Step-children. are they "yours"?

marisco_2

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I agree but what would you call someone you'd been seeing for a month or two?

Depends on the couple. By the time some people have reached this stage of a new relationship they are already 'partners', each others 'other half' (cringe), a fiance! To me you are still very much getting to know someone, when you have been seeing them for just a matter of weeks, so they would be no more than a friend and would be referred to as such.

Trying_to_be_good

I'm glad to see there's been some balance in the latter pages compared to the vitriol in the first posts.

I'm a (non-resident) step-mum and have been for 6 years. It was fine when the kids were younger and only their Mum was being difficult (moving the kids illegally to another country for one). I bought a family house for us and for them to have some stability, their Dad had no savings having given it all to the children's mother when she'd demanded a divorce (I didn't know him at that stage). It's been thrown back in my face any number of times since. I'm made to feel unwelcome in my own home, but expected to still do all the cleaning and washing etc.

I've come to the realisation that it doesn't matter how hard I've tried, how much I've treated them as if they were my own, to them I'm a second class citizen ad not part of the family.

I think it's time to call it a day, and as other posters have said, the 'relationship' with the step-children simply disappears. At some stage they'll realise just how much I did, but it'll be too late by then.

Person_one

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I agree but what would you call someone you'd been seeing for a month or two?

Jim, Bob, Steve whatever.

Certainly not boyfriend, I'd cringe. I've got grey hairs, I don't date boys!

Buzzybee90

Person_one wrote: »

Jim, Bob, Steve whatever.

Certainly not boyfriend, I'd cringe. I've got grey hairs, I don't date boys!

I think it's the same level of cringe as a "partner" who you've only known two months!

Buzzybee90

marisco wrote: »

Depends on the couple. By the time some people have reached this stage of a new relationship they are already 'partners', each others 'other half' (cringe), a fiance! To me you are still very much getting to know someone, when you have been seeing them for just a matter of weeks, so they would be no more than a friend and would be referred to as such.

What I can't stand is people referring to their other half simply as husband or fianc! (to people they know, not in a four setting of course) or even worse 'babe'. I read a tweet the other day saying 'babe just woke me up with a lovely text'. Criiiinge

Tomcatsmum

Well I am a step child and have been for 36years since the age of 4, my step dad has treated me equal to his biological daughter and always refers to me as his daughter, he has never called me his stepdaughter. My biological father and stepmother have not been in contact with me since I was 9 and all I can remember of her is that she was a nasty bi@ch. I have a very close relationship with my stepdad and love him to bits, he is my dad in every sense of the word.

Errata

Nowt wrong with fancy man or fancy woman, keeps 'em in their place and guessing.

Person_one

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

What I can't stand is people referring to their other half simply as husband or fianc! (to people they know, not in a four setting of course) or even worse 'babe'. I read a tweet the other day saying 'babe just woke me up with a lovely text'. Criiiinge

I'd try not to worry so much about what other people call their partners!

quidsy

Man friend.

Buzzybee90

quidsy wrote: »

Man friend.

Just reminds me of affairs!