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JustKeepSwimming_2

ellie99 wrote: »

JKS your children sound lovely. They behaved beautifully to their grandmother even when she was behaving badly.

I'm sorry I have nothing helpful to say re the bedroom chaos, but she will grow out of it! My DS2 had a bedroom like you describe, but now he has his own house and he keeps it much nicer.

It's just a long time to wait when you want it tidied now!

I guess so - just so darn annoying :mad:. DS has kept his room fairly tidy since I blitzed it, & we had a doorstep charity collection for toys & books yesterday so a lot of it has gone :T

Just DD who seems to be a bit slower in adopting the regime of tidy

mum2one wrote: »

Can I add DD to the bedroom chaos.... its improving slightly but it has been one foot in front of another then jump to the bed......

Sounds just like ours - we call going deep into DDs room "dressage" :rotfl:

Not sure I have much advice to give about your DD's situation - it sounds vile & I'd be worried/scared in your situation too. Sadly young children do make up the most bizarre stories, & I've sometimes wondered about some of the tales DD comes home with - like you I tend to believe my DD is usually honest, & time usually shows that she is telling the truth about situations that make you go "really?"

I hope that your DD's friend is just making it up (seems the best of all outcomes) as if the Dad feels it is truly acceptable to even threaten a child with violence, well, :eek:. Thinking logically, what on Earth could your DD (or any child) have done to provoke such an extreme reaction in him? Answer - nothing (& I mean that even if your DD was a badly behaved brat, which she isn't, then his reaction would still be totally inappropriate IYSWIM).

I hope the police manage to sort it out; what a nightmare of you both.

Glad you got some of your medical stuff sorted, & fingers crossed for the other that may need sorting - you don't do things by halves, do you?

Thanks to all of you for the kind comments about my 2 - can't tell you how much they're appreciated.

Must dash off to work (always interrupting the fun stuff) so hope all have a good day - its nearly the weekend :j

Byatt

Mum2one, I think JKS has said exactly the right thing, that if the dad has said this then, it is so extreme and inappropriate. If his DD has made it up then calling the police may make her think twice. And yes of course you should take it seriously especially as your DD is now so frightened and stressed.

Well done on getting the smear test done!


I'm fed up with myself, can't lose weight and in fact have put on 4lbs in a week despite being good...:( just weighed myself!

mum2one

Thank u both, it's seems so extreme and a fantasy - although I did believe dd - seeing it in text - cemented it - hope it is the girl making things up - this time someone might actually get something done.

About to toddle off for dressing change - nearly healed - about week and should be able to do it myself.

Another medical week next week, dentist for a filling and check through, then hosp for ultrasound and a mammogram - check everything healed correctly and no infections left xx

LavenderBees

Thing is....imho as what do I know about kids?! , even if the girl has made up the threats, it is coming from somewhere, as whilst children have wild imaginations sometimes, personally, I think that threats wouldn't be from imagination. Whether it is the Dad who has threatened though is another matter. But the child has picked it up from somewhere, even if it's been a film or whatever. Hopefully, now it is out of your hands, you'll be able to help de-stress your daughter, and concentrate on more pleasant matters.

I've been a tad busy myself this week so have not been around much - after the 3 days fostering training last weekend, I have been spending time completing my application form and [STRIKE]bullying[/STRIKE] encouraging people to be my referees :rotfl:. I have just handed it in at the agency.... exciting but daunting too, to be thinking of changing my life so drastically. I can do this...I can do...I can... is my mantra at the mo . I'm so incredibly tired of thinking now. Roll on home time, PJs on, glass of wine and chill for the first time in 3 weeks! :T

This weekend is going to be no housework chores (well, not much )...I actually have plans to be a "normal person" and do nice weekend things for a change - meet a friend for a walk on one of our lovely beaches here, and then go to lunch, and Sunday is designated allotment day so I can catch up on the potato planting and seed sowing, and probably clean the girls out...so chores...yes, but nice chores, to me anyway.

Rosie - did your colleagues give up their nastiness? Hope so!

Have a lovely weekend all...what are your plans?

LB xx

ellie99

LavenderBees wrote: »

Thing is....imho as what do I know about kids?! , even if the girl has made up the threats, it is coming from somewhere, as whilst children have wild imaginations sometimes, personally, I think that threats wouldn't be from imagination. Whether it is the Dad who has threatened though is another matter. But the child has picked it up from somewhere, even if it's been a film or whatever. Hopefully, now it is out of your hands, you'll be able to help de-stress your daughter, and concentrate on more pleasant matters.

