Depression Support Thread

BigMummaF

I think this may be the last one of the night for me....this bl88dy keyboard is doing my head in!

It's just me & the goodist children left in now[that's the iguana & pup to yoose lot!] & I don't reckon much to the TV. All those weeks of cheapo programmes of Let Me Be On Telly Cos I Think I'm All That With A Bag of Chips style meant I had to choose twix Casualty & CSI:NY & now nothing is on at all!

I know those oriental goldfish programmes are popular, but why so many? I read today that they're going to be looking for male & female lead for WestSide Story next...well whoopie doos! What about the poor devils who have been working & studying performing arts all their lives--are there not enough out of work artistes already, that some Jo Bloggs has to come & take their glory?

It so annoys me that we increasingly pay for services that the government level the duty for, but the companies involved fail to deliver. Ooooh dats it---ois takin all dat I gunna n dats me gunna du it......quick, send help, demand you forward emergency supplies of blue smarties NOW.....Save yourselves before it's too late........she's gonna BLOW.......

I'll probably hang around for a while, but will say night night now. Oh & left knee.

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

poppycracker

morning all :hello:

I know! Isn't it an early post....

I've just got home from 'oop north'. Went all the way up to Strathpeffer to see OH's cousin. I like him, he's nice.
Stopped off at the fMIL's house both ways, she picked me some flowers
Then went to see a friend who lives on the way from there to here.

She's in a bad way and I don't know how to help her. Her fella (who we thought was a nice guy) is knocking her around. She told me that he had been and made me swear not to tell my OH (if he found out he'd kill the little S*** because he's fond of her) but then she went off with him, while we were there, 'to talk', and he did it again. Her forehead was covered in lumps when she got in and she had bruises appearing all over. What was worse was that one of her kids was there at the time. What can I do? I've told her that I am always at the end of a phone, but I live 50 miles away and it's not easy to just jump in the car and go when you have a job like mine. I would though.

Shes got a habit of falling into abusive relationships (physical and mental) so she knows the score but 'she loves him'. I tried to tell her that she was teaching her kids that one it was OK to hit people and two it was OK to let people hit you and I think that got through to her, but next time I looked, she'd put fresh makeup on to hide the bruises and she was cosying up to him as if nothing had happened. Of course, he's sorry. But I'm worried that he is trying to separate her from her friends there and from us. Her friend over the road and I are going to arrange a system for checking on her, apart from that, and going through when I have the time (andthe petrol money), what else can I do? It's just so frustrating and I'm sitting here shivering and wondering if I did the right thing coming home?????

Anyway, sorry for such a depressing post so early in the morning, I thought it would help if I wrote it all down.

((((((big hugs)))))) to everyone who was having a bad day yesterday, heres hoping its a brighter one today.

huggles
PC

rose07

Hi Jd

How r u today?

judderman62 wrote: »

Gone a bit quick tbh Rose. Got up after 10.00 then went to a body repair shop I've used before (someone drove into the side of my car on Tuesday) to get a quote for the work (He had confirmed earlier in the week to me he';'d be there till 1300 I said I'd arrive before 11:30 so he could get off early if he wanted. So I got there around 10:30 to find the place locked up and no sign of life :mad::mad:

i hate it when people do that, say be here this time and hen they are not there, not fair

Not 1st time he's done this - he does good work and at fair prices (especially if you pay cash if you know what I mean) , but can be a tad unreliable.

I dont like unrealiable people either, and i know a few, , but as long as he does a good job

So anyway guy who drove into me was an old geezer so I was intending to get best price - so he quoted £180 and I haggled him down to £160. We're aiming to keep insurance companies out of this.

I hope you get what you need and he gets what he wants, then you both are happy. my mate got his car crashed into today, least to say he wasnt happy

Then I watched some TV, went and did my dad's shopping and then took it round to him and had a natter.

Then came home via ..... Mc Donald's :o and then went round to the other drivers house and he has given me the cash so get my motor taken in Monday to get it sorted.

Now watching TV again

Laters all

Hope you have had a good evening

and see ya soon

xx

rose07

Hi BMF

How r u?

welcome :T

BigMummaF wrote: »

I think this may be the last one of the night for me....this bl88dy keyboard is doing my head in!

It's just me & the goodist children left in now[that's the iguana & pup to yoose lot!] & I don't reckon much to the TV. All those weeks of cheapo programmes of Let Me Be On Telly Cos I Think I'm All That With A Bag of Chips style meant I had to choose twix Casualty & CSI:NY & now nothing is on at all!

