Depression Support Thread

dawnylou

andipandi wrote: »

it may not be a nice thing to say but that is how tooties feels right now,

personally i see nothing wrong with folks speaking their truth,i'm not going to tell tooties off because i have been there 3 times tried to end it all and i was fed up with "but your family" comments,

true i sought help and nowadays i don't have "i want to end it all thoughts" so much.

tooties,if you want help seek it because it is out there,if you don't fine but you are at risk of something else happening,just try to be sure that that is what you really want .

what is key here is support,support at home not a slating,professional help also and as you know you will find plenty of support and a place to vent on here.

depression,low self esteem,aniexty and maybe guilt,thats alot to deal with when one is suffering from all of them at the same time,one on its own is enough.

Andy

I know that Andy - I am sorry I wasn't slating Tooties - afterall I know we have all thought about it.
My family are the only reason why I havent killed myself. If it wasn't for them then I would - but I don't want to leave them behind with all of the pain and heartbreak I know they would feel. Basically I don't want to hurt them.
As I'm sure Tooties wouldn't want their family to feel like this, that's all.

I wasn't telling Tooties off in any way I was just making a comment and trying to sway them away from thoughts such as this by bringing other people into the picture a bit more I guess.
And I'm sorry if you are fed up with this kind of comment.

From now on I'll just keep my mouth shut where it is not wanted!

tooties

hi Razorbladekisses,

my work only knows that i am off sick with depression and have been off in the past with depression too.
how can i possibly tell my employers that i tried to take my own lilfe when at work i am supposed to promote life, living etc and care for vulnerable people?
thanks to all
tooties

geminilady

dawnylou wrote: »

I know that Andy - I am sorry I wasn't slating Tooties - afterall I know we have all thought about it.
My family are the only reason why I havent killed myself. If it wasn't for them then I would - but I don't want to leave them behind with all of the pain and heartbreak I know they would feel. Basically I don't want to hurt them.
As I'm sure Tooties wouldn't want their family to feel like this, that's all.

I wasn't telling Tooties off in any way I was just making a comment and trying to sway them away from thoughts such as this by bringing other people into the picture a bit more I guess.
And I'm sorry if you are fed up with this kind of comment.

From now on I'll just keep my mouth shut where it is not wanted!

No need to keep your mouth shut,people post on here for support and advise wether they take the advise is up to them.I understand what you were trying to say although the comment could have been phrased better as you did above.Depression can be a selfish illness when you have it its hard to think of others only your own pain but thinking of my family and what it would do to them has also helped me when i have had thoughts of suicide and like you it is only natuaral to believe thinking the same would help others.

andipandi_2

santashelper wrote: »

Tony Hancock

one of the best comic actors ever:T

andipandi_2

dawnylou wrote: »

I know that Andy - I am sorry I wasn't slating Tooties - afterall I know we have all thought about it.
My family are the only reason why I havent killed myself. If it wasn't for them then I would - but I don't want to leave them behind with all of the pain and heartbreak I know they would feel. Basically I don't want to hurt them.
As I'm sure Tooties wouldn't want their family to feel like this, that's all.

I wasn't telling Tooties off in any way I was just making a comment and trying to sway them away from thoughts such as this by bringing other people into the picture a bit more I guess.
And I'm sorry if you are fed up with this kind of comment.

From now on I'll just keep my mouth shut where it is not wanted!

keep on posting ,no worries,the only reason i haven't killed myself is because i failed when i did try,i suppose being an alcoholic some would say that its a slow suicide anyway,

Tiff_2

Hi roversbabe!:hello:
How are you angel?
A little belated I know , but...

I hope your day was as special as you are and I wish you the best of everything in your new birthday year!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

tooties wrote: »

morning everyone,
nothing new with me still just trying to put my life back together under continual scrutiny from the family but then i suppose thats to be expected.
feeling a bit low and down the family keep asking what they can do to help and i can only answer nothing cos i know there is nothing they can do for me.
just wish the OD had worked.
hope everyones ok
tooties

Hi tooties!:hello:
I'm sorry you're in such pain sweetheart, that you took an OD.

Of course your family are very concerned hun , and you will feel under constant scrutiny because they don't want you to try again. They want to help and they're listening to you angel. Don't feel bad for not knowing the answers yet.