Mum2one, LB has it in a nutshell...your DDs friend has problems, even if you don't know exactly what they are.
I hope she gets the help she needs, and that your own DD feels calmer soon. You did the right thing getting the police involved.

mum2one wrote: »

Another medical week next week, dentist for a filling and check through, then hosp for ultrasound and a mammogram - check everything healed correctly and no infections left xx

I am imagining you as some sort of bionic superwoman once all your treatments are finished


After yet another busy week at aunts flat, I'm pleased to announced that it is now *empty* :j and we have arranged to put it on the market.

I feel that we should be happy and relieved and jumping for joy that it is all done, but we're all a bit flat. I think it has worn us down so much that our "happiness levels" are really low at the moment, if that doesn't sound too new-agey :rotfl:

We had to get a house clearance firm in in the end, moving stuff in my little car wasn't making a dent in it. Luckily they pay for what they can sell, so hopefully it won't cost too much. The rubbish went to the dump, and is paid for per tonne...the estimate was 3 tonnes :eek: (although that did include the carpets).

I am absolutely determined that I will not leave my sons 3 tonnes of rubbish to deal with when I go!

I imagine it will drag on for a while yet...have to get a survey and home report done before house can be advertised, then need to keep on top of the garden. Please all keep your fingers crossed that it sells, we don't have a plan B if it doesn't.

LB your weekend plans sound lovely, lunch out too...I hope you enjoy being normal for a little while
Are you hoping to foster and continue working?

I haven't made any plans, working tomorrow, and need to do some gardening...I'm going for little and often. DS1 has cleared all the piles of ivy away, so it's easier to see the weeds now.

mrssnowy_2

Byatt wrote: »

Need2bthhrifty, I tried the cauliflower rice from frozen, made egg cauli rice and it was lovely. Just broke the rice up and it took very little time.:D

Byatt,stupid question,how do you cook/heat the cauli rice? Spect the egg rice was stir fry .
Thanks

mrss

Byatt

mrssnowy wrote: »

Byatt,stupid question,how do you cook/heat the cauli rice? Spect the egg rice was stir fry .
Thanks

mrss

Not a stupid question...if you want it plain then a drop of oil and heat in the frying pan, I guess it could be steamed as well, but haven't tried that. The egg fried cauli rice was just the same and then I added the egg. Seasonings of choice...it's very quick.

RosiePuddingPaws

Sorry to hear about your added 4lb, Byatt. Are you sure it is not muscle from your work at the gym?

LB thanks for asking. It is only one colleague causing problems but it has been another horrid week. The boss, again, commented that my colleague is being particularly vile and he will speak with her again. Trouble is, she doesn't really want to hear it and is taking it out on me, even though I'm only doing as requested by the boss. I like my job (most of the time!), as it is really local and the bosses are lovely people but I have started to look for something else as it is so unpleasant to spend so many hours in that atmosphere. My other colleague in the office is also looking for something else because of the atmosphere.

She even had a go a me this week because I haven't booked my holiday yet. It's only April so I have loads of time and what business is it of hers anyway?!

Still, it is the weekend. The sun is shining, although the wind is bloomin' cold. Washing machine is sloshing the bedding around so will get that out soon. And, I am really going to have to cut the lawns - not looking forward to that as they are a bit long after the winter and once you start you have to carry on! Meanwhile, music is playing (loudly!) and I will get started on the cleaning soon.

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

RPP

JustKeepSwimming_2

Byatt wrote: »

Mum2one, I think JKS has said exactly the right thing, that if the dad has said this then, it is so extreme and inappropriate. If his DD has made it up then calling the police may make her think twice. And yes of course you should take it seriously especially as your DD is now so frightened and stressed.

Well done on getting the smear test done!


I'm fed up with myself, can't lose weight and in fact have put on 4lbs in a week despite being good...:( just weighed myself!

Byatt, I'm going to print out your post, highlight the line about saying the right thing & pin it to DD & DS's bedroom doors :rotfl: It's not often someone says something like that about me, so thanks.

Can't help you with the weight loss though - I'm piling it on & have done since the flu (but can't think of a medical reason as to why this should be happening). I'm definitely still eating less, both overall quantity & less naughties, & hardly drinking any alcohol (replaced by tea or herbal tea, so less calories again) yet I fell like I'm expanding every few days. Even DS said my tummy was getting fatter

All I can put it down to, apart from hormones :mad:, is I've not been at work, so I've been doing far less exercise. Could this be a similar reason for you? I have a lot of chores to do this w/e, including blitzing the gardens of weeds & I'm trying to grow some geraniums from cuttings so I'll be getting more exercise. I've been doing a few online courses, which have had me glued to my behind which hasn't helped.

