Depression Support Thread

BigMummaF

Arfnoon All.

I tried to post earlier but there are gremlins in the keyboard now! Some of the letters are sticking, & the space bar won't space! Our pooter is called Dave, & since I've threatened to chuck bits of him in the garden,:cool: he seems to have bucked up!

So if you don't hear from me, I'll be the one in the library reading thru the posts in a big green leather high-back arm chair!

Can't remember who sung it, but it's true that "Life is a roller coaster"--just some get the majic roundabout by the swings while others--like us--get the whole ruddy theme park!

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

slowlyfading

Everyone who posted a msg to me.

Thank you so much. I was, and still am to a certain extent, in a very difficult time period right now. I think things are being to catch up with me, and I am eperiencing flash backs which are very unpleasant. Started to have panic attacks again as well, so its been very difficult the past few days. I think that I didn't deal with things when they happened, and I'm paying for it now.
I didn't cut on whichever day I posted, I'm sorry if I caused any worry to anyone - I didn't mean to. I still have the razor blades in a safe place, but hopefully I can overcome any urges i have over the next few days. Not to say its going to be easy - the feeling of harming myself is stronger these past few days than it has been in a while....
I hope everyone has had a good saturday - I've been at work all day, and am work again at 7PM, so not long to sit and relax really. Just been and had a nice shower, which I love having after work, so am feeling a little better. I'm feeling fat today though but never mind, that's common.
*hugs* to anyone who wants one.
sf x x x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,great to hear from you SF take it easy and things will get better for you I promise *hugs* I ordered a dvd called The Last Mimzy which looks really good as its like ET I had to reorder as some details were not right and had to redo it again but now its ok,fingers crossed

Have a nice evening everyone whatever you are doing


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi dawny!:hello:
How are you hun?
I hope you don't mind angel, but I took the liberty of turning your post blue for my reply.:o
I started posting bits of my replies in posts in 'pink', to refer to a certain part of people's posts, so that they - and I - wouldn't get confused, especially if it was a complicated or deep or long post.
I think that's what I mean?! :rolleyes:
Let's have a look here hun...


quote=dawnylou;
Morning all.
.....
Tiff - I think it's just a bit of everything.
I am finding it really difficult to cope at work at the moment, I just can't hit my targets and I feel useless and also feel that I am letting my team down too because if I have a rubbish day it affects the team too.
I know hun - that's how these snowballs start.
We all know all too well how these things feed into each other.;) Let's break it up a bit.
High-pressure career from the sound of it angel - what field do you work in hun? Are you in charge of the team angel?

If it's a target-based job like tele-sales, it's normal to hit dry spots dawny. Lot of negative self-talk here too hun, bless you, you are not useless! Are you the only one who has never hit their target?

Targets are important but tend also to be just a bit above the realms of possibility sometimes, just to try and squeeze as much success out of people as they can.;)

If this is a job you no longer like hun, or it's causing you more sorrow and stress than it's worth, you could look at other options. No point in going anywhere to spend 8-10 hours a day in complete misery. I know it's not easy as that hun, just saying there are other options. As you say, you may just be over-stressed right now.;)


As well as that I am not sleeping well. I am falling asleep ok really but after a few hours I am tossing and turning and waking up and dozing off constantly then I end up getting up with a stotting headache - which combine that with work - it doesn't help!
Has your sleep pattern always been like this dawny? Could it be down to your stress at work etc? Everything is harder to deal with when there's not the right kind of sleep for you angel. A trip to the gp maybe hun?;)


I do have other things going on right now.
I have always struggled with my emotions because of something that happened to me when I was younger that I have just never been able to deal with properly which makes it quite difficult to move on.
I can empathise with that sweetheart. I'll write another Tiff Chronicle one day soon to explain.
Any trauma causes a grief effect imho - though I'm no professional hun. You have the distress of the trauma itself and you also grieve for the effect that it's had on you. Have you spoken to your gp angel? Have you ever had any kind of mental health help with this issue?

