The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

Wanna_Bee_Free

Well done Alex! I am so pleased for you - your posts were always really interesting to me to read and it's great to see how well you're doing with this shinynew month.

Gien, I've learnt something today - I thought you were using an exotic form of Gene, like French or something. ~Sorry! Do you make pottery as well as being a connoisseur?

Right, really off to bed now!

Doshwaster

8/16 for me. Bang on target.

Nearly found myself pouring a drink tonight but I resisted.

ManPants

10/22 AF for me!

Could have easily had a massive glass of wine tonight. OH and I not getting on very well I'm afraid which culminated in an argument this afternoon and i asked him to stay away.

Unfortunately, he is no more able to change some of his hideous family personality traits than i am able to disregard them. The men in his family are ALWAYS right about everything whether they are or not and after almost 10 years of this something just cracked in my head this year. Whilst he recognises that his family are like this he seems to think it is okay and even says "It's what my Fathers like". I spend my life being criticised from menial things (the way I chop an onion to give an example) to larger things. He fails to see anything as being any fault of his and immediately tries to aportion all blame onto me whether it is my fault or not.

When we met he was a tonne of fun and we have had a great many happy happy years. Over the last 2 years he has become more and more righteous and cantankerous!

I know this has nothing to do with AF per se but somehow I have found this easier than mentioning anything to our friends until I know what I'm doing.

Thanks for listening!

SPS - a sad one! X

maman

Glad to listen stupotsu.

I think you've done amazingly well to stay AF tonight.:A


What you've said resonates with many of the comments on here in the last couple of days. So many of us have been drinking too much to mask some underlying problem which is still there.


I think you've taken a brave step to start tackling it. Sounds as if your OH hadn't even accepted there's an issue.


Take care and keep posting.

satchmo1

Hugs, Stupotstu, sorry to hear your patience has been stretched to its limits.


I know I struggle with the fact that my DH won't socialise, and hates people coming to the house. My ex-DH was very sociable and loved people visiting. I loved hosting.


Bee, my username is reference to my love of Louis Armstrong and the sound of saxophones. Louis's nickname (Satchmo) was a reference to his very big mouth - satchel mouth.

sukeyboo

Hugs to you stupotstu - I am amazed you managed to stay AF last night with all that going on but as maman says I think we are all learning that alcohol just masks the problems instead of helping.

satchmo your DH sounds just like my OH - he hates being in big (or even small) groups of people and it can be difficult

I managed my AF last night so I get my first smilie making 7/12 for me please shaggy

Green_Karen

No more AF to report, have been on a 'use all your allowance for Feb in a week' mode

Also 'did a fruball' the other day and declared an early AF and then succumbed, excuse being meeting friends for a meal then all winds and accidents closed all motorways around Manchester and we ended up being two hours late.

Alex - am in awe of your determination and will power - keep going!

SPS - really sorry you're having a rough time, had an awful time with my OH over Xmas being grumpy and distant, thought we were coming to the end after 11 years, but he has rallied, still don't know what it was. Relationships, jobs etc all the same, just deciding on a day to day basis if the pros outweigh the cons.....good luck with whatever you decide.

WBF - boring name really, I am just a mad environmentalist!

gien

I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time Stupot - it sounds really wearing being with someone who is 'always right' and critical. I think it would just crush me.

I have realised that I have only one more drinking day this month if I want to hit my target. Previously I would have adjusted the target to fit my desire to drink, but this month I've jus thought ahead and decided which night I'm going to drink and I will stick with that.

I've also been saying to people (in a jokey manner) that I'm renegotiating my relationship with alcohol and that me and Mr White Wine won't be seeing so much of one another - it's hit a chord with quite a few people I know!!

All little steps in the right direction

System

Im hungover this morning :mad: not just hungover but very hungover :mad: Self-destruct button!!!

I read your post SPS and I feel really ashamed I was really struggling last night at the thoughts of going home to my house on my own so I didn't One of my drinking friends was available and I succumbed to her invite to the pub - I wish I had the strength to resist like you did SPS. :T What I did learn out of it was I escape with drink :eek: I know that sounds silly and is probably so, so obvious to everyone but after reading all the other posts that made me think - what exactly are the root causes of my need to guzzle wine verses am I addicted?? :mad:

Last night/this morning has given me a wake up call and I have had to give myself a shake - lots of thoughts swirling around there

It is nice to share on here

Hey Shaggy - still on 6/21

** Let's get this show on the road **

Greytcatlady

No AFDs to report yet today, although I'm pretty sure I'll be AF tonight since I did have my red wine with dinner last night. A bit went in dinner too so not quite a half bottle. Definitely didn't want anything after the wine had finished and we had got quite used to having a beer or spirits, so that's good.

My name, I'm not quite the mad old grey haired surrounded by cats type yet. But I do have cats and a greyhound and I'm not a bloke. There is a 't' in the name because greyhounds are 'greyt', see what I did there.

Hope to be back later to claim an AFD.