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moneyistooshorttomention

LavenderBees wrote: »

On the original thread, Moneyistooshorttomention asked for advice on how to get through all her building work without going mad...I'm paraphrasing..

My first thought was "drink!"

My second thought, but probably too late for Moneyistooshorttomention, was some advice my lovely dad gave me years and years ago. Start with your bedroom - make that as cosy and warm as possible, and then, when it all gets too much, you can close the door on the turmoil outside, tuck up safe and sound in a warm bed, and leave the world to sort itself out for a few hours.

Over the years, this has proven to be sound advice not just for practical problems like building work, but also for emotional problems, too. It's maybe why I'm so attached to my PJs...my comfort blanket

I can understand that reasoning:rotfl:.

I am working more on the basis of the vast majority of the time I'm in my bedroom I'm asleep anyway and therefore won't notice what state its in (just as well if you saw how much is "stored" on my bedroom floor right now:eek:). My order of priority is:

bathroom (so that I can at least feel clean),

then kitchen (so I can cook more easily, particularly as I am quite a keen cook)

then lounge (so that I have somewhere I can entertain visitors/put up a friend of mine who is coming here to stay with me shortly/sit and read in comfort). Anyway, my lounge has got a nice view and I can just sit at one of the windows there and gaze out on it and its got a calming effect on its own (well it will do..once the floor in there isn't an obstacle course of half my possessions:rotfl:).

then study

then bedroom

then hallway.

I think the garden is the bit I am currently dreading/looking forward to most. Whereas, I can do my study or bedroom for around £1,000, my garden is clearly going to cost over £15,000 (all the "structural type" work to be done:eek:) and the garden was very much one of the major reasons I bought the house, but I will have spent all available money before I have got very far at all with it and be sitting waiting and tapping fingers impatiently to reach that darn revised State Pension Age of mine and get the rest of my pension turning up at last and I'll then have some more money to spend again.

But...yep...the "safe and sound in a warm bed" is a blessing. I've got a nice comfortable 5' bed all to myself and layers of duvets and blankets to dive under and one of the advantages of having moved is that I can pretty much rely on not having my "peace and quiet" disturbed by external noise again at last (only took 40 years:rotfl:). My nerves were permanently "on alert" in my last house wondering/worrying when the next outside noise was going to come into my house and how long it would last for (often for minutes at a time, sometimes for hours or even days at a time). I am feeling much calmer at not "waiting" for the next noise all the time any more.


Another blessing is that I can see already that my decision to move has been proved correct. I didn't think I'd start getting the proof through that it was a correct decision quite so quickly as I am...but its reassuring to know I was right to move.

So, hot milky drink before bedtime coming up soon/early night/lovely comfortable bed......ah bliss:D. I can heartily recommend a good bed as THE most important item of furniture in a house.

LavenderBees

spirit wrote: »

:wave:

Hullo

LB, I made my will at the same time as the divorce. Since I was buying a property, I was advised that it was imperative I do it sooner rather than later. In for a penny, in for a pound I thought, I might as well get the solicitor to do me a change of name deed whilst she was at it. Because of the mortgage and other stuff, I needed to have a different name to him with no association with him whatsoever. I know that you can revert to your maiden name, but I didn't like mine so chose something else.

On a similar vein, a good friend of mine recently asked if I'd be a witness on her Power of attorney. She's named her eldest daughter as having sole poa and I guess she foresees problems with her other 2 kids should it ever be invoked - if that's the right terminology?

I've got a form anyway, which is in a safe place now

Calico, I really think that you might be my alta-ego. Your list of things to do - maybe, could also be mine. But you bought the house with the 'faults' so if you had to move it on quickly then someone else would wouldn't they.

I mentioned my fence panels the other day, well I had a text from Wickes tonight saying they will be delivered tomorrow unless I text back No, in which case someone would ring me within 24 hours to reschedule. BUT, I paid an extra £30 for a Sat delivery THIS Saturday :mad:

I rang them rather than waiting for them. They rang through to the depot to ask what was going on. They said because of all the storms, my order had been put back. So the conversation went on about when they would deliver it. I said that since they had the panels for delivery tomorrow, surely they'd have them for Saturday. The guy said they couldn't do Saturday, but the following one. I was a bit cross because I have someone lined up to fit them next week. Oh says the guy, well we can deliver them to you this coming saturday :wall: DUR, that's when they were booked for anyway.

and breathe spirit.

