Slimming World support thread 2

shaz_mum_of__2

Afternoon all

My overeating is definitely comfort based(hubby works nights so bored) although a little is situational as I bake cakes biscuits and make jams for sale and tasting is part of the job......I have started knitting socks to keep my hands busy!

Todays food

Brunch - huge cooked brekkie all free

Dinner is a chicken tagine and couscous 1 syn for the couscous and 1 syn for the apricots , i normally thicken with almonds but will just use less stock.......horrified when I looked almonds up

Snacks will be fruit and pickles and this evening I will have some NUME soy snacks 4.5 syns

shala_moo

shaz_mum_of__2 wrote: »

Afternoon all

My overeating is definitely comfort based(hubby works nights so bored) although a little is situational as I bake cakes biscuits and make jams for sale and tasting is part of the job......I have started knitting socks to keep my hands busy!

Todays food

Brunch - huge cooked brekkie all free

Dinner is a chicken tagine and couscous 1 syn for the couscous and 1 syn for the apricots , i normally thicken with almonds but will just use less stock.......horrified when I looked almonds up

Snacks will be fruit and pickles and this evening I will have some NUME soy snacks 4.5 syns

Shaz, can't see any healthy extras in your menu there, unless you just haven't listed them.. If you haven't had any then you can use almonds for a HEB, can't remember off the top of my head how many though sorry.

shala_moo

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

I know there will still be a gain and there will still be an overwhelming feeling of disappointment and disapproval. However short of going without there wasn't really a vast amount I could do feeling a little bit meh at the moment

Don't take the disappointment or the disapproval from yourself or anyone else, I think you've been really restrained this weekend and if you gain then so-be-it. You've enjoyed your weekend, accept that you'll have a bit of a gain and get back to normal this week.

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consultant31

Mildredd wrote: »

I'm sorry but no, I'm not asking for sw consultants to counsel members or hold therapy sessions. As to be quite honest the fact that so many of them are no longer at target makes me question the whole 'change for life' approach that sw is meant to be.
Sorry consultant you were a sw consultant yet your back on the plan to lose weight so surely there was some issue that led to you putting weight back on.
I personally am fed up being the show pony at my group and have enjoyed not staying for image as I can't handle the soooo Mildredd how amazing do you feel now you've lost ALL that weight?
Erm still the same person I was when I wobbled in? My personality hasn't changed. I now have more body hang ups and I'm striving for a perfect body that I probably won't ever achieve but other than that yeah it's alright I'm just less fat than I was.
I personally think sw needs to say losing weight won't solve all your problems and tbh if you have slight body hang ups accept your probably going to have more. Oh and your head won't realise your actually a smaller size for quite some time and you'll always consider yourself the fat one.

Sw doesn't accept will happen apart from find the new you?!
Sorry but changing the chassis on a car doesn't change the engine!!

And I haven't changed as a person I'm still the same person the new me? That implies there was something wrong with me as a person nope just my weight I joined to change my weight not get a new personality.

Yes I was a SW consultant for a long time, but I'm still a human being with all the faults and failings that every member has. In my case, my beloved Dad was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer which killed him within 5 weeks. My Mum was in her late seventies, disabled and distraught. I gave up work to look after her and ate like a pig for months on end because I completely lost control.

It took me seven years to gain back everything I originally lost with SW and then I got pancreatitis and was very ill for a while. During my hospital stay I lost 2 stone, but more importantly I realised that most of my problem was brought on by my shocking diet. So, here I am, back at group, lost another (almost) 2 stone and singing the praises of Food Optimising wherever I go.

I understand what you're saying Mildredd, but I don't think many members would want to talk about emotional issues in front of a group of strangers. I certainly wouldn't as I can still cry when I talk about my Dad and would feel embarrassed in front of others. I think your consultant holds you up as an example of what following the plan can do, but if you don't like it, don't let it stop you staying to IT, just have a word with her on the side and ask her not to do it. She should respect your wishes.

Slimming may not change who you are, or make you the life and soul of the party when previously you were the wallflower, but the realisation that you are, in fact, in control of at least one aspect of your life, can be a tremendous confidence boost to those of us who have always felt a bit side-lined. Don't strive for a perfect body, strive for good health....it's worth so much more

meg72 wrote: »

Great post Hun, raises lots of question and answers though, I don't think SW claims to be a change for life,, it merely says you can lose weight and keep it off if you want. I DO want as its helping with the pain of Artyitus, Don't want to look younger, get a Bikini Body, find a new partner etc, but hate being in pain, so that's my reason for doing it.

I have hated my belly since I was 21 and had to have an emergency op so my daughter could be born, I asked the Surgeon
if she used a knife and fork at the time . really horrible scaring. but hey ho I am more than just a belly. but will hate it even if I got right down to a slinky 8 stone.

Does anyone ever know what triggers a person to put weight back on when as you say Consultant is back on plan so must have issues, in my case it was grief, lost my Dad, my Son, my best friend, my Mom and a Brother and just stuffed my face with whatever I wanted, not least seeking oblivion from alcohol.

Sorry to have written a book here but would like to just share something I read that has really helped me.

