help with brotherinlaw

Pollycat

lovemyinlaws wrote: »

He was living with a friend of his.
I can guarantee 100% that she did not leave a will, my BIL took the money out of her account to pay for the funeral and told my OH he would let him have 1/2 of what was left which would have been about 10k each, so 5k each.
I dont know whether OH is so upset because he knows what has happened but he is the only brother he has left and both his parents are now gone

I assume the house was privately rented.
If it was a council house I doubt that he would have been allowed to just move in.

I think you should have asked your OH what he knew about the money & jewellery 5 years ago shortly after his Mum died.

I really, really can't understand why your husband appears to be so uninterested about what has happened to the money & jewellery his Mum had.

I reiterate - I'm sure there's a lot more to this than you are letting on here or are aware of.

lovemyinlaws

There is nothing more to it, both I and he have asked about 10 times over the years and have basically been ignored.
But i think i have let it get to me and he just isnt bothered - which is what is really winding me up.

GobbledyGook

Maybe he just decided that he'd rather have the relationship he has with his brother than a few trinkets?

lovemyinlaws

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Maybe he just decided that he'd rather have the relationship he has with his brother than a few trinkets?

I think you are right there, but it is so annoying for the girls

GobbledyGook

lovemyinlaws wrote: »

I think you are right there, but it is so annoying for the girls

How old are they? Are they as bothered by it as you are?

I really think you need to speak to your husband and try and sort the situation once and for all. Their parents ignoring each other for 2 weeks is going to be far more detrimental to them than not getting jewellery (which if there was no will they have no legal entitlement too anyway).

Pollycat

lovemyinlaws wrote: »

There is nothing more to it, both I and he have asked about 10 times over the years and have basically been ignored.
But i think i have let it get to me and he just isnt bothered - which is what is really winding me up.

Then this applies:

Pollycat wrote: »

Maybe your OH really doesn't think anything is wrong and that's why he's so angry that you called his brother a thief and why he was happy to sit drinking with his brother.

Maybe you should respect your OH's opinion, forget about the jewellery & money and stop letting it wind you up.

lovemyinlaws

Pollycat wrote: »

Then this applies:


Maybe you should respect your OH's opinion, forget about the jewellery & money and stop letting it wind you up.

Thanks and i know you are right but it is so unfair

System

Your husband is a weak man and his inheritance I hate to say, is nothing to do with you.

Yes its unfair but theres not going to much gained from arguing with your husband over it.

clarryd

Could i be the BIL has sold the jewellery and doesn't want you to know about it.

Just a thought.

I agree with you this would drive me crazy, my DH is exactly the same doesn't seem to bother about these kind of things. Hang in there it will all sort it self out.

FBaby

How close were you and daughters were to mother in law? I'm wondering in case you were not that OH brother has said something to your husband along the line that he doesn't see why you should have it since toy were not closed whereas maybe someone else was and got the jewelry and your hubby is pretending that he has asked many times hoping you'll drop the subject because deep inside he agrees with brother but doesn't wasn't a confrontation. Just a possible suggestion.