12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

wendz86

Sorry to hear you are having a rubbish time of it Daisy . Unfortunately it is very different with different people so hard to know when you will feel better. Hope it is soon though, at least you can rest this week.

I agree with Monty might be worth seeing a doctor and they might be able to prescribe something, especially for the sickness.

daisiegg

monty-doggy wrote: »

Daisiegg have you spoken to anyone about how sick you feel? Perhaps the dr could help because you sound as if you are really suffering and you will end up with severe exhaustion which can bring other problems?

Not really. The dizziness/tiredness/faintness is due to low blood pressure,which they can't do anything about and which is much better than having high blood pressure. I don't think I would get anti sickness medication because the sickness is not constant, and most days I do manage to keep down enough food, as evidenced by the fact I am gaining weight! Also would not be sure about taking anti sickness medication really unless I absolutely had to and could not function due to dehydration or something.

My family keep telling me I should be grateful as I am doing much better than I could be! My mum was so ill with all her pregnancies that she was in and out of hospital throughout. I guess it is in my genes to not cope very well with pregnancy!

I don't really know who I could talk to. Our GP surgery is rubbish and all they want to do is sign me off work and that's it. I can't call a midwife, don't have a number or anything. I have a midwife appointment on the 13th of June so if I still feel rough then I will ask her about it.

tinkwings

monty-doggy wrote: »

Ooh what kind of crafting do you do?

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Vanessa-Bunting/262043163885851

This is my FB page ...... I sew ... Crochet .... knit......many things of joy xx

tinkwings

So sorry you are feeling pants daisi xxxx

time2deal

daisiegg wrote: »

My family keep telling me I should be grateful as I am doing much better than I could be! My mum was so ill with all her pregnancies that she was in and out of hospital throughout. I guess it is in my genes to not cope very well with pregnancy!

You should tell your family to be more supportive! Maybe it's not as bad as it could be, doesn't mean it is easy. I don't like when people belittle other people's problem "Call that a cold! Well there was this one time in Peru when I was hospitalized in a mosquito ridden tent for 100 years with pneumonia.. blah blah". So does that mean anything less should just be ignored??

Go easy on yourself. Also don't put pressure on yourself to be the image you imagined of swanning about to lunch and going to the movies, or whatever you think you should be doing. I got some good advice in my early illness, which was if you find yourself saying 'I should...' then you probably don't need to. Do what you can, and forgive yourself what you can't.

Re the blood pressure, are you drinking enough water? Not that I know much about that, but my only experience is in the hospital when they make you drink to bring up blood pressure. Dehydration doesn't help. I always have low pressure but no symptoms, other than doctors making worried faces from time to time.

time2deal

tinkwings wrote: »

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Vanessa-Bunting/262043163885851

This is my FB page ...... I sew ... Crochet .... knit......many things of joy xx

Silly question probably... but how do I actually buy anything?

daisiegg

time2deal wrote: »

You should tell your family to be more supportive! Maybe it's not as bad as it could be, doesn't mean it is easy. I don't like when people belittle other people's problem "Call that a cold! Well there was this one time in Peru when I was hospitalized in a mosquito ridden tent for 100 years with pneumonia.. blah blah". So does that mean anything less should just be ignored??

Go easy on yourself. Also don't put pressure on yourself to be the image you imagined of swanning about to lunch and going to the movies, or whatever you think you should be doing. I got some good advice in my early illness, which was if you find yourself saying 'I should...' then you probably don't need to. Do what you can, and forgive yourself what you can't.

Re the blood pressure, are you drinking enough water? Not that I know much about that, but my only experience is in the hospital when they make you drink to bring up blood pressure. Dehydration doesn't help. I always have low pressure but no symptoms, other than doctors making worried faces from time to time.

Thank you I don't mean they are not sympathetic - they are - but they seem to think it is comforting to tell me how much worse it could be! I do drink loads of water, thank you, that is one thing I have always been good at!

I think you are right about not putting pressure on myself; that is very wise. I think I just feel like we should be making the most of our last baby free months, and I am frustrated that I can't! Mind you, the other way of looking at it is I won't be able to have anywhere near as much sleep and relaxation as I am having now when the baby comes, so I am making the most of it in that sense! :rotfl:

In more cheerful news, my little girl is definitely practising her football and/or Irish dancing skills today! It is an amazing feeling and makes everything else seem worthwhile..almost!

Sorry again for moaning, everyone. What would I do without you all?!

tinkwings

time2deal wrote: »

Silly question probably... but how do I actually buy anything?

Most people message me and we go from there t2d xxx

teaandcakeordeath

Hugs daisi. I know what you mean about pregnancy though I don't think I've had it anywhere near as tough as some- including you! I feel relatively fit and healthy tbh. It took so long to get here and I'm so unbelievably thankful but I don't enjoy being pregnant- I think I'm too impatient for this stage and I find the waiting very stressful.

Finances have me up the wall at the moment as I don't think 'selling a kidney' is a viable financial strategy. I still don't have a discernible bump so I just look a bit fatter- people constantly react with surprise when I say that I'm 24 weeks as though I'm making it up which makes me very paranoid- what if baby isn't growing properly because of my unicornuate uterus... I'm constantly exhausted- like lilmiss I'm waiting for this 'burst of energy' to manifest itself, the inability to breathe out of my nose without taking (forbidden to pregnant women) sinus sprays is getting on my nerves- I can't remember the last time I slept through without waking up gasping for air. Everyone and everything seems to get on my nerves and I'm sick of people telling me of all the delights to come ('ooh, wait 'til you have a third degree tear- then you'll know what pain is'- after I'd slammed my head into a cupboard door at work- pretty sure the massive egg on my head is bloody painful!, 'you don't know tired until you've got a screaming baby'- a personal pet hate, I've had insomnia off and on my entire adult life, I'm pretty sure I know what bone numbing tired feels like without having a screaming child etc.)

Then I hate myself as I feel like I'm being incredibly ungrateful! Am clearly the worst pregnant woman ever!

Feel especially 'argh' today- as usual have left my uni work to the last possible minute and have severely underestimated the amount of work involved. Have just finished an 8 day work stretch- including being called in at 4am yesterday, am absolutely knackered, house is a bin and I really don't have the brain capacity to deal with biology proposals at the moment. That's my rant over! Hopefully you'll feel a bit more validated in how you feel now as I just look like a right witch!

WTDN- hope your scan was amazing!

teaandcakeordeath

Daisi- re. the low blood pressure, I was advised to drink a lot more water, less caffeine and reduce alcohol (not possible as it's quite rare that I drink!) and also to increase my salt intake- the diarolyte sachets were recommended. My GP did muse about giving me support socks to push the blood up from my legs but I persuaded him it really wasn't an option! I've also been getting dizzy lately so have added an iron supplement to my pregnancy vitamin regime which does seem to be helping a little with the dizziness and tiredness.