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Need2bthrifty

Byatt wrote: »

I got busy in the kitchen after checking my fridge and realising I had five caulis...I love cauliflower, it's so versatile but five! Anyway spent a messy time turning them into cauliflower rice, and now have several bags in the freezer. Had some for dinner, fried in garlic, with chicken thighs, roasted in lemon, onion salt, and Leeks, it was lush.

So glad that you mentioned this, I saw it done on saturday kitchen ages ago thought I would try it sometime and completely forgot all about it.

After my soggy frozen cauli experience at the weekend I bought a fresh one a couple of days ago and just made some cauli rice to go with my curried meatballs - de-lish

Byatt

Need2bthrifty wrote: »

So glad that you mentioned this, I saw it done on saturday kitchen ages ago thought I would try it sometime and completely forgot all about it.

After my soggy frozen cauli experience at the weekend I bought a fresh one a couple of days ago and just made some cauli rice to go with my curried meatballs - de-lish

It's amazing how good it tastes, and I know it's not rice, but it still works. I also slice cauliflower and roast it, with olive oil and seasonings of choice...even curry, fabulous!

Mothernerd, I remember that QI episode about lottery winners, quite sad really. Not sure what I'd do with a big win, but I always imagined myself helping people out anonymously...you know the kind of things where someone is having a hard time or illness...I would love to just give them the money they needed, a bit like that boss undercover thing.

I'd also love to have lots of animals. So a big house (not fancy but with and aga and wood burners) in the country with land.

Jks, I think it's teenage mode...my DD is stuck in that mode...in the past I've blitzed her place and it's taken weeks. :eek:

JustKeepSwimming_2

Byatt wrote: »

...Jks, I think it's teenage mode...my DD is stuck in that mode...in the past I've blitzed her place and it's taken weeks. :eek:

I keep hoping she'll get it one day - I'm just too impatient I guess!

I was almost late for work today - as I only live a 15 minute walk away it would be really embarrassing if i was :rotfl:. Merrily reading the thread, then realised I only had 15 minutes to get showered, dressed etc. Just made it, but I'm really not back in work mode yet.

So, to catch up, my answers are David Bowie & never bought a ticket - does that all make sense to you?

Mothernerd - interesting post about lottery winners (& other stuff too). My Dad used to call it the stupidity tax so that's always stuck in my mind :rotfl: & I don't know many people who've even won £10.

My Ma has had another falling out with another neighbour, so rang me to have a moan about them - I don't really know what to say as I'm 100% on the neighbour's side. Ma has told them they're not to talk in their own garden as she can hear them (& they're just talking normally), but she has a way of saying everything in such an aggressive manner that it usually makes for a scene. She's complained about neighbours shutting their front doors, the car engines starting up, anyone who has the cheek to own a dog that barks, she'll shout at you if you don't bring your bin in the moment its been emptied - nobody has been able to do anything right for years

When we went for the meal last week she arrived at the cafe 30 minutes early (as you do :wall:), but refused to order a cup of tea until I got there on time, by which time she was already cross as we were "late" & said she'd been harassed by the staff. I'd deliberately booked a later table so we wouldn't be there when it was "too busy", but of course she'd got in the way a bit as she has a stick & had wanted to take up a table for 4 while she waited for us. She then told everyone she didn't like anything on the menu (she had done 2 days before when I'd booked the able as I'd checked it with her), but she refused to go anywhere else. So she pushed food around her plate like a toddler (but was quick enough to ask for a doggy bag :rotfl:), then complained that the service had been awful (it was fine) & she didn't like the colour of the walls

I was so glad to leave, & left a big tip. Glad it isn't in my own town as I'd be mortified to show my face in there again. I don't understand why she has to go out of her way to make everything so unpleasant all of the time - when I've tried to talk to her about her behaviour I'm always painted as the rude one, & she's a saint for putting up with a daughter who never helps her out

The only good thing about the meal (apart from the food) was DD & DS were so kind & thoughtful towards her - only after we waved her off in a cab did DD say "I'm so glad you're not like that" & DS said "Wow, that was hard work". I'm proud of them for being so well mannered in spite of it all (even though I wouldn't have told them off if either has told her to stop being so vile ).

They also assured me that if I ever behaved like that, they'd push me off a cliff or smother me :rotfl: but both are convinced I won't be anything like my Ma. Relieved to hear it - I've always used her as an anti-role model, an example of here's how not to be a mother, so I'd be devastated to be like her in any way.

I feel rotten saying all this out loud, when many of you don't still have your own Ma's around. I'm envious of all those people who have good relationships with their Ma's, & I pray that DD & I will continue to have a good relationship as far as all the important stuff goes, as she grows up. She does say she wouldn't dream of treating me like some of her friends treat their Ma's, so either I have a complete s**t storm coming round the corner at me at some point, or she really doesn't think I'm too bad. Time will tell :rotfl:

Anyhoo enough mithering. Am going to watch rubbish TV with a glass of wine, after having had chips for tea. I know how to live & yes, I am in my PJs.

