OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

ellie99

runrosyfox wrote: »

I had a tub of Philadelphia. Singly's prerogative! :A

Well that's different :rotfl:
I'm another cheese on toast singlie!

I understand the "no friends available" to go to things with, but do think about going to the fireworks, you might enjoy it.

Really glad you've finally got an offer on your house mothernerd, shame it's low, but that seems to be the way of it these days. Fingers crossed it goes through okay.
I've lowered the price of my aunts flat this week, no-one has even viewed it for months. According to the estate agent, first time buyers don't want a project any more, they want perfect straight away. A far cry from all the renovations we had to do on our first house (with...shock horror...tatty hand me down furniture )

LB, I love that most of your C plans involve food...I think elasticated waists will be a necessity by the end of your holiday :rotfl:
Not that I can talk, I've just found a choc digestive in the cutlery drawer...no idea how it got in there, but it's not there any more

mum2one, I would imagine a tram would be the best way to see the illuminations...I have to imagine because on the one trip I made to see the lights, they weren't on!
It was in November and in my ignorance I just assumed that they would be on all winter...how was I to know they put them on in October and then turn them off again?
In hindsight, maybe that's why the hotel was such a good deal!
It was bleeding freezing, thick frost, and then it snowed, i'm in no hurry to go back :rotfl:

selloptape

Hi runrosyfox - don't know if it will help but there might be opportunities to work or volunteer at a local display... I did this at a festival recently and it was great, still enjoyed being there but didn't feel like I was there on my own as I had a job to do and I could chat to the other volunteers.

Also think Bookworm is right - no one will notice anyone on their own as these things are so busy and everyone will be looking at the sky

Halloween cocktails! I'm so jealous bookworm, I'm doing a sober November

mum2one

Home safe and sound but shattered, had pea soup weather all the way home, at least this time I managed to do the main route home, stopped at pub for lunch, the last treat before home and reality beckons....

It was great to see the lights, so magical thou if went again go Sept / early oct, the weather just too cold now.

Had a bit of bad news, my Uncle has been diagnosed with dementia, just shock us all, he's classed as grandad for my DD. Just take it as it comes xx

runrosyfox

That sounds like a nice idea, Sellotape. Maybe I'll just rock up this year!

I do wonder where the council gets its money from to literally burn up in the air when it's so stingy in the name of "cuts" in pretty much every other department!

JustKeepSwimming_2

LavenderBees wrote: »

...On the C word front, I have a friend staying from before C to after new year, which is a first for me. I have spent the last 10 years avoiding it completely by going travelling or spending it in lonely isolation, so it's a bit strange to be quite looking forward to the time. I have a few nice plans, but mainly we'll be chilling in elasticated waist PJs :rotfl:....

That's the way to do C LB :T Sounds like you'll have an amazing time.

Good to hear that you're on the list for respite fostering & hope that when you've had a few successful weekend residents (hopefully not all at the same time :rotfl:) the council will realise that the litter tray issue really isn't an issue at all.

Fingers crossed that the house sale goes through Mothernerd, & Ellie, sorry to hear that your Aunt's property isn't shifting. Not a lot is happening to the market near me either.

Mum2one - so sorry to hear about you Uncle you aren't having a great time of it with family ailments this year, are you? Here's a dodgy :grouphug:

runrosyfox wrote: »

Hello Bookworm,

I had a tub of Philadelphia. Singly's prerogative! :A

To be honest, I'm feeling very alone today. I'd love to go to a local firework display at the weekend, but I've no one to go with. And if I go by myself, I know I'll just look at all the other people having fun with friends and loved ones and end up feeling worse than if I'd stayed in with a book.

My friends live all over the place, so I've never got a gang to get together. It nags at me a bit sometimes. I'll cheer up soon!

Just the cheese? Or with crackers? My weakness is black pepper Boursin & black pepper crackers (an acquired taste I admit) for tea - no cooking & hardly any washing up.

I find I'm struggling more with going out to events alone this year - really ought to be able to just do it now without a second thought after sooooo many years practise . But I'm far more aware of how I don't see many other singlies out & about; how the overwhelming majority are in couples or families & I just feel more left out. Of course I doubt any of these people are even noticing me at all, never mind thinking there goes the sad singleton/social leper & its all in my head, but it has taken some of the enjoyment out of doing things for me. And part of the fun of going out & doing things is having that shared time & debrief about the event with other people I'm not sure what the answer is (for me anyhoo) as going out for the sake of it is losing its appeal rapidly, never mind the costs involved but staying in night after night isn't fun either :think:

Not sure if I'll go to the fireworks tomorrow - DD & DS may come but its quite a hike for us &it looks as though the weather will be grim so we'll decide on the night. The charity that runs it aren't having a bonfire this year, just displays (which are always amazing) so it'll be weird - can't imagine bonfire night without a bonfire

Have a good day all.

vodkawitch1

runnyrosefox - I have found that taking a camera makes me feel like I have a reason to be `there`. I don`t know why but even if I only take a few photos I feel part of things and am far more likely to go out to events now. Looking at the photos later makes me glad I didn`t just stay in.

runrosyfox

Oh JustKeepSwimming, that's how I'm increasingly feeling. I'm very lucky that I count many of my colleagues as friends, but like my sister they're all paired up. It seems sometimes that singlies are under unfair pressure to "get out there" and have a social life - many people I know who are in couples socialise exclusively with each other and don't do much at all!

