What to if no reply to wedding invitation

oliveoil99

My daughter gets married July this year she sent out the invitations a couple of months ago now and has still not heard back from some people if they will be attending. Does she chase them up or assume they are not coming? What have other done in this situation am sure it's not unique. As there is a wedding breakfast she needs to know numbers etc. What is wrong with people it's just a simple yes of no if they don't want to attend she doesn't need reasons just a I will/will not be attending.

Torry_Quine

Did they have a specific date to RSVP by? I ask because I probably wouldn't reply this early to a wedding invite as my husband works shifts as wouldn't know what his shifts are yet.

Scrapaholic

Usually the venue might need to know final numbers a few weeks before the day . Did she put a date for the RSVP ? It's still January . Is it not too early to worry about July ?

Laurajo_2

Oh Crikey, if it's not til July I wouldn't be surprised if you haven't received them all back yet.

Did she put a date to RSVP by? If so, wait til this has passed and send a friendly note asking if they are coming.

ETA in my experience, it's pretty common for the RSVP date to be a month to six weeks before he wedding, so I'd start worrying in May or June time. Tbh, I wouldn't be able to know if I was able to attend (due to ohs shifts and holiday rules) until the start of his firms holiday year....I should imagine there are some people won't know if they are able to book time off (if needed) until after April, so don't want to commit until they know they can make it.

tea_lover

She sent them a couple of months ago for a July 2014 wedding?? No wonder people haven't replied yet!

Person_one

Have to agree, she can't really expect people to commit more than 6 months ahead! A lot could happen between now and then.

Most people send out save the date cards about 6-9 months before, and the actual wedding invitations only about 6-8 weeks before, in my experience.

meritaten

fgs! invitations should be sent out about two months before the actual wedding - six months before is for the 'Save this date' notifications! you really cannot expect people to reply in the affirmative or negative this early!
besides which, the venue or caterers should only need a 'ball park' figure at this stage. final confirmation should be about a month before the wedding for caterers and only a little earlier for the venue!
I don't know what to suggest - I have never known anyone who sent out invitations so early...............but if someone had invited ME and was chasing me up SEVEN months before their wedding my reply would be 'How the hell do I know if I can come?' I would find it annoying to be honest.

oliveoil99

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Did they have a specific date to RSVP by? I ask because I probably wouldn't reply this early to a wedding invite as my husband works shifts as wouldn't know what his shifts are yet.

No there was no date to reply by never thought of that. As the wedding is a Saturday she thought it would give people plenty of time to get that day off, also some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

Person_one

oliveoil99 wrote: »

No there was no date to reply by never thought of that. As the wedding is a Saturday she thought it would give people plenty of time to get that day off, also some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

Blimey, that's a bit of a glass half empty attitude, especially considering most people retire in their sixties! :rotfl:

**professor~yaffle**

I received a save-the-date email for a friend's wedding about three months ago (the wedding's in May) but I can't find it now.. I'm hoping the proper invites will be sent out so I can RSVP.

balletshoes

if theres no date for RSVP on the invitation, and its an actual invitation instead of a "save the date", I wouldn't reply until around 6 weeks before the date of the wedding (and I might not reply at all if I thought it was just a "save the date", I'd wait for an actual invitation if you see what I mean).