Depression Support Thread

BigMummaF

WuuuuuuwwUUUUuuuuuu! Theme from the X Files...just been reading about toothache on another thread--:eek: -how spooky is that? The advice was:- water as hot as you can cope with,& good spoonful of salt to use as a mouth wash; can you get to a supermarket? Go to the baby section & look for teething gel--good stuff for us biggies too!:p
Sorry to hear you're going through it...& you're right....there are no words. My one piece of advice, gleaned from several wise people over the years, is to make sure that you tell your loved ones everything you would like them to know NOW...before it's too late. The day my dad went back into hospital, I sat beside him in his bed at home, just being his 'little girl'. He passed a week later, but I still feel his closeness. Similarly with my father-in-law, he was at home briefly & we just sat together quietly with my eldest son, who was only three weeks old. FIL said he would hold my son when he was stronger, but passed in hospital later that night, but again I feel his strength around me.
So don't put off telling the people you love how special they are to you....you don't know how long either of you have got left.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

feelingdown

I need some advice plz.

I suffer from depression and came off y tablets about 4 Weeks ago (stupidly without talking to my doctor). Anyway here is my problem. My oh is away for 5 days, i asked him not to go as i hate being on my own and since we both Had the week off work i thought it would be nice to be together but he went anyway. I have found out that he is going out tonight for a 12 hour drinking spree and its upset me because he is getting to go out. I know it sounds stupid and selfish but i have never been out since i had my little boy 4 years ago. I have no friends and dont find it easy to talk to people. I am constantly paranoid that he is gong to do something while he is out as i am not one of those thin girls that everyone goes for. I dont know if i m with him for someone to be with or whether i really love him. I think i love him but when i cant trust him is there any point in us being together. Its such mess. I'm a mess. I'm all over the place. He comes back tomorrow nd i dont know whether I'm going to be happy to see him or upset. I thought he was happy with me but i think he might want the single life now. (I must say that he is not my child's father so does not have the responsibilities i have. I cant just get up and go on a big night out.)

What should i do. I'm sorry for babbling on but I'm really stuck. I have told him we have to have a chat on Sunday but i dont know what else to do.

juno

Hi FeeingDown! :hello:

I don't have any advice, but have a hug

geminilady

feelingdown wrote: »

I need some advice plz.

I suffer from depression and came off y tablets about 4 Weeks ago (stupidly without talking to my doctor). Anyway here is my problem. My oh is away for 5 days, i asked him not to go as i hate being on my own and since we both Had the week off work i thought it would be nice to be together but he went anyway. I have found out that he is going out tonight for a 12 hour drinking spree and its upset me because he is getting to go out. I know it sounds stupid and selfish but i have never been out since i had my little boy 4 years ago. I have no friends and dont find it easy to talk to people. I am constantly paranoid that he is gong to do something while he is out as i am not one of those thin girls that everyone goes for. I dont know if i m with him for someone to be with or whether i really love him. I think i love him but when i cant trust him is there any point in us being together. Its such mess. I'm a mess. I'm all over the place. He comes back tomorrow nd i dont know whether I'm going to be happy to see him or upset. I thought he was happy with me but i think he might want the single life now. (I must say that he is not my child's father so does not have the responsibilities i have. I cant just get up and go on a big night out.)

What should i do. I'm sorry for babbling on but I'm really stuck. I have told him we have to have a chat on Sunday but i dont know what else to do.

Hi feelingdown,welcome to the thread,as you said it was not a good idea to stop taking your meds without speaking to your doctor.I think you should make an apointment and put him in the picture.When doctors advise coming off medication they cut them down gradualy over a period of time.
Your problem is a differant matter.I can understand you feeling upset that your partner went away when you asked him not to.As to the drinking spree don't know old you and your partner are but sounds like he wants to act like one of the lads for a few days.This does not mean he wants the single life just that he wants a break.Please don't take this the wrong way but you cannot blame your partner for the fact that you have no friends,he can't make them for you.Your son will be starting school soon and that is a great opertunaty to make friends,even though you find it hard to talk to people things can develop from a simple hello and a smile to the other mums.
Your partner is with you because he wants to be, if he wanted someone stick thin he would have chosen them but he chose you, remember that.
Glad you have suggested that you have a chat on Sunday that is the best way to resolve this,talking about it together.You said that as he is not your sons natural father he does not have the responsabilities that you have well sorry i do not agree you come as a package and if he is acting as a father to your child he must accept all the responsabilities that come with it.Do not apolagise for "babbling on " that is what this thread is for and you are very welcome.