You're hurting so much right now that you don't have the answer - inspite of what anyone may think. You're in a turmoil of emotions and shock and you need quiet time, for your body and your mind to heal, with those who love you around you to protect you, to recover at your own speed. It's a gradual process and that's all right angel.;)

Don't expect anything of yourself right now sweetie - just take care of the simple stuff like washing, eating, dressing for now. There'll come a point when you'll feel better hunnie, when you'll feel more able to reach out. There'll be time enough for talking then.

Your only effort right now needs to be in keeping yourself safe, hun. The minute you start to feel that way again, go to the nearest loved one to you and don't leave their side. Tell them if you can - if not, don't worry. Maybe tell your family in advance that this is what you'll try to do if you feel like that again, if you can.

Be kind to yourself now, tooties - you deserve it. Post whenever you need to angel ok? Take care hun.


Oh - and by the way sweetheart, for what it's worth,
I'm really glad you didn't succeed.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
How are you all?

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personally i see nothing wrong with folks speaking their truth,i'm not going to tell tooties off because i have been there 3 times tried to end it all and i was fed up with "but your family" comments,
People should speak their truth, I agree.
If you have an opinion, post it nicely.
No-one is going to tell tooties off.
No-one has asked anyone to tell tooties off.
No-one should tell anyone off.

I'm sorry the family comments don't help some people, but they are generally said with good intent.
And I'm not saying that they would, or wouldn't, help anyone else.

We have to remember that each of us is different and we might need different things than another person might need, to help us recover.

With respect, and imho, if you agree with people speaking their truth, then generally we have to apply that same rule and courtesy to dawnylou's - or anyone else's - reply.

I think we should also remember dawny's awful situation, where she's waiting to hear about a serious health outcome on Friday about her fiance's health.
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what is key here is support,support at home not a slating,professional help also and as you know you will find plenty of support and a place to vent on here.
No-one has given tooties a slating.
I'm sure dawnylou wasn't slating tooties at all.
And a bit of angry posting, from anyone, will be the last thing tooties, dawny or anyone else, needs right now. Words on a computer screen can be misinterpreted.:o


Support at home and professionally, is vital to recovery - but sometimes, we may not be ready for those big battles yet.

Both tooties and dawny - and any one of us! - do have a place of support here and a place to vent.
And the one thing we say goes here is, that we don't judge anyone.
Otherwise, how can we put our trust in each other?:A

I'm not having a go at anyone.
And there's no-one at fault here on either side, imho.;)

.....Though we could all say it's all sazzy's fault!:D
(Good luck with counselling tonight hun - Tiffy hugs!)

Right - I think we should all get back to what we do best here, don't you? :A :T

Next!:D

Much Love To All,
Tiff xxx

poppycracker

Thankyou for that post Tiff, I've just had a long talk with my friend on the phone. She's gone from helpless to furious in two days (which is good IMO). She had to go to hospital yesterday because she was having difficulty seeing after Saturday night. They sent her to a bigger hospital to get an Xray but himself went with her and they let him come in so of course they didn't get the true story.

I was feeling really guilty about leaving on saturday night, but the more I thought about it, the more I decided that it was the best thing to do because she was getting very stressed and angry and that might have provoked him again.

She knows that we are here, and she knows that we will do what we can. I'm just so angry that we couldn't stop what happened on Saturday. But I DIDN'T KNOW! :mad: I'll pass on the numbers of some places which will help if she needs them too, thanks for those, you're an :A . (Does that get my blue smartie back?)


Anyway, I've had a better day today, we veg'd the morning away then went for a drive to Ellon for a pub lunch and a walk along the river. Very pleasent. Now all I got to do is brace myself for tomorrow.... :eek:

Tooties, I for one am glad that you DIDN'T succeed :grouphug: but I know what you mean about families.

happy belated birthday roversbabe

sf, andi, rbk, gemini, tulip Tiff and dawny, hope everyone had a good day today, and look, there's the sun just coming out... hopefully it will be a bright one tomorrow (((((big hugs))))) to everyone

PC

skintas_2

my depression was goin ok. this badweather and having kids summer holidays, please make the next two weeks go quick. im goin to have some me time.......