12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

Lemon_Tree

I think I need someone to tell me to get over myself.
I was in a foul mood yesterday, and got narked with my mum, (I've apologised today) because I'm stressed about the risk of being made redundant this time next year and having to pay my extra maternity pay back, as well as possibly losing the house. And today whilst playing with a toy the dog accidentally drew blood and OH didn't hear me say so, so didn't help me shift stuff off me so I could go and clean up, so I got narky again with him. But to be honest it's probably because I'm sick of coming home and finding that bu99er all has been done, but I'm expected to (it feels like) single handed sort out the three rooms upstairs so we can get the nursery sorted out. He won't even put the plants in the ground where the dog has been digging them up, no he puts them back in plant pots, I'm guessing so I can do it at the weekend. I feel like I could burst into tears at the drop of a hat, I thought I was feeling less tired of late but today I woke up more tired than if I'd not bothered to actually go to bed last night.
told you I need to be told to get over myself!
think part of me is also worrying about what if they find something wrong at my 20 week scan which is on Tuesday.

time2deal

Hug lemon tree. It's probably the stress of the upcoming scan, but I think stress just means I don't cope with the normal level of !!!! that I put up with!!

You DH probably thinks he is helping by putting the plants back in the pots, as he 'I wasn't sure that what you want to do with them'. My DH does the same - it's drives me crazy!! Just do something with them man!! Rather than leaving me one more thing to do.

Some days I love DH to bits, and some days I want to just scream at him. He is a total procrastinator, which is a polite way of saying he is lazy and will wait and hope someone else will do things for him. Recently one of our light switches stopped working - and DH let me know. I said 'did you look into fixing it?'. 'No, I don't know what to do.' Like I do!! I just google it, do some research, go to homebase and find a replacement, watch a youtube video and fix the problem. He just seems to think telling me is enough! He's also great at saying to me 'the wi-fi/boiler/whatever isn't working right', then just glaring at me like it's my fault. Recently I've starting saying 'here is the number for sky/british gas etc', and he is slowly getting the message. Maybe I just took on too much before!

Slightly back on topic he said I should do a list of things we need for the baby, and kept reminding me about it. I stressed about it for a bit, and then realised it's not just my baby, so told him if he wanted a list (which I don't) then he could do his own research. It was like seeing a light switch on... he hasn't asked again.

Wow, that turned into a rant. Sorry!

monty-doggy

Lol my oh is useless at anything DIY. I sort everything. It's just taken him eight days to sand and gloss out bedroom door, and he split the wood on the side of it taking it off the frame. Today he lost his temper with it because he can't fix the split on the side of the door and was going to just smash it up, I went mad. We can't afford a new door so I made him leave it and I'll fix it tomorrow. Grrrrrrrr!

Lemon_Tree

I really think we share OH's Monty, mine won't do anything round the house, he left home to moving to my place when we go married and his folks got a mate to do odd jobs. We've been needing to put up some fencing for the best part of 18 months but it has not progressed anywhere, I think I'm expected to sort it all out but don't really know where to start and am not capable of the heavy work. But there's about 8 tree stumps which he's been planning on removing for the entire time so the fencing can go up and there's always some excuse why he hasn't done it. Sometimes feel like if I did it, it would prove a point that a pregnant woman could do something he can't be ar5ed to do but it won't get me anywhere, I would just get lumbered with all the rest of them. grrr! I do love him dearly just wish he was a bit more dynamic sometimes not that I'm on the go 24/7 but I at least make an attempt to get stuff progressed.
he won't even put washing away and acts like I've asked him to chop off his favourite appendage if I ask him to put a load of washing on and put it out on the line.

time2deal

The thing is the flat was 'mine' originally. So I probably took all responsibility as it was my house rather than his, and then I slightly resisted him butting in when he insisted on making decisions around things like the renovation. But that was years ago, so he can't use that as an excuse forever! He is also liable to have a meltdown when things don't work like your partner monty, so I feel I can't trust him to do things sometimes.

But I've asked him to do a few things recently - like book maternity appointments when he is at home, rather than me sitting on hold for an hour at work. And he did it no worries. Maybe I should just stop doing everything!

lollypopswater

Ha see we have the opposite problem OH is always doings things round the house and trying to rope me in when I just want to chill out! Bank Holiday gardening anyone!?

One thing he is being a bit funny about though is buying any baby stuff yet so I feel a bit behind... We said after 20wk scan which is a wk on tues and he's standing pretty strong on that one lol!

I do have other talents I should explain it's me that does finances and general household admin etc!

Lemon_Tree

mine doesn't want to do anything he hasn't done before, he even wanted to pay someone to pull up the old living room carpet when we had it replaced a couple of weeks ago! I mean how hard is it to pull up a carpet? my old cats used to do it overnight

Peonie

Well it doesn't look like we're getting that cot. We were supposed to pick it up and pay for it tonight but they never responded to my multiple requests for their address. I'm slightly annoyed as it would have been perfect. If he's bit a got a better offer why not just tell me.

Lemon_Tree

that's so annoying Peonie!

monty-doggy

Lol.my oh is exactly the same. I love him but he drives me bonkers.

I'm so glad he is at work in the day and I can potter about and do my own thing.

He would rather pay someone to do jobs than do them himself. And if I say no try it first, I'm sure he wrecks it deliberately! He says he doesn't but sometimes even the simplest DIY tasks become rocket science!