The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

isla_red

I hope the time fairies wave their wand and make the day go a bit faster. It's the least they can do!

What sort of things are you interested in?

tea_lover

isla_red wrote: »

What sort of things are you interested in?

I've sort of drifted between cr.appy jobs since graduating and now have no useful experience, no idea of how to get a job I'd actually enjoy, and no idea of where the last 15 years have gone!

I've got a BSc in Geography and would love to do a masters in International Development or something along those lines. I suppose the ideal would be to work for a charity like Christian Aid, Oxfam etc.

But how on earth you get there from an admin job in occ health at the age of 35 I don't know.

lisawood78

Ahhh Tea!! I'm so sorry, it's all so completely unfair! I hope your day goes as fast as it can, try to take some time for yourself at some point :-(


How you getting on Isla?

isla_red

tea have you looked at the open university at all? There might be a course you could do while still at work? There are also free online courses you can sign up for. I'll get the link later in case there is something useful in there.

AFM no spotting since the brown spots yesterday. Relatively strong cramps but nothing to show for it so far. Not done a POAS at all and don't have a FRER.

pinkteapot

Oh, tea, I'm so sorry.

I work at a university and was talking to a guy from the careers centre recently. He was saying that they have to teach students to think laterally. They get lots of people saying they want to work for charities and international aid organisations. The graduate recruitment schemes are really competitive, so they advise them to do work that will give them the skills that these organisations need and then move. Sounds random, but they tell them to go for supermarket graduate recruitment schemes and apply for jobs in distribution, etc, because the biggest skill set that aid organisations need is logistics management.

I've changed careers twice (!) and the main route in is using your transferable skills. The good news is that admin job = admin skills (useful in any sector). If you can't get an admin job for a charity (as a way into the sector), look for admin jobs in logistics companies, or any other fields which will give you skills relevant to the charity sector. Work experience and useful skills are going to be a more reliable way in than doing a Masters, though the idea above of doing something with the OU or online while working is good in addition.

Don't write off the experience you've got. As I said, admin skills are hugely transferable and can get you in to the sector you want, even if it's not in the job role you want to start with.

Also, don't decide anything in the next few days. Take some time, let the stress and stupidity at work wash over you, and look after yourself first.

pinkteapot

AFM, still bleeding. Made the mistake of googling and the internet says uterine/cervical cancer. Now I'm in hypochondriac mode. Tell me I'm being stupid. I've had umpteen internal ultrasounds over the last few years, the most recent of which was a month ago. At every single one, they've said "Oh look, a fibroid" and been utterly unconcerned about it. Now I have a little voice saying "what if it was a bad lump, not a fibroid?" but I'm sure they'd have tested it if they thought it looked suspicious?

Beyond that stupid fear, I'm stressing about what this will mean for our planned IVF. We've had our consultation at the clinic and I told the consultant how perfect my AFs are (regular, always the same length). Next step in theory is that I phone them on CD1 of the cycle we want to start treatment, they send me drugs and I start taking them on CD21. I'm meant to do that in June.

What do I do now? I know first step is to see what the GP says tomorrow but I assume I'll have to at least tell the IVF clinic that this has happened. Guessing I need to go back in and see the consultant again as I now do have an AF problem, but as we're NHS funded I don't know if I can have an extra appointment?? What if we lose our funding because I now have something wrong that wasn't wrong when we were referred??

My cycle's been perfect for almost 20 years. Can't believe it's playing up now, arggghhh!!!

tea_lover

Pink - breathe! There's not much you can do before your GP appointment, hopefully they'll be able to let you know whether it's worth contacting the FS. Periods are awkward little b*ggers, it's probably just playing up to prove a point!

Isla - am crossing my fingers so tightly! x

pinkteapot

I know. I'm so carp at taking things one day at a time. You might all want to hide from the thread when our IVF cycle comes around. :rotfl:

pinkteapot

Oh, last night I decided to POAS as I read that the GP will probably make me do this tomorrow. Looked for a stick. Found I only had one, and it went out of date in June 2013!

Shows how long it's been since I bothered testing (I haven't tested in months where AF has arrived on time).

Peed on it anyway and got an extremely faint negative line and no control line, so gave up on it as a bad job. :rotfl:

pinkteapot

WW - belated reply re images.

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