Another Step Family query....

rozmister

MrsE wrote: »

I use my spare room as a home office, laundry room, spare double bedroom, even storage for stuff that I dont want to put in the loft.

I would think it a complete waste if I had to give up my office & laundry to use it as a bedroom 2 dozen nights a year.

When I was in my first year of uni my darling older half brother turned the spare bedroom into a study for himself. He didn't work in there just played computer games but he dismantled my bed and put it in the loft so he could fit a sofa in. Even though I only wanted to use the bedroom for uni holidays I was devastated as it felt like my mum was indulging my older half brother (who's in his 30s) over me. It really stung, I was so hurt by the fact his need to play computer games meant I had nowhere to go home to between uni. I left my mum's house sobbing in the car going off to sleep on a friend's sofa and for me it made it very clear that actually I didn't have a home to go home to if I needed one, my brother does but not me. It's all very well getting the best use of a room but it shouldn't be at the expense of a young person's feelings.

MrsE_2

rozmister wrote: »

I had nowhere to go home to between uni. I left my mum's house sobbing in the car going off to sleep on a friend's sofa and for me it made it very clear that actually I didn't have a home to go home to if I needed one, my brother does but not me. It's all very well getting the best use of a room but it shouldn't be at the expense of a young person's feelings.

It's not really the same though. You are talking about your home, I assume your brother grabbed your bedroom when you started uni.
In this case the young lady has a bedroom at home, the issue is when she goes to her dad & step mums house.
But the op can't change this, what she can do is be there for her dd, because it's not just about the spare room being used for other things, it's about the lack of respect & personal space where 2 children are allowed in early in the morning.