Worried

tesuhoha

My daughter (aged 27) who lives and works in London texts me every day even when she is at work. She is supposed to be coming home tonight after visiting friends and going on holiday on Sunday. I have been texting her but have not heard a thing from her all day. This is so unlike her. She always replies. Her phone would not be out of charge because she will have her stuff with her to come home and her charger would be with her. I have actually sent a text asking if everything is ok and still no reply. I can't ring her as she is supposed to be at work and would be annoyed.

I am starting to feel a bit panicky. I am thinking things like carbon monoxide poisoning as she lives in a small flat or other worrying things. She has one male flatmate. At what point would you panic and decide to take some kind of action. I keep thinking about that chef who went missing.

You are probably going to think that she is an adult and I should not be worried like this but it is so out of character it is worrying. I need a bit of perspective.

Domayne

How long has it been since you last spoke to her? What time is she supposed to be arriving at yours? Do you know any of her friends/her works numbers you can call?
I worry about my mum and dad if they are an hour late home so I can understand your panic...but maybe she got held up with friends, met someone and got chatting, lost her phone...try not to panic until a few hours after she is supposed to have arrived...after 24 hours, call the police if you have no contact

Tiffany_Aching

tesuhoha wrote: »

You are probably going to think that she is an adult and I should not be worried like this but it is so out of character it is worrying.

No, I wouldn't think that at all - if it is out of character for your daughter you are bound to worry. That is what a parent does.

Phone her at work, if she is annoyed then tell her how worried you have been. I'm sure that everything will be fine, but I didn't want to read and run as I know too well how you feel - don't all parents?

Let us know when you hear from her x

AcidHouse

Call her flat number. Call the mobile.


By the way - Are you listed as her emergency contact at work - they are supposed to call you if she doesn't turn up & hasn't phoned in sick by a designated time. If you are already listed and she hasn't turned up for work today you would have heard by now. Ask her about this & make sure it's set up so her managers know who to contact.

tesuhoha

AcidHouse wrote: »

Call her flat number. Call the mobile.


By the way - Are you listed as her emergency contact at work - they are supposed to call you if she doesn't turn up & hasn't phoned in sick by a designated time. If you are already listed and she hasn't turned up for work today you would have heard by now. Ask her about this & make sure it's set up so her managers know who to contact.

Thanks. She would definitely put me down as her next of kin. No one has phoned here today so I hope that is a reassuring sign.

Artytarty

I am like you, I conjure up awful scenarios in my ind, but there is always a logical explanation.
Let us know when you hear from her.
I do understand, it's just a sickening worry.

hazyjo

I am also someone who's never without their mobile and has a charger at work and a couple at home...

BUT...

Once in a very blue moon, I will forget it. Can't remember doing it which probably means even less than once a year, but it does happen.

Also, I recently thought I'd lost my phone on a night out and reported it lost. Obviously I couldn't make calls or send/receive texts and, even when my bag/phone was found, it took them over a week to reconnect it (cos they c*cked it up and didn't reactive it three times when asked to, despite telling me it'd be back on within 72 hours!).

Can you ring the flat number and speak with her flatmate? If no landline, do you have (or could you get) his mobile? Anyone on FB that could get it for you if it's listed? Any of her work friends on there who could tell you if she was in? Send one a direct message maybe?

She may have network faults on her phone - have you checked? She may have dropped her phone down the loo this morning! Someone may have nicked it as she travelled to work. You just never know.

Try not to worry - I'm sure there will be a logical explanation.

Keep us informed.

Jx

Padstow

tesuhoha wrote: »

My daughter (aged 27) who lives and works in London texts me every day even when she is at work. She is supposed to be coming home tonight after visiting friends and going on holiday on Sunday. I have been texting her but have not heard a thing from her all day. This is so unlike her. She always replies. Her phone would not be out of charge because she will have her stuff with her to come home and her charger would be with her. I have actually sent a text asking if everything is ok and still no reply. I can't ring her as she is supposed to be at work and would be annoyed.

I am starting to feel a bit panicky. I am thinking things like carbon monoxide poisoning as she lives in a small flat or other worrying things. She has one male flatmate. At what point would you panic and decide to take some kind of action. I keep thinking about that chef who went missing.

You are probably going to think that she is an adult and I should not be worried like this but it is so out of character it is worrying. I need a bit of perspective.

What is worrying that at the age of 27 she rings you everyday.

I have a friend who insisted her daughter rang everyday from University. The girl is in a right mess looking for relationships. If only her mum had given her some independence.

She's on the Tube. God help you if she does a Gap Year across the World.

What is wrong with some people? Give her some space or she'll rebel by living in a Maori Hut or something.

DomRavioli

Maybe she left her phone at home? Phone/screen broken (as they can do very easily these days)? Charger broke? Maybe she's had to see a friend who has had an emergency and feels that is more important or hasn't had time as she is leaving for a holiday and needed to finish important tasks.
Perhaps the phone signal has gone down? Happens all the time near me.


There is a little paranoia in there, but you seem like a very anxious person - it won't solve anything to be worrying over things that you both have no control over, and have no idea about. Just calm down and get on with something which can take your mind off it.

tesuhoha

Padstow wrote: »

What is worrying that at the age of 27 she rings you everyday.

I have a friend who insisted her daughter rang everyday from University. The girl is in a right mess looking for relationships. If only her mum had given her some independence.

She's on the Tube. God help you if she does a Gap Year across the World.

What is wrong with some people? Give her some space or she'll rebel by living in a Maori Hut or something.

She doesn't ring me everyday; she texts and it is unusual today because she is coming home/going on holiday on Sunday. I didn't text her for a few days recently and she asked me what was wrong. She is very independent but there is nothing wrong with us having a friendship. We are supposed to be going to the ballet tomorrow.

My husband has just told me off in the same fashion.

tesuhoha

DomRavioli wrote: »

Maybe she left her phone at home? Phone/screen broken (as they can do very easily these days)? Charger broke? Maybe she's had to see a friend who has had an emergency and feels that is more important or hasn't had time as she is leaving for a holiday and needed to finish important tasks.
Perhaps the phone signal has gone down? Happens all the time near me.


There is a little paranoia in there, but you seem like a very anxious person - it won't solve anything to be worrying over things that you both have no control over, and have no idea about. Just calm down and get on with something which can take your mind off it.

I am anxious and thats why I am posting on here so that I don't panic so much. I have been making a Key Lime Pie to take my mind off it. However I could not eat it.