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Apologizing makes everything forgivable?
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Have you never done anything wrong ? I know I have, all too often
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Apologising might not make everything alright, but refusing to doesn't mean it never happened.
Which is worse, once the transgression is made?0 -
No I don't think an apology can set everything right. There's an analogy about it that I think holds true; imagine dropping a plate on the floor and breaking it. You can apologise to the plate as much as you want, you can be sincerely sorry that you broke that plate, but that's not going to fix it back together!
I think a genuine, heartfelt apology and meaningful acceptance of wrongdoing goes a long way, but there is some damage a simple apology can never fix.0 -
But its not always that cut and dry. People don't necessarily say or do things to deliberate ly hurt or offend others. I know at times I've unintentionally put my foot in it and had to apologise. My well intentioned comments were misconstrued. Therfore interpretation was different to theirs. I didn't sit there thinking what can I say or do to wind people up.
No of course you didn't , that would be intentionally cruel , some people must have an idea though that x y z is going to leak out/ hurt their family/ destroy their reputation/ loose their jobs and yet they still think a quick sorry will smooth it all over?0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Have you never done anything wrong ? I know I have, all too often
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Apologising might not make everything alright, but refusing to doesn't mean it never happened.
Which is worse, once the transgression is made?
Oh crumbs yes but I would like to think I truly never meant to hurt anyone and if I had would be beyond devastated to think I had0 -
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lostinrates wrote: »Never ever gossiped with girlfriends for example?
Yes of course but never been intentionally cruel, vile, deceitful etc etc like these apologetic celebs0 -
I hate the apologies that politicians etc make. They always say "I'm sorry if X was offended by" not "I am sorry I said a really horrible thing". It's so obvious that they don't think they are wrong, but have been made to apologise.
I think apologising is good as long as you then make a real effort not to make the same mistake again. I hate those people who just go through a constant cycle of upsetting someone/behaving badly, then apologising, then two weeks later they do it again.0 -
I hate the apologies that politicians etc make. They always say "I'm sorry if X was offended by" not "I am sorry I said a really horrible thing". It's so obvious that they don't think they are wrong, but have been made to apologise.
I think apologising is good as long as you then make a real effort not to make the same mistake again. I hate those people who just go through a constant cycle of upsetting someone/behaving badly, then apologising, then two weeks later they do it again.
Like the footballer that had to apologize for not one ( maybe could be forgivable) not 2 ( hum very bad) but 7 times , 7 different women over a long time which surely he would have continue to do but had to stop because he got caught? So sorry I got caught or sorry for the 7 times???0 -
If someone really upsets me, what I want to see is evidence that they regret saying/doing it. Saying "I'm sorry" is just words, and doesn't mean very much IMO. I am however very forgiving, because I can be pretty stupid and thoughtless myself and have been in need of forgiveness a time or two
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If you know that you've spoken out of turn or inadvertently hurt someone, then a genuine apology should help.
Rennard should have learnt by now that his actions, especially in view of the power he wielded, was wrong and should apologise.
Apologies such as Blair apologising for slavery are farcical. My ancestors were little more than slaves as farm labourers in harsh mid-Wales.Member #14 of SKI-ers club
Words, words, they're all we have to go by!.
(Pity they are mangled by this autocorrect!)0
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