OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

greenbee

Saw it in a plane recently Bookworm. it's well worth watching

mum2one

Got the book, havent had chance to read it yet, def want to see the film. x

3forholidays

mum2one wrote: »

thats a good idea, never thought of that, would you mind if I borrow the idea for santas challenge thread, xx

Borrow away!

BookWorm I've never seen that film but I might download it although I do have a preference for reading books - so in this case since the film is based on a book I might download the book instead.

BookWorm

Oooh I didn't know it was based on a book. I might add that to my reading list myself!

LavenderBees

I read the book when I first realised that my Mam was sliding swiftly through altzheimers stages. One of the nurses recommended it to me, so I could try to understand how awful it was from Mam's perspective as she was not able to explain for herself.

I read it and passed it onto my Dad to read, as he was struggling so badly to understand that Mam had absolutely no choice in what she said or did. He often was so awfully hurt by her, but he didn't know at that stage that she had no choice. It certainly also helped us understand better the awful fear Mam must have been experiencing in the earlier stages which she passed through very quickly. And helped me be better prepared for the later stages

It's written as though by a lady with altzheimer's, but is actually written by a nurse who has looked after patients with this awful illness, and taken the time to talk and listen to them.

I haven't plucked up the courage to watch the film yet as the loss of my parents is still very raw. Maybe one day I will, but I can definitely recommend the book. It will leave you praying not to develop dementia, though

LB xx

LavenderBees

Thanks for the suggestion on fire proof safe - that makes complete sense to have the security and be fire proof, too, but I had a look yesterday and confess am overwhelmed by choice of size/price/heaviness :eek:.

It is more likely that I will put it in the bottom of one of the wardrobes in my bedroom. The whole point is very definitely out of sight, no temptation.

Any recommendations to help whittle down the choice will be very gratefully received. It really doesn't need to be anything huge.

The scanning docs idea is also a good one but it will take time. I guess I can circumvent it a bit by getting a large enough fireproof box so the originals of very important things can fit in there.

I'll have another look this afternoon, and try to decide..

LB xx

BookWorm

Size will probanly be determined by the largest item you want to keep in it and then how much room is required for other things as well.

Not sure heaviness is a factor necessarily (unless of course you are talking something huge!) but I would suggest that you may want to consider having it fixed otherwise in the event of a burglary, it would be possible for someone to easily pick up and take it with them to open at a later time

I have no idea about prices I'm afraid but once you have an idea on size/type, perhaps that will give you a better idea?

Sorry I can't be of more help.

JustKeepSwimming_2

3forholidays wrote: »

LB You could also scan important documents (house insurance etc) and put them on a USB stick to put in the fire proof safe as well.

What a brilliant idea 3forholidays - I'm going to steal that too, if its OK with you? I have important documents & some spare cash in a metal cash tray, but I've no idea if its completely fire proof. Must get around to getting a proper safe.

mum2one wrote: »

Got the book, havent had chance to read it yet, def want to see the film. x

I've had the book in my to-be-read pile for years, as I prefer to read the book before seeing the film. But the film came out too soon for me to read the book :rotfl: Then I though I'd go & see the film, but I didn't have any spare time to get to the big city on the weekends when it was on & it didn't come to our local cinema, so I missed that too :rotfl: I would get the DVD, but then it'll just sit in my large to-be-watched DVD pile I know it's supposed to be a brilliant book & film, even though the subject is difficult & if I were in your position LB, I don't think Id be considering it for a few years yet. I did listen to this a few years ago by the same author & can thoroughly recommend it.

What I really need is an extra day a week, where life stops for everyone else & I can do things like read books, watch DVDs without feeling guilty that all the chores etc aren't being done...

LB - good luck with the sorting out. Have you been given any idea of when you may actually get a child to foster?

BookWorm wrote: »

.....I sympathise on the weight thing and seeing yourself. It was a picture at chrimbo time that did it for me. I knew deep down before then but it really bought it home. That's why I have been trying to eat better and move more this year. I have need to get back to it though as I def gained a few lbs whilst I was away ....

Well I had what was possibly one of the most humiliating days yesterday (& goodness knows I've already shared more than enough humiliating moments for one person on here :rotfl:). Took DD & DS out to a free bicycle check run by the local cycling club, & as it was such a lovely day I though I'd wear a summer skirt - even found an old work blouse that matched the skirt, which is unheard of in my wardrobe. So I wandered in feeling quite happy & the day started well - until a friend I hadn't seen since our DDs were at the same Brownie group appeared & came over to where I was standing with a group of adults I didn't know, waiting for DD's bike to be looked at.

She came up to me, looked at my stomach & said "Wow, I didn't realise you were pregnant! Last I heard you were still single, so you've obviously been getting some action in! Well done you! It's never too late!" (all said in a hearty, jolly hockey sticks tone that people in the next village could have heard, never mind just everyone at the bike event ).

She noticed the look of horror cross my face, so tried to backtrack (I think) by adding "Oh no, has he left you like X did? What rotten luck! You're so brave having the baby on your own, but you don't really have a choice now, do you? You must be what 7 or 8 months gone?" In amongst the deafening silence that had fallen on the bike crowd, I then overheard one guy say to another "Oh, so that's X's ex" (as if just looking at me explained why X had left me, but maybe I was being a little over-sensitive by this point :rotfl:).

Talk about feeling mortified. I then had to tell her that I wasn't actually pregnant at all, just fat (thankfully she didn't argue with me & insist that I couldn't simply just be that fat: I'd have to be very pregnant to be so huge). Think I'd have totally lost it if she had.

I'd like to think she felt dreadful about what she'd said, as I'm sure she didn't mean to be nasty at all & the words just fell out of her mouth, but she didn't apologise... and I suppose I just have to shrug it off. Part of me wanted to challenge the guy who'd commented, but I didn't have the strength to hear anything else unpleasant about myself then & there.

I had to stay for another hour or so, feeling humiliated, to get DD & DS sorted, but I was so glad to leave, & put the clothes into the laundry, ready to go to the CS when they're clean

So I'd better join the diet gang...

Hope all are having a less humiliating w/e & hugs to anyone who need one. I'd like a few hugs back although I'm scared nobody could get their arms around me :rotfl:

ellie99

:grouphug: :grouphug: Huge hugs here JKS

My jaw just dropped lower and lower reading your post...
oh my goodness, how many assumptions did that woman make all in the space of 2 minutes, she probably broke the record!

and to say " so you've obviously been getting some action in! Well done you!"...how blooming patronising!!!

I hope you can shrug it off, bl00dy cheek!

BookWorm

:eek: JKS - can't believe that. Sending you some hugs too :grouphug: