The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Primmer

Tea - hugs for tonsillitis, I had it a few months ago and it's horrible

Hugs to all who are having a hard time.

Fingers crossed to all those who are currently having treatment and good luck to those starting in the new year.

So sad that another Christmas is approaching and once again it's a childless one for me. All I am seeing on telly and magazines is all about babies and children and how great having children is. There was one magazine at the hairdressers yesterday which had no articles in I felt up to reading. Good job my dog is here for lots of cuddles today.

Wonder_Woman

Hehe, I can see why he would Laura! Mr DiCaprio has that effect on me

Oh Primmer, it's so hard isn't it? DH's family never tire of reminding us how Christmas is "all about the children." I suppose the rest of us may as well just hibernate til it's all over. Can't even drown our sorrows in wine and ferrero rocher as cycling again, waaah! Dog cuddles it is!! Where are you spending Christmas?

Primmer

WW - we are at home Christmas Day just me, DH and the dog which will be really nice then over dh's parents on Boxing Day with his brother and sister and the kids which will also be nice. My parents are in Australia staying with my brother and his two girls which I think is making me sad as would love to spend Xmas with my nieces but they are the other side of the world. What are you plans for Christmas?

Slinky_Selina

Hi all

Hope we are all well! I've decided to have a grumble about doctors, got the whammy of hearing my TSH levels(my thyroid) is up to 7.9, the GP says I dont need to change treatment despite the Endo sending a letter saying my infertility is due to Hypothyroidism and Weight so I need to have the levels between 1 and 2. Of course everyone is away for Christmas.
Auntie Flo is almost certainly only her way and bringing a headache and back pain with her!

And tomorrow I go to my in-laws where my ss-in-l will be, she is due on 6th Jan, they were waiting till after they got married to start a family, they conceived on the honeymoon
I really dont know how to deal with it, I went into a deep depression after finding out and am now on medication, I am upset, angry and bereft for want of a better word. Lifes just not fair

tea_lover

Surprise birth announcement bomb from old schoolfriend on stupid Facebook. Had no idea she was pg. Already feel weird whenever she posts - there were four of us at school in a v close group for years. We all went to different unis and stayed in sporadic but friendly contact. A few years later one of the four got married, it was only when I saw some photos that I realised the other two were bridesmaids. I hadn't seen any of them in person for years, although we still do Christmas cards, occasional social media chats etc.

Its bothered me for years if I'm honest. I have no idea what I did. The other three see each other loads, go on holiday, meet up for new year. I have no doubt if I bumped into any of them they'd be perfectly polite. But what did I do??

Eugh, what a ramble. Seeing a birth announcement from one of them has dragged it all up again.

Have started the Christmas chocolate.

pinkteapot

Oh, tea, I really doubt you did anything. Maybe they just chatted more, had more shared interests as they got older... I very much doubt it was deliberate.

If you kept trying to join in with things, asked for invites, and they were making excuses, then it'd be different, but I'm sure it's nothing. People do drift apart - I'm only in loose contact with school friends and some of them are still close to each other.

codemonkey

Ach, I have been trying so hard to be jolly but this time of year sucks. It just does.

Also if one more person makes a comment like "it annoys me when parents do....because they should be grateful because there are people who can't have kids" with a pointed look at me like I'm some kind of terrible thing that you aspire not to be, always from someone who has no idea what its like not to be able to have kids. Truth is, I feel like a failure.

tea_lover

I feel like a failure too code. A huge failure. No kids, no chance of kids (seriously no chance, haven't dtd for literally months), a farce relationship that's barely clinging on. Won't even be eating Christmas dinner with OH this year.

Thought once I'd got past the first EDD Christmas it'd be easier but it all sucks. It really, really sucks.

codemonkey

tea_lover wrote: »

I feel like a failure too code. A huge failure. No kids, no chance of kids (seriously no chance, haven't dtd for literally months), a farce relationship that's barely clinging on. Won't even be eating Christmas dinner with OH this year.

Thought once I'd got past the first EDD Christmas it'd be easier but it all sucks. It really, really sucks.

Hugs. I can't drink but would you like to sample my Christmas vodka?

tea_lover

So much so I would like to have a bath in it

Very rarely actually drink anything these days (handy, as now on antibiotics for tonsillitis) but some days are crying out for a large bottle of spirits.