LavenderBees wrote: »

Thing is....imho as what do I know about kids?! , even if the girl has made up the threats, it is coming from somewhere, as whilst children have wild imaginations sometimes, personally, I think that threats wouldn't be from imagination. Whether it is the Dad who has threatened though is another matter. But the child has picked it up from somewhere, even if it's been a film or whatever. Hopefully, now it is out of your hands, you'll be able to help de-stress your daughter, and concentrate on more pleasant matters.

I've been a tad busy myself this week so have not been around much - after the 3 days fostering training last weekend, I have been spending time completing my application form and [STRIKE]bullying[/STRIKE] encouraging people to be my referees :rotfl:. I have just handed it in at the agency.... exciting but daunting too, to be thinking of changing my life so drastically. I can do this...I can do...I can... is my mantra at the mo . I'm so incredibly tired of thinking now. Roll on home time, PJs on, glass of wine and chill for the first time in 3 weeks! :T

This weekend is going to be no housework chores (well, not much )...I actually have plans to be a "normal person" and do nice weekend things for a change - meet a friend for a walk on one of our lovely beaches here, and then go to lunch, and Sunday is designated allotment day so I can catch up on the potato planting and seed sowing, and probably clean the girls out...so chores...yes, but nice chores, to me anyway.

Rosie - did your colleagues give up their nastiness? Hope so!

Have a lovely weekend all...what are your plans?

LB xx

Chores (yawn), encouraging homework (count to 1000), listen to DD say how dreadful her life is (silently thankful that I never have to go through the teenage years again) - the usual here :rotfl: Hoping to get time to watch "Before I Go To Sleep" DVD - anyone seen it? I read the book & quite enjoyed it, but the film has Colin Firth in it so I'm expecting to enjoy that more.

Exciting times for you LB - not surprised you're so tired as you must be using up so much emotional energy (see Ellie, I can do New Age too :rotfl:). Enjoy your w/e!

ellie99 wrote: »

...After yet another busy week at aunts flat, I'm pleased to announced that it is now *empty* :j and we have arranged to put it on the market.

I feel that we should be happy and relieved and jumping for joy that it is all done, but we're all a bit flat. I think it has worn us down so much that our "happiness levels" are really low at the moment, if that doesn't sound too new-agey :rotfl:

We had to get a house clearance firm in in the end, moving stuff in my little car wasn't making a dent in it. Luckily they pay for what they can sell, so hopefully it won't cost too much. The rubbish went to the dump, and is paid for per tonne...the estimate was 3 tonnes :eek: (although that did include the carpets).

I am absolutely determined that I will not leave my sons 3 tonnes of rubbish to deal with when I go!

I imagine it will drag on for a while yet...have to get a survey and home report done before house can be advertised, then need to keep on top of the garden. Please all keep your fingers crossed that it sells, we don't have a plan B if it doesn't....

3 tonnes :eek: OMG. Remind me how big the house is - I'll have to clear a 3 story 5 bed house one day & dreading how that will compare. Like you, it's making me determined not to leave so much for my DD & DS to sort (although part of me thinks I'll still be sorting Ma's stuff for the rest of my life even if I started today - & I expect she'll be around for at least another 10 years yet so that'll be yet more stuff to sort ). I doubt she'll get the tidying up & sorting out bug at this stage of her life :rotfl:

I'm not surprised you're all feeling a bit flat - sorting out so much stuff is exhausting mentally, never mind all the physical moving, & its a reminder of what is now lost to all of you. Fingers crossed that the flat sale goes through smoothly, although I hadn't factored in that someone would need to keep on top of the garden :eek:. You've all done a grand job, & at least the worst is over now.

Right; off to tackle the laundry mountain. Wish me luck & have a great day all.

BookWorm

Good morning

Tea or Coffee :coffee: anyone?

I've been busy with work stuff this week. I had to carry out an audit for a company that does some work for us - it was supposed to be 1 day and turned into 2... very mind numbing...

I've got a rather unusual activity scheduled for this afternoon.... matress testing... sadly not as interesting as it could be :rotfl: I'm looking into getting a bed for the spare room (only been here 5 years ) and I feel silly going to the bed shops by myself so a lovely friend is coming with me. I'm unlikely to buy one today as spare room needs to be sorted out first but I'm hoping I will find a mattress I like and get a good idea on prices, delivery times, etc

Looks to be nice and sunny out the window - hope it's as warm as it looks when I go out

Have a super Saturday

BW