The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

maman

satchmo1 wrote: »

13/24 AFDs tonight, even though I'd planned to have a couple of glasses of wine. However, a painful exam at doctors has sent me to bed with a hot water bottle.

Ouch! and more ouch!


Hope the GP is able to help. How long before you move house?


Delighted to report that although I had wine with supper, I found Shaggy's stop button and switched to tea mid evening.

Fruball

gien wrote: »

Well done Alex!

Fruball and 5YP, I hope you don't mind me saying, but it seems that drinking is filling in for 'being on your own', you are using alcohol to avoid being sober, alone, with your thoughts and ideas.
If this might be the case (and PLEASE forgive me if I am being too invasive, or just plain wrong) I really empathise. I think it takes a lot of work to realise and work out what a sober life looks like - I'm only just starting along that road and it is hard!

tonight I have had my last drinking night for the month and I must say that I feel a bit bereft - 'awwww no more booze for two weeks, it's not fair', Yet I didn't feel this in January when I was in the middle of a sober month. I didn't even question it. I need to reflect on this.

Not too invasive or wrong - in fact you are absolutely right and I don't really know what a single sober life is, having not done it for many years :eek: I have been single for 2+ years (gladly so!) but have been drinking all that time :eek: When I was not single, I still drank but not as often or as much as I do now

Thanks for drawing attention to that bit. It is definitely something that I need to think about and I need something to replace the drinking habit..... Any suggestions most welcome

graemecarter

Fruball wrote: »

Not too invasive or wrong - in fact you are absolutely right and I don't really know what a single sober life is, having not done it for many years :eek: I have been single for 2+ years (gladly so!) but have been drinking all that time :eek: When I was not single, I still drank but not as often or as much as I do now

Thanks for drawing attention to that bit. It is definitely something that I need to think about and I need something to replace the drinking habit..... Any suggestions most welcome

I have had to learn to live with my thoughts/feelings, and try not to replace alcohol with something else.

Why was I uncomfortable with just being me? I don't know, but I describe myself as "four pints from normal" i.e. after a few drinks I felt all was alright with the world and with me, but without those drinks, something wasn't quite right.

IMO, this shows me I have a problem with me, and not alcohol. It's the sober me that picks up the first drink because I'm bored, happy, unhappy, angry, lonely, indifferent.

Have good weekends people.

Barny1979

Calling early today, 13/24 AFDs today

afoolwithmoney

15/26 please
OH has met up with his old drinking partner this wkend & Im dreading it. Ive nothing against them having a few but I am worried about them falling back into old ways (24hr drinking in his flat not eating paranoia etc) If I say anything I know I will just get laughed at but our relationship wont survive it this time

ManPants

AF last night and will be again tonight taking me to 12/22 AF for Feb so far!


Thank you all for your words of encouragement and support.


SPS X

gien

I too am looking for things to replace the habit. I have found myself going to bed really early a few times, just to end the evening!

I have tried to focus on doing things with my family (we just played a board game tonight), getting some work or chores done but I have found it difficult, I have to be honest.

This past week I have had a couple of drinking nights and the desire to have a glass of wine which almost disappeared during January's dryathalon has come back with a vengeance - it'd quite alarming actually and it's making me feel quite uncomfortable.

Oh and I'm on 11/24 tonight.

jess_the_cat

Hi all just a check in i have been awol since mid jan to now i hope to get a target together for march . i am doing ok haveing 2 afd a week . good luck all

satchmo1

Had one of February's planned drinking evenings, but the wine DH bought was vile. What a waste, to miss reaching my next smiley for something so enamel rotting.

Greytcatlady

8/TF as of today please.

Identifying with the wish to drink even though I found it relatively easy to stay completely dry in Jan. Gien's comment.

Maybe it's because we didn't give ourselves a choice in Jan combined with the support from here made it easier to resist. We still have the support but giving ourselves permission to drink has made it more complicated. We now have to go through the decision making process of 'shall I shan't I tonight' and it's just not as easy as 'as decided not to (in Jan) so I won't '.

I do understand that for some it's not as easy as 'just making the decision', so I'm not really aiming the above at those people. This is going to sound all wrong in a minute, so I hope everyone knows what I mean.