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coworker enquiring about sexuality
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No its not fine IMO just like putting an arm round someone in the office is not fine if they are upset either as that can be taken the wrong way.No it's really not.
It's not appropriate to ask at an interview because it may influence or be perceived to influence the decision to employ someone. In day to day conversation with friends or colleagues it's fine.
Asking someone if they are pregnant is not offensive per se but pointing out someone's size generally is, so that's a trickier topic!
So pregnant not offensive, fat offensive and are you gay not! LOLWe’ve had to remove your signature. Please check the Forum Rules if you’re unsure why it’s been removed and, if still unsure, email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
No its not fine IMO just like putting an arm round someone in the office is not fine if they are upset either as that can be taken the wrong way.
So pregnant not offensive, fat offensive and are you gay not! LOL
How do you expect people to know whether someone is gay/straight or bi unless they ask? Or should gay people all go round wearing pink triangles to spare you from being asked about your sexuality?
Sexuality is invisible.
Pregnancy is not always obvious.
Body size is plain to see. So there's no need to ask about it or point it out.0 -
You don't need to ask or maybe you think you should have a Q & A with everyone in the company!How do you expect people to know whether someone is gay/straight or bi unless they ask? Or should gay people all go round wearing pink triangles to spare you from being asked about your sexuality?
Sexuality is invisible.
Pregnancy is not always obvious.
Body size is plain to see. So there's no need to ask about it or point it out.We’ve had to remove your signature. Please check the Forum Rules if you’re unsure why it’s been removed and, if still unsure, email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
In fact, I prefer people to ask about my sexuality before asking if I am married, have kids etc. The problem is that most people (including gay people) assume everyone they meet is straight until informed otherwise!
But there is a high probability they will be straight
The problem with asking someone if they are gay is that if they are straight they might wonder why anyone would think that they are gay
If you are a very self confident person that might not be a problem, but some people are insecure0 -
I do not see how you would make an assumption.Actually I think it's better to ask. Before you start embarrassing yourself by making assumptions about your coworkers.We’ve had to remove your signature. Please check the Forum Rules if you’re unsure why it’s been removed and, if still unsure, email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
But there is a high probability they will be straight
The problem with asking someone if they are gay is that if they are straight they might wonder why anyone would think that they are gay
If you are a very self confident person that might not be a problem, but some people are insecure
The problem with asking someone if they are straight is that if they are gay they might wonder why anyone would think that they are straight.
:rotfl:
Seriously though, what about insecure people who are also gay?!
You don't have to say "are you gay?". A better question would be "are you gay, straight or bi?" But as the assumption is normally that others are straight, the question that tends to be asked is "are you gay?".0 -
the question that tends to be asked is "are you gay?".
why how many times have you been asked? I never have.
it's a question that doesn't get asked, only as in the example of the OP, to make the person uncomfortable.
If someone is gay but you treat them as straight, they will not get upset, and will soon put you right if they want you to know...or in the case of our very own gay guy wear a T-shirt :rotfl:0 -
So as I am a girl if someone said to meE.g.
"Do you have a girlfriend?"
"Are you married?" (Less of an issue since same sex marriage was allowed)
"Haven't you met the right girl yet?"
Do you have a bf, the answer is no
Are you married? No
Haven't you meet the right bloke yet? No
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