Traumas are quite different than depression but they can accompany each other for some peeps. You can't get rid of a trauma because it's an actual fact - some incident that actually happened. And that's what a lot people who go through a trauma try to do - get rid of it.

There are techniques that can help someone be able to put down the burden of the trauma and regain control of their emotions, instead of the other way around. Your gp would be able to refer you on for this kind of specialised help.;)


Also my beloved Fiance is having a little bit of a health scare at the moment - don't want to go into too much detail as I don't want to be disloyal to him in any way and he might not want people to know - but we have to wait until next Friday for results from some tests and he is on a 3 week waiting list for a scan too. Needless to say I am very worried about him, and our future together.
I'm so sorry your fiance is ill angel and that you're both going through this awful stress and worry. If nothing else
dawny, please know that you can come on here and talk it out, open up, rant and rave, whatever it takes. It's not being disloyal to him bless him, it's something for you to use to vent and get support for yourself too. You're not alone ok? I'm sure we're all praying for the right results hun.


With regards to my emotions - I feel pathetic - sometimes others can't hit their targets but they don't sit there blubbing and I'm sure sometimes people look at me and go 'oh there she goes again, how ridiculous'.
And then I have to sit there for the rest of my shift feeling embarrassed, flustered, with my teeny weeny ego that is left crumbled even more, with a headache so bad it feels as if my head might explode.
Ok, we're going to stop right here for a minute.

With much love and respect dawny, who died and made you Superwoman?!

Look at what you're dealing with here:
- high pressure job
- work team responsibilites
- not getting enough sleep - and probably generally not looking after yourself as well as you could
- a possible trauma that you've been carrying for years
- someone you love going through a medical scare
- your own low self esteem and other stresses
- holding everything in so you don't worry anyone.


If you were skipping around, saying all is well - then I'd be really worried about you! All of these things are important things and for what it's worth, I think you've done bloody well!!!!:T
(oops - pardon my language!:o)

Anyone would be finding this a really heavey load sweetheart. You hold your head up girl - you need to be kinder to yourself dawny.


I don't really want to see a GP as last time I felt as bad as this (about 2 years ago) I was signed off work on the sick for stress, I don't really want to do this again as I don't want to look like I am taking the !!!! and just after some time off work.
And now I'm crying again. *sigh*
Dawny hun, you were signed off work for a good reason. You and I both know that's where you'll end up going, so why make yourself suffer any more than you have to angel? You need as much support as possible.
If someone at work thinks you're taking the !!!! to get time off work, then they're the ones who need a psychiatry appointment!
I become a truly ticked off Tiff when I hear things like this!


And hunnie, you're crying because you're struggling and need a break from all this stress and pain.:o
Your gp will be able to offer you so much help sweetie. Please make that call hun. It will help break everything up into pieces and it will help you feel so much better.
Again I for one, think you are a natural survivor and that actually, you're being incredibly brave and strong during hard times. But you don't have to be completely strong all the time - no-one is angel!;)

Need to sort myself out as have to go and see Dad before work and don't want him to think anything is up./quote
Bless you dawny - back out there, not wanting to worry anyone. Let your Dad or anyone else you're really close to, help you too hun. Your loved ones wouldn't want you to be struggling on your own, especially parents.;) They'd want to know, want to help and support you.

Sorry for the length of this hun - judders got a Tiff Chronicle too!:rolleyes:
I'm not getting at you in any way angel. I have nothing but respect for you. :T
I just think it's about time that dawny realised just how important and wonderful she really is!:A
Take care dawny hun.


Awww - now I'm a sentimental, soggy, teary, ticked off Tiff!:rolleyes:
Right! I'm off to get dried out and fluff up my fur and then I have to go and do a smartie inventory - I may be quite some time.....!:D
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

BigMummaF

Bear with me...Dave's still being cantancerous!

I know I keep harping on, but a couple of the others I did the relaxation with, found the 'breathing' techniques particularly useful for 'panic attacks'. Basic outline, when you feel the 'force' rising:-

1. physically take two steps back.
2. slowly breathe out through your mouth, with your lips in a loose kiss.
3. bring your shoulders slowly up toward your ears as you breath in.
4. lower shoulders as you slowly breathe out again.
5. if you are in--for instance--a shop, just grab a tin of something & make out you're reading the label.
6. repeat as many times as you need, moving your shoulders about 1 breath in 4.

