The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

chickpea

tia86 wrote: »

Congrats Chick Pea, hope its a sticky one

Hugs ladies feeling down at the moment, being relatively new to this board I have only had to experience a few comments from my mum - so far she is in the 'relaxed and it will happen' camp - I have now pointed out that considering I am seeing a FS and they have explained the whole process it is not that simple. Her other favourite is 'sometimes its just not meant to be' argh!!

Hope you all have a good weekend

Thanks Tia. I think sometimes parents just don't know what to say, I've never had in-depth conversations with my mum about it. Probably safest.

My biggest bugbear are the 'readers' comments' on any newspaper article online involving IVF/infertility. Along the lines of 'too selfish/too old/why not just adopt/world is over-populated anyway'. Usually by people who've had all the children they want without difficulty. Oh and also 'why should the NHS pay for it when people are dying of X, Y, Z...' when I'm pretty sure no-one with a serious illness is actually being denied treatment because someone else is getting IVF. If anything, the NHS should cut down low-level stuff like varicose vein treatment when it's being done for cosmetic reasons or gluten free foods when these are now freely available!!! I personally feel infertility isn't just a medical matter, sometimes it's a medical crisis.

xx

Wonder_Woman

Brilliant news Lisa and Star, hope you're both feeling ok. The EC & ET is def the best bit isn't it (if there is a best bit)!

Chickpea - my bugbear is people having ops on the NHS like breast implants or gastric bands whilst people are denied the chance to have fertility treatment, but I guess that's a whole other issue.

Loveactually

Lisa - that's fantastic fertilisation good luck for Wednesday thrilled for you.

Star - congrats on being PUPO lots of sticky vibes your way

Chickpea - congrats and chill and relax over the coming days

Tea, Isla and WW hope your cycles are going fine which stage are you guys at.

Afm - everything going good scan on Monday to decide EC day. Had acupuncture today morning at 9 am so DH took me to Windsor after that had lovely breakfast in a beautiful riverside cafe then a game of bowling and a movie back home few minutes back. Had a lovely day today.

isla_red

Great news lisa and star! Sending you lots and lots of super sticky dust star!

That sounds like a very lovey day la. I am due to start menopur and cetrotide next week as well as double dose metformin. I'm more than a bit nervous! :eek:

star02

Thanks everyone :j

Waiting for a call tomorrow to see if any of the other 13 were suitable for freezing.

Part_Mouse

Sorry for lack if personal just got in and shattered, went to comedy night and most of the acts were talking about parents and asking people to call out if they were. We were one of only a few who wernt. Thought we could escape that horrid infertility s&it for a night.

Off to cuddle the cats now.

pinkteapot

Hey all, I know I'm a really occasional poster on here and I should be more regular and offer more support to everyone myself, but I'm really struggling at the moment.

We have our first IVF consultation appointments this week, to go through the process.

I feel like I should be excited it's finally happening, but I feel really down and anxious. I'm so worried about the effect the drugs will have on me. I don't react to well to hormone-affecting drugs. I tried a few different types of pill in the past before giving up, and I was awful on Clomid. I feel very low, very teary, very hopeless. It's like a black fog that I can't crawl out of. I know IVF drugs are strong and I'm so scared of how it's going to make me feel.

I'm scared of the egg retrieval too, but only because I hate hospitals and any procedure where I'm knocked out!

I feel like I'm losing the plot. We ordered some garden furniture a couple of weeks ago and went to assemble it yesterday. It's faulty and some of the seats can't be assembled. I've emailed the shop we ordered from to explain and sent them pics. I got really stressed about it and had a full-blown panic attack with tears and hyperventilating, panicking about what we'd do, what if they won't sort it out, etc. It was ridiculous, and I know that today after a night's sleep, but it keeps happening lately. I'm over-reacting to everything. I've always been a worrier but it's a million times worse.

I feel like I'm drowning.

There's other things going on to. Hubby has been booked in for tests for a chronic disease, and there's suddenly some uncertainty about his job when we've just moved to a more expensive house. On top of that work is really busy. I've been feeling low for months now and I'm not seeing friends very often, not getting involved in my hobbies as much. I just want to get out of this funk.

There's stuff in our IVF intro/explanatory paperwork about welfare of the child and how they'll quiz us at our first appointment to make sure we want and can look after a baby. With the way I'm feeling I'm getting scared they'll see it and think we shouldn't have one or something.

I just needed to get this off my chest. Does anyone else find the stress of it all this hard?

tinkwings

Morning Lady Bugs
A BFP for me ! I am in complete shock especially as I had no + OV result this morning my day 21 bloods came back on wednesday with 77.2 so took that as a good sign that I did OV!!!
It is early days & I am scared beyond belief as this is a 1st +PG test in 18 months after 3mc's & lots of heartache we are praying that this one is a sticky one xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

lisawood78

Woooohooo wtg Tinks

mrshappy

Brilliant Tinkwings, fingers crossed for a sticky bean x