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The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13
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Glad that my interpetation was wide of the mark Ellsbel. It's a live issue for a lot of people, and the way you phrased it rang alarm bells for me, but I'm glad that's not the case.ElusiveLucy wrote: »My March total will be 18/20. Disappointed in myself, but it was the first month of the challenge for me so I will try again next month.
I am on hols in May so I will not be having many AFDs at all, so I had better do well in April.
Elusive Lucy, 18 is quite something. Honestly. You should be really, really chuffed with yourself for achieving such a great number. Don't be too hard on yourself - it takes quite a bit of self-discipline to change habits and the longer you hang around on the thread the easier it'll be to make your target.9/12 please Shaggy. I've pretty much partied this month away. Must try harder, especially as I'd some bad news regarding my health, and the drinking won't help anything.
Sorry to hear that, New Me. *Healing and coping vibes* heading your way.
Somewhere on the threads I read I've seen a signature that says something like, 'If you lend a friend a fiver and they never pay it back you probably got off lightly.' The whole question of booze and friendship seems to be just as loaded as lending money to a 'friend.' If it turns out they were just drinking buddies, that that was the only real thing we had in common, then fine. It was fun while it lasted, it's over and it's time to move on. I say that as though it sounds as if I don't mind, but I do. A lot. It's the booze that's stealing the friendship.
As the person who decided that ending up aggressive, injured and finally comatose after a night out isn't that much fun or attractive or any more, I was ready to walk away from booze because I had to. In my case there was only one choice - the booze or the central relationship in my life. I couldn't have both.
No-one else matters that much to me, no matter how close I thought we were.
1/30 please, Shaggy.Better is good enough.0 -
Good Morning Everyone, finished with another AFD for me last night, so 26AFD for the month. This is incredible for me, I've set my target for at 20 for April.
Re OHs Ellsbel, I've mentioned before about the issues I'm having with mine, I've cut back and he hasn't. I hope things improve, but at the moment I find myself sitting in a different room from him most evenings (his choice) so he can drink the night away without me. Now I'm no relationship expert, but even I know this isn't good. For the first time in 22 years I don't know what to say or do. I'm going to leave it there for now.
Arkers x0 -
Morning all - glorious spring morning - 1/15 for me please Shaggy.
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Morning :hello:
1 more AFD for yesterday.
Have a happy one.
ShaggyxWhat do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0 -
Yippee! I've done it! 31/31 for me! And I've lost 2lbs in weight too.
Very happy indeed
What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0 -
Honey_Bear wrote: »Somewhere on the threads I read I've seen a signature that says something like, 'If you lend a friend a fiver and they never pay it back you probably got off lightly.' The whole question of booze and friendship seems to be just as loaded as lending money to a 'friend.' If it turns out they were just drinking buddies, that that was the only real thing we had in common, then fine. It was fun while it lasted, it's over and it's time to move on. I say that as though it sounds as if I don't mind, but I do. A lot. It's the booze that's stealing the friendship.
As the person who decided that ending up aggressive, injured and finally comatose after a night out isn't that much fun or attractive or any more, I was ready to walk away from booze because I had to. In my case there was only one choice - the booze or the central relationship in my life. I couldn't have both.
No-one else matters that much to me, no matter how close I thought we were.
Top post. As always.What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0 -
March:
= 7 Days AF
= 14 days AF
= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF
= 31 days AF
= target achieved
Alcohol Free Days
Arkers 26/15
Barny1979 26/26
CathyBird 16/15
CountingPenniesClaire 18/21
CuppaTea 12/19
DebJay 22/22
DizzyImp 30/31
Effyb4 /14
Ellsbel 25/31
ElusiveLucy 18/20
Gabriel 30/30
Gien 14/15
Honey Bear 31/31
Mackeroo 10/10
Maggie 2/13
Maman 11/10
Muser /22
NewMe 9/12
Piggles 10/10
Pricey 20/20
Satchmo 27/27
SandyPan 21/21
Shaggy 19/17
SmallHoldingSister 8/21
Smiley_77 31/31
StuPotStu 18/31
WBF 7/14
Yellowmonkey 4/10
Alcohol Low Days
CountingPennieClaire 19/25
Debjay 24/TF
Shaggy 25/22
Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....
Please highlight your AFDs in Red
Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0 -
April:
= 7 Days AF
= 14 days AF
= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF= 30 days AF = target achieved
Alcohol Free Days
Arkers /20
Barny1979 /24
CathyBird 1 /15
CountingPenniesClaire
CuppaTea /17
Dansmam /20
DebJay /20
DizzyImp /30
Doshwaster /22
Effyb4
Ellsbel 1/20
ElusiveLucy /20
Gabriel
Gien /16
Honey Bear 1/30
Mackeroo /10
Maggie
Maman /10
Muser
NewMe /20
Piggles /12
Pricey /20
Satchmo /25
SandyPan /15
Shaggy /17
SmallHoldingSister
Smiley_77 /30
StuPotStu
WBF /14
Yellowmonkey
Alcohol Low Days
CountingPennieClaire
Debjay
Doshwaster /30
Shaggy /22
Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....
Please highlight your AFDs in Red
Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0 -
Roll up, Roll up. A New Month, A New Challenge.
SET YOUR
30 days up for grabs!
Everyone Welcome!!!What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.0 -
:T to all the AFDs rolling in. You've done so well and, if anything like me, every single one is one more than you might have had without the thread.:AGood Morning Everyone, finished with another AFD for me last night, so 26AFD for the month. This is incredible for me, I've set my target for at 20 for April.
Re OHs Ellsbel, I've mentioned before about the issues I'm having with mine, I've cut back and he hasn't. I hope things improve, but at the moment I find myself sitting in a different room from him most evenings (his choice) so he can drink the night away without me. Now I'm no relationship expert, but even I know this isn't good. For the first time in 22 years I don't know what to say or do. I'm going to leave it there for now.
Arkers x
Sad to hear that arkers. I'm sure that friends and family who encourage us to drink feel a bit judged/threatened. My DH occasionally says 'you're being very good' when I refuse a drink but he's not really being very judgemental, I think he means it. Once I've made up my mind to have an AF evening I can now cope easily with him drinking in front of me although it was difficult to start with. He sometimes says he's going to cut back but it rarely lasts long. To be fair he doesn't drink as much as I used to and he's happy to be designated driver when we're out so I'm not really worried about him.
Incidentally, we spend the evenings mostly in separate rooms but that's because I'm happy with junk telly and he's not!!:rotfl:0
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