HTH. 2 of my darling offspring are watching Pass Me The Bucket Factor, so I'm going to examine my antique collection of navel dust...I need to update the catalogue....NOW

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

rose07

I just want to say thanks to those for thier support atm

I know im not in a good place atm,

feels like my world is crumbling in
and everytime i try to grab on
i just fall deeper and deeper


Im loosing the one thing that keeps me going

Im on my own tonight, everyone out, totally on my own, tad scary but i guess i should enjoy the time, but seeing things soo negative makes things soo hard


hope your all well xxx

judderman62

Awww Rose :grouphug: :kisses3:

Hang in there and do what you can chuckie

rose07 wrote: »

I just want to say thanks to those for thier support atm

I know im not in a good place atm,

feels like my world is crumbling in
and everytime i try to grab on
i just fall deeper and deeper


Im loosing the one thing that keeps me going

Im on my own tonight, everyone out, totally on my own, tad scary but i guess i should enjoy the time, but seeing things soo negative makes things soo hard


hope your all well xxx

rose07

judderman62 wrote: »

Awww Rose :grouphug: :kisses3:

Hang in there and do what you can chuckie

thanks jd

Im watchen ch4 atm, making me wanna be energetic:o, I went dirt biking yesterday, nothing like the adrenalin pumping as you go down one steep slope to another, wondering if you will make the jumps :eek:, not for the faint hearted lol

just need to decide what to eat ...

how r u? have you had a good day?

((((hugs)))))

xxx

geminilady

BigMummaF wrote: »

Bear with me...Dave's still being cantancerous!

I know I keep harping on, but a couple of the others I did the relaxation with, found the 'breathing' techniques particularly useful for 'panic attacks'. Basic outline, when you feel the 'force' rising:-

1. physically take two steps back.
2. slowly breathe out through your mouth, with your lips in a loose kiss.
3. bring your shoulders slowly up toward your ears as you breath in.
4. lower shoulders as you slowly breathe out again.
5. if you are in--for instance--a shop, just grab a tin of something & make out you're reading the label.
6. repeat as many times as you need, moving your shoulders about 1 breath in 4.

HTH. 2 of my darling offspring are watching Pass Me The Bucket Factor, so I'm going to examine my antique collection of navel dust...I need to update the catalogue....NOW

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Thanks for this.A friend of mine suffers from panic attacks so i will pass it on.Her doctor has recently doubled her medication but it is leaving her very tired so maybe this will help.As i have never had a panic attack myself i find it hard to understand and do not know the best way to help when she has one.

judderman62

rose07 wrote: »

thanks jd

Im watchen ch4 atm, making me wanna be energetic:o, I went dirt biking yesterday, nothing like the adrenalin pumping as you go down one steep slope to another, wondering if you will make the jumps :eek:, not for the faint hearted lol

just need to decide what to eat ...

how r u? have you had a good day?

((((hugs)))))

xxx

Gone a bit quick tbh Rose. Got up after 10.00 then went to a body repair shop I've used before (someone drove into the side of my car on Tuesday) to get a quote for the work (He had confirmed earlier in the week to me he';'d be there till 1300 I said I'd arrive before 11:30 so he could get off early if he wanted. So I got there around 10:30 to find the place locked up and no sign of life :mad::mad:

Not 1st time he's done this - he does good work and at fair prices (especially if you pay cash if you know what I mean) , but can be a tad unreliable.

So anyway guy who drove into me was an old geezer so I was intending to get best price - so he quoted £180 and I haggled him down to £160. We're aiming to keep insurance companies out of this.

Then I watched some TV, went and did my dad's shopping and then took it round to him and had a natter.

Then came home via ..... Mc Donald's :o and then went round to the other drivers house and he has given me the cash so get my motor taken in Monday to get it sorted.

Now watching TV again

Laters all