Give me the strength to accept what I cannot change,
the strength to change what I can
and the wisdom to know the difference

Love that quote Meg....I have a small framed print of it on my kitchen wall.

I think that losing weight will help you with your pain, especially if it's in the weight bearing joints

I did a diabetes test online, which put me at high risk and it was this that confirmed to me that I have to food optimise for ever. For the first time since I made that decision, I have gone slightly off plan today and had a muffin at my Granddaughter's christening 'do'.

SW is a slimming club not a therapy group and the consultants would need very different training to deal with issues that may crop up in a therapy session. Group time is limited so it wouldn't work very well anyway. I do vaguely remember someone asking how other members resolved the problem of comfort eating but as far as I recall there never was a definitive answer

consultant31

greentiger wrote: »

Well done Annie.

I was thinking about this weight loss/self image issue we've been talking about. This isn't quite the same but there are similarities -

I was out with my friend for lunch. I looked across at another table and there were a group of ladies there too. I thought along the lines of, "There are some old ladies out enjoying themselves. That's nice" Then I realised that they'd probably be thinking the same about me and my friend!
On another occasion, I met someone I hadn't seen fors everal years and I thought how much she'd aged in comparison to my other friends. When I thought about it it was the DIFFERENCE since the last time I'd seen her that allowed the ageing. The friends I see more often, the difference is not noticeable as it happens so gradually, so it's as if they haven't changed. Is that why our minds don't see the change in our bodies that others notice, even although there is physical evidence?

I'm 63 but I think of myself as much, much younger than that. I still can't believe I'm that old (see first story)! My husband is 69 and still behaves like the young dafty I met and fell in love with 45 years ago. Despite serious health issues for each of us, we're still in our 20s, lol; still get a shock when we realise there are some things we can't do so easily.

When I look in the mirror, I see a stranger. But my OH sees me, as does everyone else - he's become accustomed to the gradual changes. I never have, and I'm just realising it's only me who can do something about chasing away the stranger. That's why I'm doing SW, albeit at a slow pace.

Good luck to everyone, however you deal with your issues.

Oh my, Greentiger, I'm with you all the way on so many of your points, I was probably one of the old ladies on that other table. I'm slightly older than you and I'm sure someone messes with the mirror when I look in it - that just can't be me :eek:
I still expect to be able to jump out of a chair when I've been sitting in it for half an hour and get such a shock, each and every time, when I creak and click on standing and have to make a performance of getting my coat on or something so no-one sees how long it takes me to straighten up :rotfl::rotfl:

pink_poppy

HelenDaveKids wrote: »

3 stone 10, a big poo away from a healthy bmi..

:rotfl::rotfl: Completely gross, but so funny!! Hope you manage it

EE today:
B - branflakes (HEB), raspberries/blueberries/mango, greek yoghurt (3.5 syns)
L - 3 scanbran (3 syns), 3 x philly lightest pods (HEA), tomato
D - Aldi pulled pork (small portion & without the honey/mustard dressing), SW chips, green beans
Orange, grapes & cherries

I'm away for a few days from tomorrow. Will weigh before I go & probably avoid the scales when I get back

meg72

beanielou wrote: »

meg~Full of admiration that you are still standing for less doing SW.
As I have said we never know what other peoples lives are like.

Our consultant says it a change/plan for life.

For me I gained weight as I was sad and unhappy.I had lost 3 st 3 and am now down to about 2 st 9/10 so have gained about half a stone.
I just have the energy to cook properly & I really don't 'do' body magic.
I don't think I will ever be happy with my body.
I hate my legs and my knees and my stomach.
(& of course my gait)

Thank you Beanie, I admire you too in that you keep going despite your difficulties and are always so supportive of others.
This is just a quick post as I have an unexpected guest, arrived last night and needs some company for a few days. She was a good friend to me when I needed it so am happy to return the favour. Catch up with you all later.

Annie021063

Afternoon everyone
:hello: to our newbies
This is a great thread and a friendly helpful bunch- stick with us.
Still on track for the 5lbs club on Tuesday weigh in, doubt if I'll lose 5lbs but the focus I've had this week on my eating has been worth it
Eating more salads at present but I'm hungrier, might start having some protein snacks in between to keep me going
B - fruit and yogurt
L - egg and potato salad from the all in one book
D - pork chops, SW roasties, shelled peas! (Should have been more but ate a few whilst shelling) lol corn on the cob and asparagus
Snacks, fruit
Syns probably wine

Cycled to shop and back earlier and did a 30 min walk with the dog
Busy week ahead so might not be around much
Thanks for your congrats on my promotion
Keep going everyone - we are amazing and amazing people can create amazing dreams:T

shaz_mum_of__2

shala_moo wrote: »

Shaz, can't see any healthy extras in your menu there, unless you just haven't listed them.. If you haven't had any then you can use almonds for a HEB, can't remember off the top of my head how many though sorry.

Have had a milky coffee for my A keeping my b in reserve in case hunger pangs later but good to know about almonds

TakeItEazy

for Shala - STS disappointed to be the only gain on the chart at the end of the challenge AGAIN . Still feeling meh with my tummy issues, really thought I'd have a loss this week but tummy says NOOOOOO as usual so feel like crying .