Can He Throw Me Out.

Gavin83

Laurajo wrote: »

When another ex (I can't half pick 'em) confessed to a drunken s... on a lads holiday, it hurt more. I ended the relationship because I couldn't face the fact that he would risk it for a bit of drunken fun, and I would never be able to trust him again.

Why did he tell you?

Either he must have wanted to end it with you anyway or he was genuinely a really honest person and he just made a stupid mistake. I can't really see another reason.

poorlittlefish

This is important: you need to register your interest in the property with the Land Registry. It doesn't matter that you are not the legal owner but it will provide you with protection. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post links here, so just Google it and you'll see it's a straightforward process. The form is probably available to download from the Land Registry's site.

FBaby

Gavin83 wrote: »

Why did he tell you?

Either he must have wanted to end it with you anyway or he was genuinely a really honest person and he just made a stupid mistake. I can't really see another reason.

Maybe because he knew she would have found out anyway. I might be fooling myself, but I am 99% certain that I would know if it happened to my OH. Smells, attitude, behaviour, lack of answers to questions etc... Only a natural liar could hide it from a partner who isn't completely oblivious or uninterested.

Or maybe indeed, because it was totally out of character, but there is no such thing as a 'stupid' mistake with guarantees. The moment you make a mistake, stupid or not, you face potential negative consequences. Some are able to forgive and move on, others are not.

PintAndAPie

tinkerbell28 wrote: »

Two things.

It's the marital home. He can't throw you out.

You leave, it weakens your position on a claim for the house and to stay there.

The first part is true, you have a legal right to stay. The second part is absolutely not true, for the very same reasons.

tinkerbell28

PintAndAPie wrote: »

The first part is true, you have a legal right to stay. The second part is absolutely not true, for the very same reasons.

Actually yes it is. If you voluntarily leave, it makes certain process harder. Like a continuation order should you want one.

Which is why a decent solicitor will always advise you don't leave the marital home until everything has been sorted. That's why his solicitor. Is trying to get her out.

SavingPennies_2

marisco wrote: »

Betrayal is betrayal. It makes no difference whether someone has a full blown affair or a one night stand. Both have the same devastating affect on a marriage, shattering any trust and respect that was once between a couple. If a relationship is based on who can forgive and forget the most, then it is completely broken and both parties are best walking away from it.

I disagree, a one night stand can be a moment of madness or weakness, you regret what you did the next day and it doesn't happen again. With an affair that goes on for some time, you have time to think about what you are doing, you make a conscious decision to lie to arrange secret meetings, and to cover your back. You have time to think about the repercussions and the hurt it will cause but you continue the affair. You tell the other person you love them, knowing you are going to be meeting the other person that night or texting someone else you love them too. You now what you are doing is wrong but you still go back for more.


I do agree they both have a devastating effect, but I think the OP seems to be getting a harder time when what her OH did was worse (from what we have been told).

EmmasWorld

Seek legal Aid!

crin

his solicitor has probably told him to move you into the spare bedroom, not let you cook or clean for him, not to let you do his washing and ironing eyc.

This way he can state quite truthfully that although you share a home the relationship has well and truly broken down and that you are not cohabiting in the sense of still being married.

If the property is in his name he CAN try to get you out and might be siccessful so you do need to see a solicitor asap.

I don'r judge people as it is up to individuals how they live their lives but it sounds to me that this act was just an excuse he could use to end things without HIM looking like a nasty person.

As you have no kids it is going to be harder and will need a fight BUT you would be entitled to something for the loss of a home as you have lived together for more than a year but tyou may not get half. You never said if he had the property before you got married if so that will be taken into account.

Also do not run up debts on any joint accounts as you will be responsible for half if both have spent on them or for all if it can be proved that the only debt on it is yours.

Good luck in the future

PintAndAPie

EmmasWorld wrote: »

Seek legal Aid!

Don't bother, there is no longer legal aid for family cases.

V.Lucky

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I have a feeling that you can't be named on deeds without being named on the mortgage as well

This is not correct at all!