another relationship dilemma

MrsAtobe

wouldthisbeodd wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your opinions, nearly unanimous in favour of not posting!

I wrote a letter along with my lists of what I did and didn't get out of the relationship and the bad definitely out weigh the good, which is sad as it wasnt a short relationship.

Hindsight is wonderful and lots of pieces of the jigsaw have fallen into place,I can be quite slow on the uptake sometimes. He rang me the same night and wanted to call round to talk,I told him to get lost and I've deleted his contact details so I won't be tempted to contact him during moments of weakness. Thankfully we have no shared accounts or possessions and my children aren't his so I can just move on.

I won't post the letter, I'll keep the dignified silence and moral high ground. I'm actually quite proud of how calm and dignified I was when I 'caught him' in my younger days I'd have been ranting and raving and probably letting them both think what a lucky escape he'd had!!

I'm so glad I asked views before posting it,I've not slept well and clearly not thinking rationally. I'm a great believer in treating others how you would like to be treated and karma will have the last say I'm sure.

You've written the letter, now burn it when you feel ready and let karma take over. You aren't responsible for his actions, and whilst I understand and applaud you for not wanting him to hurt another person, you can't change him.

Free_Spirit_31

Good for you OP for telling him to get lost. How dare he say that he wanted to come round. Who is the stalker now?

I like the idea of you writing a pros and cons list about the relationship also. I used to do that too, usually in previous jobs and reasons to stay or move on! LOL

You will get through this, think about yourself and your children and do what is best for you all.

Good luck to him, by the sounds of him, he is going to need it!

Free_Spirit_31

**Duplicated post - SORRY**