The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

vseviour

Great news Primer, Gelly FrozenPenguin and Picklekin!!! Lovely to hear updates on your journeys.
Janey just wanted to say that I know exactly how you feel, I'd actually come on here to post similar :-( x
And huge good luck to those having treatments at the moment, two of my friends are having treatment this month too so it's permenant fingers crossed!! x

ljaneyr

Hi all, I'm having (another) meltdown My DH's best friend and our best man is expecting a baby with his girlfriend of a few months. Why are some announcements so much harder than others? Also, I think I'm being a snob because she has had to start a new Facebook page (because her glamour 'modelling' page isn't appropriate for a mum to be) which makes it seem even more unfair. I really don't feel I can cope at the moment.

Janey x

ellesbellesxxx

Ah Janey, :grouphug: (sorry, the best I could find!)


I totally get about some announcements being harder than others - some even when I am expecting them bowl me over! I think when someone has an easy conception, easy pregnancy, easy baby it sometimes is just a bit too much to swallow.
Any news on your hcg apt? I ended up email my consultant's secretary to ask about my lap and dye in the end - she emailed me the date a few weeks before I got confirmation. That took such a weight off my mind as I could then work towards that date.
XXXXXX

vseviour

Hugs Janey, I'm heading home to visit family soon and I'm struggling with all the bumps. I even had to message my sister and intrusively ask if she was pregnant and planning an announcement because I didn't think I'd be able to cope face to face :-( Personally, I find that when bumps become babies I'm not so jealous, because they are real people who 'belong' to their mummy, it's the anonymity of bumps that gets me - why don't I have one of those??? x

ellesbellesxxx

VSeviour - I think you have hit the nail on the head!
I am not jealous of their baby - I want OUR baby, but it's the elusive getting pregnant/bump that is eluding me right now and that I find hard to cope with!

cyantist

I used to post religiously on here 4/5 years ago, but I forgot my log in details and have a new account now. I have posted on here since though, mentioning my low AMH (4.7, though this miraculously increased to 10.7 in a few months with no change in lifestyle).

We have been trying for over 10 years now, since we were both 24. I really thought it wouldn’t happen and was so against IVF because I was terrified firstly it would turn me into a hormonal monster, and also because I have a very high change of getting breast cancer due to my family history and IVF does increase your chances. For most people the increased risk is negligible but when there’s a huge chance already it does make a difference. However we realised it was our only chance to have a family. So 3 months ago we started out first cycle of ICSI and I’m now 7 weeks pregnant.

I know it’s not a miracle, its science. But science is bloody amazing! For all the people about to embark on the same sort of thing it really wasn’t that bad at all, for me anyway. The injections weren't even that bad and there were no side effects at all apart from feeling like I was on drugs with one tablet, which mainly stopped when the dose was decreased and that is absolutely nothing compared to the symptoms I’m experiencing now.

I realise there is still scope for a lot to go wrong but this is by far the furthest we have got in over 10 years. I wanted to wish good luck to you all and if you do want to know anything about the treatment I’m happy to share.

ellesbellesxxx

Cyantist, I am so so pleased for you!!!!!! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months and happily ever after too!!!!!!!


I totally know what you mean about the science being incredible - it is amazing what they can do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mogwai

Hi *cyantist* - happy to hear your good news, you've had a long wait, fingers crossed you have a smooth 9 (7 now?) months ahead of you.

I would agree about IVF seeming like a really scary thing, my mil put me off it as long as she could, telling me the treatment made you fat and hormonal. In reality I had one bad mood swing on the first day and I was perfectly fine after that. I'm also 7 weeks now. I'm glad I just bit the bullet and went ahead we had been trying 3 years before that.

*janey* really sorry to hear you are struggling, I went through a bad patch too when my closest friends, sister and sister in laws all fell pregnant within 3 months. By the end of that 3 months I was so numb. Just keep focused on your journey and fingers crossed you will have your own time soon.

Good luck to everyone else going through treatment now.

Btw, anyone that has been through ivf before - what did you do with leftover meds? Can I sell them or is it illegal?? Seems a shame to throw them away esp as they cost so much in the first place..

tea_lover

My spare room is still full of leftover meds! I never did work out what to do with them. In theory they should be returned to a pharmacy but none of the ones near me would take them.

cyantist

Thank you!
As a scientist it’s weird I was so reluctant to rely on science!

Congrats mogwai! We have about 7 and a half left to go I think and I have my scan on Friday. Hope everything is going well with you. I also wish we’d just done it years ago, but at the same time the clinic we are at now is amazing and if we’d done it before we’d have been at a completely different place and I really think it probably wouldn’t have worked.

It can be really difficult with all the announcements. We were told last year it would probably never happen for us (even with treatment). 2 weeks later my sister had an abortion, which I found even harder than if it had just been another pregnancy to deal with.

I think it is illegal to sell them, or even give them to someone else (though if it was a friend, how would anyone ever know?). I was told to return anything spare, but I was only ever given exactly the amount I needed so I only have a few of the tablets left over now.