well? my oh my

kind regards
Andy

BigMummaF

:mad: Just did a good'un & pushed the wrong furkin button!!!:wall:

Bay sicka lee.....Day started good...its Tuesday so Holby's on in a minute, & Casualty is back this weekend. Took pup out as promised & weather reasonable for September.

Then pup starts sounding peculiar & throwing up, so a quick trip to the vet & the poor mite has early stage Kennel Cough......he's had an injection & has a course of antibiotics to take, & we've got to watch him for the next week to ten days:( Its just like having a baby, cuz they can't tell you where it hurts or how they feel.

Enough of me.....did wonder about the protocol of pm Milo or any AWOLs, just to make sure everything is OK? Being a newbie to forums, I don't want to just go barging in where I'm not supposed.....not like me I know:rotfl:

Anyhoo, I'm gunna pull up a cuppa & fetch me slippers in readiness for the next hour!

Catchas Later.x

*zippy*

Morning :hello:

Aaww my "baby" starts comp today I've been very good though and not cried and I resisted the urge to fuss I'm sure she will have a great day.

Wishing everyone a great day :grouphug:
zippy xxxx