OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

Horace

Got up early for once. Cleared the car of snow and ice and drove to Tai Chi because I needed to go to the village afterwards and it is easier to get there by car.

Tai Chi was lovely, the ground was hard so we were on the grass for the first time since November and although the sky was blue we did have some light flurries of snow. Had great fun in class as well. Went to the village afterwards as I wanted to visit the post office, the bank and to have a look in our cheapo shop and I went into the Coop. Came out of Coop with a chicken pie and a loaf of bread. In the cheapo shop I got two plastic containers for dry goods - I will use one for pasta and the other for brown sugar.

Was called into my neighbour's house when I got home to look at their new fridge/freezer, cooker and microwave. I got shooed out when a chap came to quote for a new gas boiler.

moneyistooshorttomention

Yesterday was a bad day. Family problem stuff. From something my mother said it does look rather likely to me that "come the time" my brother gets left more than half of everything. I suppose this is me being "punished" for having moved (even though I had no choice...as I was still in that starter house in my 60s and retired now and it needed selling for a variety of reasons). I could pick my mother up and shake her that she doesn't seem to realise I didn't actually want to leave my home area and seems to think I've done so just to be perverse, not because of my lack of money to sort out my housing situation whilst staying in my expensive home area.

It's not the thought of the money so much (though obviously that matters...as, even at my age, I'm not straight yet), but the favouritism of "Your brother comes first". Maybe there's a bit of old-fashioned thinking going on too of "Men come before women"?? and my father is going along with it (ie the one parent who did want children out of them).

I may be being unduly pessimistic and I hope I am..but I'm mentally geared-up to thinking "Looks like there will be favouritism shown. If there is, then theres no point in fighting it...just ask my brother at the time for things to be put right. If they aren't (and I bet they wont be...) then move on and totally forget I have a brother + his family".

I'd almost rather not know this is such a likely scenario, as I'll be spending months/years/who knows? wondering if I'm right and anticipating being told "...and you come second/not equal". I'd rather go on thinking "things will be fair obviously" and then have a Second Blow of finding out they aren't, shortly after the First Blow of losing my parents.

It is what it is though.

Now how is that prayer phrased again about being able to know which things you can change and which you cant and how to handle the things you cant? If anyone knows the one I mean, I'd like to know the correct words for that - as I guess its got to be my motto hasn't it?

mum2one

A flying visit - the prayer is "the senerity prayer" xx

melodramaticme

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.

moneyistooshorttomention

That's the one I was thinking of. Thank you.

Horace

Hope you are all well and staying warm?

Had a dreadful night's sleep last night to the point where I fell out of bed, I wouldn't mind if I slept on a futon but my bed is quite tall so I had a fall of about 3ft. I was still awake at 5.45am but it was too early to get up and I eventually nodded off. I got up at lunchtime feeling refreshed.

Spent the afternoon completing job applications - some are part done because each question needs up to a 4000 word answer. Did some washing today and spoke to mum on the phone.

Must try and remember to get something out of the freezer for dinner too. Tomorrow I need to go to Tatco to use my free vouchers for soup, cereal and yoghurt. The cereal and soup can go in my pantry.

Mum told me off today for hoarding food just because I keep stuff in that I eat and I have a supply so I don't have to go shopping every week to buy tins of tomatoes etc. I only shop for bread and milk about once a fortnight. I explained that if I have food in then I am not going out spending. Even the AgeUK website suggests that tins of food need to be kept in case a person cannot get out because of bad weather.

Tis late, I need to have my bedtime drink and take my drops.

3forholidays

Horace wrote: »

Mum told me off today for hoarding food just because I keep stuff in that I eat and I have a supply so I don't have to go shopping every week to buy tins of tomatoes etc. I only shop for bread and milk about once a fortnight. I explained that if I have food in then I am not going out spending. Even the AgeUK website suggests that tins of food need to be kept in case a person cannot get out because of bad weather.

Just keep shopping your way, Horace. It works for you and is a very sensible and moneysaving way to live. Nothing worse than having to go out every day.

Horace

Today was jobcentre day, sigh but I drove there and was told that next Tuesday I have to be in the city centre for 9am to attend a place that will find me some community work and that they would pay my bus fare. Showed my job applications too - I think the advisor was surprised. I asked for some bus fare to get to town but was told that as I had been sent to this provider then they would have to pay - good job I have enough money for the bus fare otherwise I would have to walk and it is a bit too far.

Drove to Tatco and used 2 of my vouchers - discovering that the yoghurt ones would not work against those that I had picked but they just didn't have the variety I wanted because the store doesn't sell them.:mad: I came home with a box of cereal and 2 tins of fine soup. I managed to buy 2 punnets of cherries which had been reduced, a litre of milk, some butter, some cheap orange juice made from concentrate, a cake and a bunch of daffs (I felt that I deserved a treat).

Was quite poorly after lunch, my other chums think that I have The Lurgy because my stomach has been quite painful and I had to dash to the throne room a few times. I spent some time sleeping on the sofa in front of a programme that I had recorded.

Been pondering this old chum of mine who has suddenly remembered that I am alive, she keeps pushing to meet up and she phoned me yesterday but I cut her off so now I keep getting text messages. All of a sudden she is worried about me so I sent a message saying that I was ok just very busy. I don't want to meet up or have contact with her because after she got married I was dropped like a hot potato and she made no attempt to contact me nor did she return my calls when I rang her so I gave up in the end. I am hoping she gets the message because I will always be too busy. I have moved on - she should do the same.

Hope you all have a fab weekend and stay warm.

mum2one

Horace - Hope your feeling better, I have to agree with you over the food storage, we try to keep a couple of weeks worth of tins and a good mix in the freezer, theres 4 of us, but it makes sense, as you say if you can't get out, you have the stuff there.

Not to bad here, had parents evening, pleased it went ok, a couple of issues were raised regarding the "friend" they fall in and out, I just give up.

Been toddling around, seems to be nothing really getting done, but nothing getting missed, whether its the weather or time of the yr, I dont know. xx

BookWorm

Just popping in to say hi :wave: Hope everyone is doing ok

BW