I quite like casualty, always seems to be something happening, but the storylines are bit over rated lol

I know those oriental goldfish programmes are popular, but why so many? I read today that they're going to be looking for male & female lead for WestSide Story next...well whoopie doos! What about the poor devils who have been working & studying performing arts all their lives--are there not enough out of work artistes already, that some Jo Bloggs has to come & take their glory?

Oh you make me laugh, :rotfl:

It so annoys me that we increasingly pay for services that the government level the duty for, but the companies involved fail to deliver. Ooooh dats it---ois takin all dat I gunna n dats me gunna du it......quick, send help, demand you forward emergency supplies of blue smarties NOW.....Save yourselves before it's too late........she's gonna BLOW.......

Here have my blue smarties, i also find skittles you can taste the rainbow with them

I'll probably hang around for a while, but will say night night now. Oh & left knee.

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Take care BMF

huggles to you

xxx

rose07

Hi hun

Its farr to early isnt it? lol

How r u?

poppycracker wrote: »

morning all :hello:

I know! Isn't it an early post....

I've just got home from 'oop north'. Went all the way up to Strathpeffer to see OH's cousin. I like him, he's nice.
Stopped off at the fMIL's house both ways, she picked me some flowers
Then went to see a friend who lives on the way from there to here.

How farr up north? aww was sweet to get flowers, have you got a favourite kind?

She's in a bad way and I don't know how to help her. Her fella (who we thought was a nice guy) is knocking her around. She told me that he had been and made me swear not to tell my OH (if he found out he'd kill the little S*** because he's fond of her) but then she went off with him, while we were there, 'to talk', and he did it again. Her forehead was covered in lumps when she got in and she had bruises appearing all over. What was worse was that one of her kids was there at the time. What can I do? I've told her that I am always at the end of a phone, but I live 50 miles away and it's not easy to just jump in the car and go when you have a job like mine. I would though.

What is it you do?
All you can do is be there for her. Must be hard when you know she is being hurt to wonder what to do. Is there no way she can get away from him? If there are kids involved, does he harm the kids?

Shes got a habit of falling into abusive relationships (physical and mental) so she knows the score but 'she loves him'. I tried to tell her that she was teaching her kids that one it was OK to hit people and two it was OK to let people hit you and I think that got through to her, but next time I looked, she'd put fresh makeup on to hide the bruises and she was cosying up to him as if nothing had happened. Of course, he's sorry. But I'm worried that he is trying to separate her from her friends there and from us. Her friend over the road and I are going to arrange a system for checking on her, apart from that, and going through when I have the time (andthe petrol money), what else can I do? It's just so frustrating and I'm sitting here shivering and wondering if I did the right thing coming home?????

I (and i know others) have been in abusive relationships, the best thing to do is get away from it. But when you love someone you dont want to see the bad things they do, you make excuses, and think its the way its meant to be, you get used to thier ways and you think its normal. But it isnt, and its not ok.
He will be trying to seperate her from her friends so she feels weaker, he will put her down, because he knows he can. Dont let him get in the way of your friendsip, its clear se needs help, but im unsure how or if she wants it. Can you talk to your friend more bout this?

I know someone will be along later today to explain better

Anyway, sorry for such a depressing post so early in the morning, I thought it would help if I wrote it all down.

Never apologise, it always helps to write tings down, get it out. How u feel now?

((((((big hugs)))))) to everyone who was having a bad day yesterday, heres hoping its a brighter one today.

K, i should better get to bed, but head is a twirling ya know how it is.

huggles
PC

((((((huggles)))))

xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
How's everyone this Sunday morning? Or afternoon in sazzy's case? :rolleyes: :A

A tad wet - understatement! - here in Warwickshire this a.m.
Got up ready to watch the dawn.....and there wasn't one!
Everything grew from complete blackness and rose to a wet shimmering grey.
No doubt the sun will return at some point - when it's ready.....
A lot like depression really, don't you think?

For those gluttons for punishment who've been so nice as to send me PMs, I'm ridiculously behind on them so please bear with me.:o
I got good reasons guvna - honest!:rolleyes: (been watching too many Porridge episodes again!:o )

For those of you who wanted to know a little more about me, I thought this might help...





:rotfl:
Of course some things Tiff, will always be a secret!