BigMummaF

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BigMummaF

Morning folks....bit grey & overcast here just now, & I do believe a twinge in the left knee.

:wave: to all the newbies, hope you find some solace in our little cubbyhole here! Have to say that Tiff, Sazbo & the others have made it very comfortable...perhaps they had help from Laurence Llywellen Bowen[:drool: :drool: ]

Relationships are soooo difficult to understand arn't they? I hope you can talk through your differences & find a workable solution, whether it be parent & child, sibling or partner.

Have as good a day as you can folks.
Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

poppyjay

hi hope you dont mind me joining but i could really do with some help finding things very hard today .i changed my tables with the doc and they have about 4 months ago been working very well im on max dose now for about a month and can really see a change from jan 06 have not really left house because of panic attacks .i have a little girl of seven and we are going to see girls aloud tonight from not leaveing the house to going to concert is a big jump.Have been fine leading up to it but am really panicing now had big fight with oh last night not much sleep but i really need to do this could really do with so advice thank you

feelingdown

geminilady wrote: »

Hi feelingdown,welcome to the thread,as you said it was not a good idea to stop taking your meds without speaking to your doctor.I think you should make an apointment and put him in the picture.When doctors advise coming off medication they cut them down gradualy over a period of time.
Your problem is a differant matter.I can understand you feeling upset that your partner went away when you asked him not to.As to the drinking spree don't know old you and your partner are but sounds like he wants to act like one of the lads for a few days.This does not mean he wants the single life just that he wants a break.Please don't take this the wrong way but you cannot blame your partner for the fact that you have no friends,he can't make them for you.Your son will be starting school soon and that is a great opertunaty to make friends,even though you find it hard to talk to people things can develop from a simple hello and a smile to the other mums.
Your partner is with you because he wants to be, if he wanted someone stick thin he would have chosen them but he chose you, remember that.
Glad you have suggested that you have a chat on Sunday that is the best way to resolve this,talking about it together.You said that as he is not your sons natural father he does not have the responsabilities that you have well sorry i do not agree you come as a package and if he is acting as a father to your child he must accept all the responsabilities that come with it.Do not apolagise for "babbling on " that is what this thread is for and you are very welcome.

Im feeling much better today. Iam going to my doctor on Monday and chatting with my oh on sunday. As you said its my problem i have no friends and i have decided its time to change that. I lost ll my friens when i had my son but now i can have friends who also have children. My new life starts today. . I will let you know how things go.

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
And the Tiff has landed!:rolleyes:
Sorry I couldn't get back on here - whereas I've learned the art of being in 3 places at once recently, being in 4 places still eludes me!:rolleyes:

I guess the last couple of days could be summed up as...

I know I promised explanations and they will be forthcoming but I've got to check out how my Tifflings are doing first, so I'll do it later ok?;) :A

I hope we're all safe and sound and I send huge Tiffy hugs to you all.

Much Love,
Tiff xxx

dawnylou

Hi guys,
Sorry I've not been around much (so yes I'm behind again, *sigh*)
I have been trying not to think about things.

Anyway thought I would update you all. Nothing to update like. Little bit angry in fact.
The first test was on 2 samples - he handed them in not Friday gone but Friday before and was told to call for the results in a week. So he called last Friday. One sample was fine the other wasn't back yet. Call on Tuesday they said. (As it was Bank Hol weekend)
So he phoned on Tuesday and still not back. Have been advised that the second sample had to be sent away to a different hospital and there machine is broke so call back on Monday.
Bearing in mind it is the waiting that is actually diving me crazy!!

Anyway there was a 3 week waiting list for a scan (an ultrasound? Thought these were for looking at babies in the womb??) And that is up this Friday so hopefully that will be over with soon too!


Anyway I just want to say hello to all the new people who have sought advice and comfort here.
I hope everyone is feeling good today.

I am getting ready to go down town as being a leafleter today. *sigh*

And then when I get back I will have a nice bath and get changed as tonight I will be aking part in the Midnight Walk! Raised aroud £150! Target was £500 so not as great as it sounds - but every penny helps!

Have a good day all!

xxx