But vodkawitch, that's a nice idea. That way something's documented, to be shared later if we want to.

I'd love to reach a position where if I feel something, or see something, then that's enough. There doesn't have to be a second line of verification - whatever we just felt or saw did actually happen! And perhaps some things are all the more special for being for our eyes only?

runrosyfox

(With Ryvita. Lovely)

Oh Boursin!

I've just had breakfast and now I'm craving cheese!!

JustKeepSwimming_2

runrosyfox wrote: »

(With Ryvita. Lovely)

Oh Boursin!

I've just had breakfast and now I'm craving cheese!!

Yummy isn't it? I reconcile the fact that its loaded with calories with the fact that it also has lots of calcium, so I'm far less likely to develop osteoporosis Important for us singlies since usually there is no body around to pick us up when we fall....

runrosyfox wrote: »

Oh JustKeepSwimming, that's how I'm increasingly feeling. I'm very lucky that I count many of my colleagues as friends, but like my sister they're all paired up. It seems sometimes that singlies are under unfair pressure to "get out there" and have a social life - many people I know who are in couples socialise exclusively with each other and don't do much at all!

But vodkawitch, that's a nice idea. That way something's documented, to be shared later if we want to.

I'd love to reach a position where if I feel something, or see something, then that's enough. There doesn't have to be a second line of verification - whatever we just felt or saw did actually happen! And perhaps some things are all the more special for being for our eyes only?

I understand what you mean - when I go back to work tomorrow I'll be surrounded by people who either had a fab time doing exciting things (one was staying in London & going to a show, one was having a huge birthday party with 70 close friends) or those who tend to stay at home with the OHs. But if I mention I went out alone, then its seen as "such a shame I didn't have anyone to go with" or if I stay in alone then I'm being a hermit & should get out more (as we all know us singlies will meet a partner when we're Least Expecting It & Have Stopped Looking - whether we actually want a partner or not appears to be irrelevant :rotfl:).

I made a definite choice some time ago not to talk about what I do outside of work to anyone - I answer the inevitable questions about what I'm doing/did with a "What are you doing?" instead & it seems to be working as nobody has twigged that I haven't shared any news for ages now. Of course its pretty isolating, sitting in a group & not really contributing but it feels better than having all of my choices as to how I spend my time deemed as wrong.

Is akin to friends offering unsolicited opinions about how I'd probably find a partner if I just lost weight/wore more feminine clothes/had a face & personality transplant It doesn't matter how many times I say I feel better off (at this particular point in my life) without a partner, I'm treated as if I can't possibly know what's best for me & my kids & that I'm just plain wrong. And it is very wearing.

Sorry if I sound like I'm mithering today - it has not been a good week as I've managed to be disinvited/stood up from 3 events this week & am feeling a little bruised & dispirited by life. I shall lick my wounds & try to be more joyful tomorrow. Although crawling into a bottle of merlot this evening also sounds appealing :undecided

I may also regale you with how my date went earlier this week.... Anyone care to have a guess at what might have happened?

Have a good day all.

ellie99

runrosyfox wrote: »

(With Ryvita. Lovely)

I was picturing you eating it out of the tub with a spoon, sorry!

runrosyfox wrote: »

I'd love to reach a position where if I feel something, or see something, then that's enough. There doesn't have to be a second line of verification - whatever we just felt or saw did actually happen! And perhaps some things are all the more special for being for our eyes only?

Sometimes it happens, and just as special seeing it alone.

Last month I was lucky enough (well lucky enough to have the time to be there, the effort of getting there in time was all my own ) to be on a beach to see the sunrise.
The weather was perfect and it was STUNNING, and probably enhanced by the beach being almost empty. I just stood and soaked it all up (and took a few photos )

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

(as we all know us singlies will meet a partner when we're Least Expecting It & Have Stopped Looking - whether we actually want a partner or not appears to be irrelevant :rotfl:)

:rotfl:
JKS, I do love your writing style, I still maintain you could write a sitcom or a book!

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I may also regale you with how my date went earlier this week.... Anyone care to have a guess at what might have happened?

You need to spill! I hope the mention of being stood up is not connected?

My horoscope for November said I'll meet someone this month...not only that but he'll be successful and admired and rich :rotfl:....and I just thought "nah, I don't think I'll bother" :rotfl:

I've reached a stage where I'm not bothered what anyone thinks about my going out/staying in habits...although to be honest I'm not sure there's anyone on the planet who's actually interested :rotfl:

It must be so hard for people who are younger and/or still wanting to meet a partner, I suppose you have to get out and about for that!