Hoping everyone has a lovely Sunday.
Be kind to yourself.;) :A
Huge moulting Tiffy hugs to all.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

slowlyfading

Good morning everyone :hello:
Just popping on to say hello before I go to work - I'm there from 10AM til 5PM today so I better get a move on. I reckon its going to be a busy day but oh well, I get paid at the end of the week so that's the good bit.
Feeling strange today - dont know whether that's a good sign or not to be honest. Am quite tired, and feeling like I just want to get back in bed and curl up and never get out.
Speak to you all later. have a good day, *hugs* to all.
sf x x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I hope you are all well,I am fine today My dvd I ordered from Play.com is getting processed now so well happy I will have it next week sometime and cant wait to see it


I hope you all have a lovely day

*hugs* to everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

dawnylou

Tiff wrote: »

Hi dawny!:hello:
How are you hun?
I hope you don't mind angel, but I took the liberty of turning your post blue for my reply.:o
I started posting bits of my replies in posts in 'pink', to refer to a certain part of people's posts, so that they - and I - wouldn't get confused, especially if it was a complicated or deep or long post.
I think that's what I mean?! :rolleyes:
Let's have a look here hun...

My goodnes - are you some sort of saint or something? How do you have the time to look after everyone the way you do? :eek:

quote=dawnylou;
Morning all.
.....
Tiff - I think it's just a bit of everything.
I am finding it really difficult to cope at work at the moment, I just can't hit my targets and I feel useless and also feel that I am letting my team down too because if I have a rubbish day it affects the team too.
I know hun - that's how these snowballs start.
We all know all too well how these things feed into each other.;) Let's break it up a bit.
High-pressure career from the sound of it angel - what field do you work in hun? Are you in charge of the team angel?

If it's a target-based job like tele-sales, it's normal to hit dry spots dawny. Lot of negative self-talk here too hun, bless you, you are not useless! Are you the only one who has never hit their target?

Targets are important but tend also to be just a bit above the realms of possibility sometimes, just to try and squeeze as much success out of people as they can.;)

If this is a job you no longer like hun, or it's causing you more sorrow and stress than it's worth, you could look at other options. No point in going anywhere to spend 8-10 hours a day in complete misery. I know it's not easy as that hun, just saying there are other options. As you say, you may just be over-stressed right now.;)

Ok it's a job, not a career
I used to manage a team but found it too stressful and stepped down to be an agent again. I have to keep my job as I need the money. I have no skills at all and therefore a new job is not the answer.
I do work on the phones, not cold calling though. People call us and while they are on we try to sell an additional product.
I don't think it is just the job, I think it is maybe just the last straw maybe...
As well as that I am not sleeping well. I am falling asleep ok really but after a few hours I am tossing and turning and waking up and dozing off constantly then I end up getting up with a stotting headache - which combine that with work - it doesn't help!
Has your sleep pattern always been like this dawny? Could it be down to your stress at work etc? Everything is harder to deal with when there's not the right kind of sleep for you angel. A trip to the gp maybe hun?;)
I used to barely sleep at all. I was no stranger to only having a few hours each night from not too long before my GCSEs started until a few years ago but it sort of sorted itself out in time.
But I'm not sure why I am waking up so early or why my head hurts the way it does? Maybe the quality of sleep isn't good enough, maybe too much going on up there to really sleep well?

I do have other things going on right now.
I have always struggled with my emotions because of something that happened to me when I was younger that I have just never been able to deal with properly which makes it quite difficult to move on.
I can empathise with that sweetheart. I'll write another Tiff Chronicle one day soon to explain.
Any trauma causes a grief effect imho - though I'm no professional hun. You have the distress of the trauma itself and you also grieve for the effect that it's had on you. Have you spoken to your gp angel? Have you ever had any kind of mental health help with this issue?

Traumas are quite different than depression but they can accompany each other for some peeps. You can't get rid of a trauma because it's an actual fact - some incident that actually happened. And that's what a lot people who go through a trauma try to do - get rid of it.

There are techniques that can help someone be able to put down the burden of the trauma and regain control of their emotions, instead of the other way around. Your gp would be able to refer you on for this kind of specialised help.;)

No this is something I don't talk about. It makes it real.
Also my beloved Fiance is having a little bit of a health scare at the moment - don't want to go into too much detail as I don't want to be disloyal to him in any way and he might not want people to know - but we have to wait until next Friday for results from some tests and he is on a 3 week waiting list for a scan too. Needless to say I am very worried about him, and our future together.
I'm so sorry your fiance is ill angel and that you're both going through this awful stress and worry. If nothing else
dawny, please know that you can come on here and talk it out, open up, rant and rave, whatever it takes. It's not being disloyal to him bless him, it's something for you to use to vent and get support for yourself too. You're not alone ok? I'm sure we're all praying for the right results hun.

Hopefully he isn't ill - hopefully everything will turn out fine, but at the same time there is a possibility that there is something very seriously wrong.
I guess this is something we will have to deal woth properly when the time comes - but until then it is just playing the waiting game and that in itself is scary.