Hope all have had a good day & are enjoying the sunshine. I was almost too hot walking home in walking trousers & a T shirt today - it was glorious. Have a day off tomorrow, so expect rain as I've already got the washing on :rotfl:

ellie99

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Mothernerd - interesting post about lottery winners (& other stuff too). My Dad used to call it the stupidity tax so that's always stuck in my mind :rotfl: & I don't know many people who've even won £10.

I once won well over £2k.
I was just being light hearted saying "when I win the lottery"...
I don't really expect to win it, and I think I know myself well enough to know what I like and dislike doing...I'm not suddenly going to want to go on hot beach holidays or cruises. I would like a roof which doesn't leak, and a porch which isn't damp. We're all different, there are certain things I'd like to do which would also benefit other people. It's just fun to dream sometimes

I've been so miserable trying to chase things up today, I could have cried (I didn't, but I felt like it!) It feels like customer service is a thing of the dim and distant past.

However, I've had friends round for wine and nibbles tonight...I'm much much happier and quite frankly I'm amazed that I can still type in a straight line

ellie99

JKS your children sound lovely. They behaved beautifully to their grandmother even when she was behaving badly.

I'm sorry I have nothing helpful to say re the bedroom chaos, but she will grow out of it! My DS2 had a bedroom like you describe, but now he has his own house and he keeps it much nicer.

It's just a long time to wait when you want it tidied now!

mum2one

Can I add DD to the bedroom chaos.... its improving slightly but it has been one foot in front of another then jump to the bed......

mothernerd

ellie99 wrote: »

I once won well over £2k.
I was just being light hearted saying "when I win the lottery"...
I don't really expect to win it, and I think I know myself well enough to know what I like and dislike doing...I'm not suddenly going to want to go on hot beach holidays or cruises. I would like a roof which doesn't leak, and a porch which isn't damp. We're all different, there are certain things I'd like to do which would also benefit other people. It's just fun to dream sometimes

I've been so miserable trying to chase things up today, I could have cried (I didn't, but I felt like it!) It feels like customer service is a thing of the dim and distant past.

However, I've had friends round for wine and nibbles tonight...I'm much much happier and quite frankly I'm amazed that I can still type in a straight line

During the times when I did many jobs, my children wanted a particular games console. I fell into the habit of saying "when I win the lottery" (only did it if I found a pound whilst tidying up) or "If mummy gets another job". Then realising another ten pounds wasn't going to cut it, I amended it to "If mummy gets another three jobs". Then one week I came within a whisker of getting those three jobs (it was always either famine or feast - just enough to keep going or apply for several and then when one came good, an earlier one would come through after you had given up on it).

ellie99 wrote: »

JKS your children sound lovely. They behaved beautifully to their grandmother even when she was behaving badly.

I'm sorry I have nothing helpful to say re the bedroom chaos, but she will grow out of it! My DS2 had a bedroom like you describe, but now he has his own house and he keeps it much nicer.

It's just a long time to wait when you want it tidied now!

Second the point about lovely children.

I'm still living with bedroom chaos and DS3 is 25 next week but he has always been the same. I find it easier to wait until he is out and muck out as much as possible. He brings the plates and bowls back when all 'his' ones are gone from the cupboard and is getting better about rounding up the rubbish when it's bin day. How often the sheets should be changed is still a battleground (he would sleep without sheets, pillowcases or duvet covers if I let him, taken years to get him that far).

However sometimes it is worse if they do tidy. When DS2 was at university I offered to swap bedrooms, giving him the larger one. Although he was only home at weekends and holidays he had far more stuff than me and one of the lads he shared a house with was Spanish so we stored some of his bedding etc rather than him take it away and bring it back each year.

I offered the swap after falling over the stuff in the hall (that hadn't made it upstairs) once too often. It was hard enough bringing my things out of the front room each evening, simultaneously turning the light off and shutting the door, whilst using my foot to make sure the cat didn't go back in the room and get trapped, without then falling backwards over a pile of weights (the kind that go on a lifting bar) or a box spilling cds and dvds.

He accepted my swap, refused my offer of help. The room I gave him had fitted wardrobes and a set of three wardrobes on the other side with room for a double bed in the middle. When I went to bed I found he had re-located the three spare wardrobes in my 'new' smaller room. There was room to part open the door, squeeze round it and edge myself up onto the only accessible corner of the bed. Took me at least two weeks of shifting things a few inches one way, a little at a time, before I could actually move round the room (wardrobes needed to dip under the doorframe, which was set at an angle, so I couldn't get them back out of the room).