So anyway, having a sneaky look on FB this afternoon, the lady who rehomed my hens posted her husband's business card. He does odd jobs around the house. I asked if he covers my area and could he fit the fence panels. Yay, he does and because he has to charge me a day rate, can I list other jobs I want him to do. There really are some lovely people about. So far other than the fences, I need a kitchen socket replacing (I have the new one, just not confident to do it myself). 2 mirrors to put up, a curtain rail on my half landing, a smoke alarm that i've had just waiting for the diy fairy to do it.

and a couple of hedge stumps/roots to get out. I had nipped into the garden centre on the way home from food shopping yesterday. They had yew hedging plants about 2ft tall, for half price. I'd been thinking about bamboo to plant against the fence at the back to break up the expanse of fence (my back garden has about 30 fence panels). Bamboo is normally quite expensive, but I like yew too and it's better I think, than conifers.

I bought 4, came home and sited them then went back and got 6 more! I planted 4 yesterday, but these old stumps are in the way so it will be lovely if Mrhusbandofhenrescuer can do that for me too.

Sounds like a result, Spirit, well done! Can I add some jobs to that list...?

Anyway, I have to say if I'd paid £30 (£30!!!) for delivery, they'd have darn well delivered it on the Saturday of my choice not their's :mad:

BookWorm

spirit wrote: »

:wall:

Can I just say I looove this emote

Well done on getting various jobs sorted to be done at the same time as the fencing - don't you love it when things work out so well?

spirit

LavenderBees wrote: »

Yes, it's got potential, hasn't it? We're having a bit of building work done, some of us are thinking of holidays, and the rest are tidying their affaires.

Industrious lot or what?

Good of you to drop by... I'm just putting the kettle on...

Love a cuppa. I've got cake if anyone fancies some.

springdreams

iammumtoone wrote: »

Yes I have life insurance that will pay off the mortgage, then the house would be sold. Ds has contact with his father so he would go to him.

This is the sort of thing that should be mentioned in your will.

My DS hasn't seen his father in 8 years, so my brother will have him. I have therefore also taken out life insurance to pay off the mortgage and have some money in trust for my brother to pay for my son's upkeep. I have stipulated that the house is to be rented out, and the income used to support my son until he reaches 21, then the house will become his to do with as he chooses.

singlestep

Great idea for a thread. Can I join in? When I'm not too tired to see straight, of course ... they had me doing something different at work today and it was surprisingly hard going! Quite a lot of the work I'm supposed to be doing has followed me home and I'm doing my best to try to get it finished.

The whole Will thing has been in my thoughts recently and I'm definitely going back to read over what you've written at the earliest opportunity. I own a property and have a mortgage on the other and, apart from my mum, I have no immediate family and I'm not all that close to the extended family. There's really no excuse for not being better organised.

spirit

iammumtoone wrote: »

I love my PJs one of the great things about being single I can wear my warm and cosy flannelette ones with no one to have to make an effort for

Some of us have onesies too

calicocat

Spirit.

The only things I knew about were the bath panel...not exactly a major problem, and the lack of drain for downpipe at conservatory, the rest were all hidden and/or myself and friends didn't notice them, and nothing mentioned on survey (mind I think they are a waste unless a full whack one)


Oh and did I mention the extractor hood not working....and presumably super-glued to the wall and tiles as I can't get the dam thing off....!!.......hey ho.

BookWorm

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I can heartily recommend a good bed as THE most important item of furniture in a house.

I love my bed! :smileyhea LOL
I think it was the thing I was most excited about buying when I bought this house (my first one) a few years ago. Prior to that I had always been in rented places where the bed was included. So this was my first bed of my very own (if you see what I mean! LOL)
I am happy to spend lots of time in bed and now that I can use the internet in bed too....
:smileyhea

iammumtoone

springdreams wrote: »

I have stipulated that the house is to be rented out, and the income used to support my son until he reaches 21, then the house will become his to do with as he chooses.

That was my first thought, ideally I would like that to happen too however I have no one to facilitate this (I don't think his father would do it) would a solicitor take something like that on (obviously they would take a fee out of the rent and depending on that fee I am not sure if it would be worth it).