With regards to my emotions - I feel pathetic - sometimes others can't hit their targets but they don't sit there blubbing and I'm sure sometimes people look at me and go 'oh there she goes again, how ridiculous'.
And then I have to sit there for the rest of my shift feeling embarrassed, flustered, with my teeny weeny ego that is left crumbled even more, with a headache so bad it feels as if my head might explode.
Ok, we're going to stop right here for a minute.

With much love and respect dawny, who died and made you Superwoman?!
Noone Tiff - but others can just get on with life even though they have their own ups and downs and so why can't I???
Look at what you're dealing with here:
- high pressure job
- work team responsibilites
- not getting enough sleep - and probably generally not looking after yourself as well as you could
- a possible trauma that you've been carrying for years
- someone you love going through a medical scare
- your own low self esteem and other stresses
- holding everything in so you don't worry anyone.


If you were skipping around, saying all is well - then I'd be really worried about you! All of these things are important things and for what it's worth, I think you've done bloody well!!!!:T
(oops - pardon my language!:o)

Anyone would be finding this a really heavey load sweetheart. You hold your head up girl - you need to be kinder to yourself dawny.


I don't really want to see a GP as last time I felt as bad as this (about 2 years ago) I was signed off work on the sick for stress, I don't really want to do this again as I don't want to look like I am taking the !!!! and just after some time off work.
And now I'm crying again. *sigh*
Dawny hun, you were signed off work for a good reason. You and I both know that's where you'll end up going, so why make yourself suffer any more than you have to angel? You need as much support as possible.
If someone at work thinks you're taking the !!!! to get time off work, then they're the ones who need a psychiatry appointment!
I become a truly ticked off Tiff when I hear things like this!


And hunnie, you're crying because you're struggling and need a break from all this stress and pain.:o
Your gp will be able to offer you so much help sweetie. Please make that call hun. It will help break everything up into pieces and it will help you feel so much better.
Again I for one, think you are a natural survivor and that actually, you're being incredibly brave and strong during hard times. But you don't have to be completely strong all the time - no-one is angel!;)
I'm not a survivor Tiff. I am weak and pathetic and I drag myself through this life sometimes. Not really wanting to be here, not really wanting to go on.
Until recently I had been so happy (although I never truly feel I deserve it) I have a wonderful Fiance and an adorable little puppy - our little family has it's own little home.
A wedding on the cards to complete everything..

But now this, and I suppose I am a little scared of losing my Fiance now as I just don't know what's around the corner.

I'm maybe angry too as I feel like everythings about to be taken away from me and my life is about to crumble before me again?

Need to sort myself out as have to go and see Dad before work and don't want him to think anything is up./quote
Bless you dawny - back out there, not wanting to worry anyone. Let your Dad or anyone else you're really close to, help you too hun. Your loved ones wouldn't want you to be struggling on your own, especially parents.;) They'd want to know, want to help and support you.

Sorry for the length of this hun - judders got a Tiff Chronicle too!:rolleyes:
I'm not getting at you in any way angel. I have nothing but respect for you. :T

I don't want those that I care about to worry about me.
I just think it's about time that dawny realised just how important and wonderful she really is!:A
Take care dawny hun.


Awww - now I'm a sentimental, soggy, teary, ticked off Tiff!:rolleyes:
Right! I'm off to get dried out and fluff up my fur and then I have to go and do a smartie inventory - I may be quite some time.....!:D
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sorry I made you soggy and teary...


I just don't know how you keep up with everything going on here. If I don't have time to log in one day I'm so far behind already I don't know what's going on! lol

Am feeling ok today I guess though. Just a bit tired and also a little demotivated, can't be bothered to do anything. Still sat in my PJs and I know I will sit like this all day and do nothing.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

:hello: (((HUGS))) dawnylou. You seem to have so much going on right now, it's no wonder you're feeling the way you do. Feel free to let it all out on here. We all care. I hope things start to improve soon. Sorry to hear about your fiance. I really hope he is OK.

If it makes you feel any better I am still in my PJ's and have no intention of getting dressed today

Tiff,How are you? How is your Mum? Thinking of you xxx

Rose, You know I'm always here for you hun. I'm usually on MSN or if not I'm just a text away

mclaren is feeling really low at the moment guys. Keep him in your thoughts.

slowlyfading, I hope your day at work is OK. (((HUGS))

I am supposed to be off work but have some work to do before my manager gets back on Tues. I will do that today and go into work at some point tomorrow to drop it off

xxx