DS1 and DS2 (both moved out now) are fairly good at tidying and cleaning although DS2 still veers towards the "landlord's coming round and we will lose our deposit/ do it all once a month" school. DS3 is still a work in progress but it's very slow.

Byatt

Need2bthhrifty, I tried the cauliflower rice from frozen, made egg cauli rice and it was lovely. Just broke the rice up and it took very little time.:D

mum2one

Its been a game of two halves here....

first me - I have finally had my smear done, (only 12 years out of date).... had to have it done at the hospital, have a prolaspe... which unfortunalty is cuasing probs, but I'm too young for surgery, if I did have surgery I'd be left incontinet... so its a case of manage, try pelvic floor exercises, and don't get bunged up (its pressing on my bowel wall).

I'm pleased that the smear is done, and while down there I had my coil changed, had the miranda one, it was the best ever, I was flooding for england, this stopped it, although dont need the contreceptive element, the hormones kick in again so no time of the months, and 10 yrs be mid 50s...

This sounds so daft I din't think I would be grateful for having a smear, the consultant said they now check for hpv virus and this determines on how long your call back is, - she thinks I'll need a colosopy as theres an eroded area. Think havng this absess go so wrong, it just gave me the courage to get things sorted...


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The other side of the coin....

DD -
A while ago I was in a dilema about dds friend and what she had said/done, - she's kicked off again.

DD and her haven't been as close since Xmas, although there friends, the friend hasn't been no1, dds extended her circle of friendship...

Earlier week, phonecall from DD can I go swimming after school with x,y,z - (no mention of friend), no probs, as all kids had to go home, they'd agreed to meet at the baths - took DD up, and said ring when ready...

DD was late - when we finally got hold of her, they'd been in the pool for 3 hrs... and friend had turned up later on, - the group split up at end - and dd and friend went for fast food...

We pick DD up, say wheres friend - we can drop her off - get no friends dad - picked her up, she had to go without me being there (strange) from a different location from where they were... thought no more...(maybe he was coming that route in)

Wed - DD - ill, feels sick, headache, crying etc, face bloated, she'd got some bites (insect on her back and legs - infected) - here we go again whats happened, dd off school - then mum tells me DD told her the night of swimming that friend had said her dad hates her (dd) and if he sees her with his daughter or by by herself he's going to beat up DD.


(DD told me this morning - with back and forth with hosp, she didnt want to worry me)
as mum had told me - I thought better let the school know)
So in a panic, rang school - said off sick coz of spots etc - taking her to the docs (took her insect bites, got infected, needed 24hrs rest) they thought it was all a pack of lies, surely dont I think that sounds stupid, (yes, but I do believe DD), - school said they'd speak to the friend, basically dont hold out any hope...

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This morning, DD is a state, really stressed, pale, sick, - your off school we go to the GP, then DD brings me her phone - she'd kept the messages - basically asking the girl if true / what/that your dad going to beat me up/yes its true, he hates you, beat you up if he sees us together or ur out by yourself

Rang the police, (scared stiff, know he's not 100% stable), there sending an officer round at weekend to take a statement off DD and see how far she wants to take it,
then rang school, left voicemail for the person dealing with it, they rang back later afternoon, hadn't had chance to speak to friend, (my guessing they were trying to push it under carpet), but now said have proof, and police involved, there waiting till Mon then we go from there.

Today - take DD back to the GP, she told him everything, - he's diagnosed stress related, pleased that we are dealing with it, but very concerned about how DD going to cope (shes not had the best time with dad, even thou he's in recovery it shook her really up), advised no school tomorrow - he doesn't think shes going to cope.

DDs worried sick were going to blame her, (not) the thing is she hasn't been to the friends home since Dec,bar twice playing out, she hasn't been with friend, she's widen her circle, so going to town always a different friend, - I know that DDs not done anything to cause this.

I've said to DD be one of 3 outcomes

1 - The dad will admit what he has threatened, and police will deal with it accordingly (very much doubt)

2 - The friend says yes dad has threatened this - hut he denies it (heck knows where we go from here)

3. The friend has made it all up (I'm guessing police wont be happy)

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I know DD isn't perfect, but she always been polite to parents, her friends we generally give lifts to whether thats me or dad, the circle she has she goes to friends houses, (get told shes a credit to have), friends mums/dads have given DD a lift.

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Sorry about the essay - just up in the air, I had to go to the police just incase there was any truth in it, if no truth then a 12 yr old shouldn't be doing things like this....

Any suggestions etc, be eternally grateful for xx

Need2bthrifty

Byatt wrote: »

Need2bthhrifty, I tried the cauliflower rice from frozen, made egg cauli rice and it was lovely. Just broke the rice up and it took very little time.:D

Thats good news, only used a third of the cauli last time, having some cauli cheese tonight so will rice and freeze the rest.