What to if no reply to wedding invitation

oliveoil99

Person_one wrote: »

Blimey, that's a bit of a glass half empty attitude, especially considering most people retire in their sixties! :rotfl:[/QUOTEoO
Only meant as irony as a pensioner myself.

Person_one

Oh well, clearly there's no problem then! :rotfl:

oliveoil99

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Oh get real woman....it's 6 months off yet. Talk about being an anal control freak.

I shall put that quote in my wedding speech but miss out the 'anal' and put botty.

twigpig

I wouldn't expect to have to reply to a July invite now. Some people are asking for rsvp's earlier and earlier and then stress when people drop out. 3 months really is far too much.

Ideally, people should let you know 4 weeks before the date (6 at the absolute most in my opinion), and even then some people might be a 'maybe' until a week or two before depending on personal circumstance.

I know that the venue needs to organise food etc, so giving them an approx number is fine and then firming up the numbers closer to the time.

If the venue is difficult, aim for a cautious number so you won't end up being charge for heads you don't need - If you need to increase the number, they'll happily accommodate and take your money

twigpig

oliveoil99 wrote: »

70 out of the 80 guests have replied some saying thanks for giving good notice as they would of been booking holidays around that time.

Absolutely agree that it was best to send the invites early for a summer wedding, even if the rsvp would be as late as May/June this year. 70 of 80 replies is also pretty good going to be honest......

missty25

70 out of 80 replies is pretty good. There will always be a small number of people that won't reply sadly. Perhaps wait til nearer the time and chase up the others?

claire16c

oliveoil99 wrote: »

70 out of the 80 guests have replied some saying thanks for giving good notice as they would of been booking holidays around that time.

That's what Save the dates are for!

Then you send out the invites nearer the time.

I don't get what the point of your post is then if most people have replied?

Pollycat

oliveoil99 wrote: »

70 out of the 80 guests have replied some saying thanks for giving good notice as they would of been booking holidays around that time.

So you've already had a 87% success rate on the number of invitations you've sent out for a wedding that's still 6 or 7 months away when you didn't give them a date to reply by.

I think that's pretty impressive, TBH.

When do you need to confirm numbers to the venue?

I wouldn't assume that the people who haven't replied are not coming.
I would start ringing them (it's only 10 people/couples) for their answers a couple of weeks before your venue deadline.

If you don't have phone numbers, I'd write again to them a month before your venue deadline.

I wouldn't want people turning up when there is no food/place for them.

Morglin

oliveoil99 wrote: »

No there was no date to reply by never thought of that. As the wedding is a Saturday she thought it would give people plenty of time to get that day off, also some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

Blimey - you sound like my old 86 year old Dad.....:rotfl:

If we invite him anywhere, even a week in advance, he says "I might not be here by then, so I'll let you know the day before....:T

On the other side of it, DH and I are retired, and we never realised when we get wedding invites that the bride and her mum are chewing their nails and worrying about our possible early demise mucking up the catering numbers......:eek::eek::rotfl:

Lin;)

ska_lover

Hi OP,

I know it is frustrating, but perhaps chasing them up, nearer the time is the answer. 6 months in front is ages, and most people to be fair, probably haven't really given it much thought yet

I can understand your frustration to a point, as we sent our invites out with 9 weeks to go, and we finally got all our responses a fortnight before . Only at that point could we finalise things with caterers, the coach we had booked, the personalised wedding favours we had ordered, amongst many other things that depending on having definite numbers. It caused quite a lot of last minute stress

I know these things do have to be thought of well in advance, if you are doing favours for guests, providing transport, all things that you need to know exact numbers for

These things are often better thought of in hindsight though, as most of us only ever plan one wedding, but I would definitely suggest not doing personalised wedding favours. Or any favours at all to be honest..more of a pain than they are worth

We totally enjoyed preparing for our wedding for the most part, but found people being slow in responding caused us a bit of stress- as there is a lot you cannot do until you know your numbers. Give people a deadline for say a month before, and try and relax for now though hun, you have ages yet x