Worried

slightlyconfused1

It is possible that there is a problem with her phone or service. I was frantic the other day when I couldn't reach dh (there had been a big accident). Turns out his phone battery had just given up although fully charged.

Padstow

I've just reread your OP. So she lives in London and I daresay has got waylaid with friends from work. Even more explainable. I was thinking she commutes from home.

She'll be in a wine bar on a leaving do for a colleague it's Friday night. She'll swear blind she told you as mine does. I sometimes think mine is gaslighting me to put me into an old folks home prematurely. Surely I can't forget everything she tells me?

stormbreaker

I text my son the other day on O2 and it took three hours to get to him. By that time he was sitting in the house beside me!

O2 can be shocking at times.

If the phone is going on to answerphone she could be in a bad reception area.

As for texts they are very much sloooooow time. The signal looks for free time on mast which on a Friday evening might be in short suppy, as it gives priority to phone calls. And if on a train finding the signal for a mast is harder as it is on the move.

tesuhoha

slightlyconfused1 wrote: »

It is possible that there is a problem with her phone or service. I was frantic the other day when I couldn't reach dh (there had been a big accident). Turns out his phone battery had just given up although fully charged.

It is possible but if she is spending the evening with a friend I would have thought she could have borrowed her mobile to ring the landline to at least tell me which train she is getting. I just tested the landline to make sure it is working.

tesuhoha

Padstow wrote: »

I've just reread your OP. So she lives in London and I daresay has got waylaid with friends from work. Even more explainable. I was thinking she commutes from home.

She'll be in a wine bar on a leaving do for a colleague it's Friday night. She'll swear blind she told you as mine does. I sometimes think mine is gaslighting me to put me into an old folks home prematurely. Surely I can't forget everything she tells me?

But I've still got her text message from a few days ago telling me that she was seeing her friend at her friend's flat and then coming home. She said she wouldn't be late.

I am on 02 in Kent and my phone has worked all day.

tesuhoha

lika_86 wrote: »

She isn't coming from St Pancras is she? They had real problems earlier and were expecting them to continue for a while.

OP, you sound like a lovely mum, not overprotective at all. My mum's the same (I'm 27 too) and she worries loads about me. I'm sure she's fine and will explain everything, but at the moment you don't know what's going on and so your panic drive has gone a bit crazy. Just trust that the daughter you raised can look after herself. When she turns up or gets in contact, maybe put into place ways that you can work around this next time (ie. I've left my phone at home before and realised I couldn't contact my boyfriend at all, I had to email a friend to get his number).

Thank you. I have no idea where the friend lives. It could be near St Pancras for all I know.

Padstow

lika_86 wrote: »

She isn't coming from St Pancras is she? They had real problems earlier and were expecting them to continue for a while.

OP, you sound like a lovely mum, not overprotective at all. My mum's the same (I'm 27 too) and she worries loads about me. I'm sure she's fine and will explain everything, but at the moment you don't know what's going on and so your panic drive has gone a bit crazy. Just trust that the daughter you raised can look after herself. When she turns up or gets in contact, maybe put into place ways that you can work around this next time (ie. I've left my phone at home before and realised I couldn't contact my boyfriend at all, I had to email a friend to get his number).

We don't know where you are or what you are doing 99.9% of the time. However once you are due at our house or leaving to go home, we panic for some strange reason.
It's that "just ring the phone twice when you get home" scenario.

fluffnutter

tesuhoha wrote: »

I tried but it goes straight to messages.

Oh OK. Fair enough. Anxious wait for you then. It's worth remembering, albeit difficult, that statistically phones fail/run out of charge/get lost far more frequently than people are beset by danger.

lika_86

Padstow wrote: »

We don't know where you are or what you are doing 99.9% of the time. However once you are due at our house or leaving to go home, we panic for some strange reason.
It's that "just ring the phone twice when you get home" scenario.

I agree with this, I think my mum forgets that I manage to get about and live my life and get myself out of all sorts of situations when I'm just living my life, because as soon as I go home it's like I'm 12 again, but she's my mum, it's never going to change, so I accept it. If she didn't care then she wouldn't be so worried.

mrcow

It's pretty normal to worry when someone doesn't contact as normal. I also think it's normal to fear the worst (inwardly at least).

I'm sure she's just fine and you'll have a lovely day tomorrow at the ballet. And it's good that you have here to offload your worries.

Let us know when she texts/calls.