What to if no reply to wedding invitation

Torry_Quine

oliveoil99 wrote: »

No there was no date to reply by never thought of that. As the wedding is a Saturday she thought it would give people plenty of time to get that day off, also some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

Then why would people know to reply so early!

meritaten

oliveoil99 wrote: »

No there was no date to reply by never thought of that. As the wedding is a Saturday she thought it would give people plenty of time to get that day off, also some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:is this a wind up?
oh that's cracked me up! sorry! weird sense of humour here!

Laurajo_2

meritaten wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:is this a wind up?
oh that's cracked me up! sorry! weird sense of humour here!

It made me chuckle too...

DHs gran made a point of saying 'I don't know if I'll make it til then...' In the weeks leading up to the wedding. Although, she is 93, however she's been saying 'well, this is the last Xmas I'll ever see' at every christmas dinner for the past twenty years!

Wilma33

oliveoil99 wrote: »

some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

:eek: :eek: Are you serious??

globetraveller

I think they might not have realised that they were actual invitations and not "save the date" ones. is the wedding abroad?

sassyblue

oliveoil99 wrote: »

also some who have not replied are retired maybe they think they may not be still here and don't want to reply to early. :-(

I'd have thought any potential death would have excused them anyway.....

jackyann

I think it a great honour to be invited to a wedding and that people should reply in a timely manner - though exactly what is timely in this case is probably what the problem is!
I agree that it was way too early for the "real invitations" & I imagine that a lot of people were thinking "oh I don't need to think about that until after Xmas" and then may even have mislaid the invite!
I also think that a date for RSVP is helpful.

However, moving on, this is what I would do:

Find out the date by which you need numbers.
Make a spread sheet & mark your "definites"
Share out the "indefinites" between the close family - some members are quite likely to be in touch with them in the next few months, or can agree to contact "I was really pleased to get Jemima's invite, are you going?"
About 6 weeks before your cut-off, make formal contact with the remainder - shouldn't be too many by then.

meritaten

olive - I know all the magazines and advice columns etc say to plan ahead - but this is a bit too early to be sending the actual invitations. at this stage (around now) it should be sending notifications in the form of 'please save this date as we are getting married and would love you to be there' cards'. then you can cross people off who booked holidays etc. and maybe add those on the 'reserve' list?
the correct form is to send out the actual invitations about two months before the wedding. give them an RSVP in the form of a tear off form or separate card if you want to be posh, and a stamped addressed envelope. if you haven't received all replies a month before the wedding you chase them up. by phone or in person or email! you go by the caterers/venue cut off date for 'final numbers'. which in my experience is about a month or three weeks before the wedding.

paulineb_2

Laurajo wrote: »

It made me chuckle too...

DHs gran made a point of saying 'I don't know if I'll make it til then...' In the weeks leading up to the wedding. Although, she is 93, however she's been saying 'well, this is the last Xmas I'll ever see' at every christmas dinner for the past twenty years!

My gran always used to say, if Im spared, she was brought up in a very religious household and even though in later life didnt much bother with religion, she'd still say that now and again, she died when she was 86. Just something I imagine my great gran probably said all the time when she got older as well.

I was out with my mum today and she was talking about changes to teachers pensions and said something like, I'll use money for this when I retire (pulled face and said if I make it that long)

Shes a very fit 64 and still works full time. She makes me laugh, Ive been saying for the last few years, you are turning into gran.

AcidHouse

oliveoil99 wrote: »

What is wrong with people it's just a simple yes of no if they don't want to attend she doesn't need reasons just a I will/will not be attending.

There's nothing wrong with people, but there is something wrong with sending invites out for something like this 9 months in advance and expecting a yay or nay...

She's simply sent them out far too early, without a response date, and created herself a load of stress & extra work off the back of it. She'll just have to chase up anyone who doesn't confirm.